View Full Version : How do you get out of the friend zone?
Evermore
January 11th, 2010, 03:39 PM
I have been crushing on my best friend ever since I cam back from oregan. We've been best friends since we were seven but we've never dated. We've hugged and given little cheek kisses but she still views me more as a friend then anything else. I meet her in the morning before school, walk with her in the halls, and we have all the same classes. We live near each other and walk to each other's houses all the time. I'm comfortable enough at her house that I can walk in, eat a bowl of cereal, pet her dogs, watch a movie and walk out while she's not even there. I've started to really really like her and I live for the moment when she smiles but I'm trapped in this friends zone. We always have people ask if we're together and she always says no we're JUST friends. I hate being JUST friends. I want more how do I getmore with out ruining our friendship or being disrespectful?
ILOVEYOU
January 11th, 2010, 03:46 PM
well i think you should change the way you look at her, from now on Smile, sometimes look at her lips while she's talking, and smile. and you should start flirting with her, Low. and try to act like its all some jokes at the First, then change the way you do stuff to a serious way, then you will find out that she is now saying some private stuffs with you, it means she trusts you now, then you can just hold her and ask her out, but be prepared to hear "aww.. you're kidding, right?"..
well, does she talk about her love life to you? like?
Evermore
January 11th, 2010, 03:51 PM
well i think you should change the way you look at her, from now on Smile, sometimes look at her lips while she's talking, and smile. and you should start flirting with her, Low. and try to act like its all some jokes at the First, then change the way you do stuff to a serious way, then you will find out that she is now saying some private stuffs with you, it means she trusts you now, then you can just hold her and ask her out, but be prepared to hear "aww.. you're kidding, right?"..
well, does she talk about her love life to you? like?
She does talk about her love life to me. All the time. It kills me. She's single now but I'm afraid that someone else will take her it happens so fast everytime she says she's being single from now on Igive her some time and then she's dating someone else. She's too popular.:mad:
I'll try your advice out though.
ILOVEYOU
January 11th, 2010, 03:57 PM
oh so if she's too popular and you may lose her soon, you can do another thing, ask her to come to movies with ya, only you and her!. i would prefer a Horror/Romance/Comedy movie to watch with girls, in horror movie you can hold her tight when the movie is at its hard scenes, and whisper in her ear "would you go out with me?".. hehe, or in a romance movie.. well it will all get sorted out by itself. and in a comedy movie, you can laugh and sometimes put your head on her shoulder (like you've laughed a lot), and then ask the question. Cinema is the best place to ask someone out.. haha. dont miss it ;)
good luck mate
Evermore
January 11th, 2010, 06:21 PM
I would say comedy. Cause i'm more of a wimp then her with horror and asking her to see a romance movie might be weird. We've seen comedies before though.
ILOVEYOU
January 12th, 2010, 05:41 AM
Yeah! right, so Go for it ;)
Amyxoxo
January 12th, 2010, 11:51 AM
Are you sure you want to break what sound like an amazing friendship?
Think about it, if something goes wrong with you too then you may loose it but it depends if your willing enough to do so.
First of all just tell her how you feel or tell her how you feel about someone (her) and tell her that its bugging you. Then keep dropping hints that it is her that you were talking about : ) xx
Art_dude
January 12th, 2010, 02:45 PM
Are you sure you want to break what sound like an amazing friendship?
Think about it, if something goes wrong with you too then you may loose it but it depends if your willing enough to do so.
First of all just tell her how you feel or tell her how you feel about someone (her) and tell her that its bugging you. Then keep dropping hints that it is her that you were talking about : ) xx
It sounds like they're in such a solid friendship as it is, that if being in a romantic relationship didn't work, they would both be mature about it and still have their friendship at the end of it all. However I agree, it is still a risk to take. I have nothing to add to the wonderful advice given. Follow their tips on flirting and dropping hints and see where it goes. Good luck!
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