advise for a first time self harmer???

[reaper0694]

hey my name is duncan i only started harming on saturday when i came home from afghanistan i went into a blind rage and i slashed my fore arm and my legs i dont no why i did it so if any one has any advise on what to do or who to talk to get in touch please

Please don't post full names publicly, thanks.

~ .Tuxedo Mask.

[Amyxoxo]

Um ... Please dont do it again. You should be thankful that you have gone through such an ordeal think of the brave men and women that havnt made it. Everyone wants you to stay strong. As i said there are many ways of distracting yourself please dont start :) xx

[reaper0694]

thanks but i cant stop myself

[Cloud]

We cant help you if you arent willing to be helped
just asking for help doesnt mean you can be saved
it jsut gives you the oppurtunity for help
its up to you whether or not you accept it
This Announcement found at the top of the Cutting and Self Harming page offers possible methods to distract yourself from self harming (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/announcement.php?f=16&a=52)

[BeautifulDisaster]

You can stop before it gets out of control.
I started when I was 7, & I'm 17 now.
I'll always struggle with self harming, even if I stop, the urges & temptations will forever be inside me.
The scars will always be there, & a reminder of it, & at times, do trigger me to do it again.
& the memories will always be there too, same as above.
I could relapse at any stage in recovery from self harm.
It's something that has caused so much chaos in my life, & at times, has become life threatening.
Please stop.
You don't want to do this, & you certainly don't need this in your life.
It's awful.

See a counselor, or a therapist, they can help you too.

[Darkness]

Report yourself, you probably have PTSD, Please see someone about it!

[reaper0694]

if i go c some one about it ill b dicharged and i cant let that happen

[Cloud]

and if you dont you pose a risk to anyone who fights along side you

[reaper0694]

i would never endager the life of any man in my troop and as for my cobat efectiveness im still combat fit and training for my next tour

[Cloud]

Yes but also people say theyd never mutilate there body but what happened to that
Whats to stop you having another breakdown like you did the other day while your in a warzone?

[reaper0694]

i war its different im focused i have a job 2 do and i do it bac hme im just another joe squaddy no name no face nothing

[Cloud]

Okay
lets get this straight
you asked us for help
youve refused the help we offered
and now your jsut argueing against getting help from elsewhere
if your not willing to accept help why ask?

[reaper0694]

im jus lookin for a little advice on things i can do to stop myself from doing it

[Amyxoxo]

Look we all know that its hard but I think that from what I can remember I could have stoped myself from doing it when I had just started. I dont see why you cant just stop doing it. Its not like your addicted at the moment. Im sure that everyone needs you to stay stong and you need to stay stong for yourself. I would recomend going to see a counceler, they will be able to help you figure out why you feel like you have to do this.

[munchausen]

im jus lookin for a little advice on things i can do to stop myself from doing it

What age are you anyway, if you're an adult you probably shouldn't be asking young teens for help.

[reaper0694]

im onli 18

[reaper0694]

with all the critisim i got comming on this web for advise i can c y most people suffer in silence

[Amyxoxo]

with all the critisim i got comming on this web for advise i can c y most people suffer in silence

That is because we have given you the advice that you wanted and your not accepting it.

[Cloud]

with all the critisim i got comming on this web for advise i can c y most people suffer in silence

boo fucking hoo
you wanted advice
we gave
you turned it down
no one forced you to come here
no ones forcing you to stay
if your so ignorant to refuse the help weve given then what the fuck do you want us to do?

[Project Delta]

For once, i agree with calum. If you refuse what you said you wanted do you REALLY want it in the first place?

[MadManWithaBox]

You've been given good, solid advice, and you're ignoring it. Thats not our or anyone else's fault except yours. Don't come on here, asking for advice if you're just looking for sympathy. This section is to help people who actually want to quit. And most people don't suffer in silence, most people want help, and want to be happy, so they seek professional advice, which is what you should be doing. Don't come if you're just bitch about unfair life is. We can't help you if you don't want to be helped.

[Grim981]

Duncan if you havnt done so already, read the post at the top of the cutting and self harm forum, its got tonnes of ways to help your urges. unfortunately i cant help you myself i have the willpower of a dead badger...:)
And i understand your problem, dont you guys?
if he goes to c someone he'll be discharged. he asked for advice on stopping the urges.
But duncan you CAN stop now. just like that. DO IT!
btw. calum i dont think he does pose a risk to his squad. he's a trained soldier and, if he did, i dont think he would go back and let it happen, do you?

[charlie3322]

ATTENTION!!! lol sory.....

[Fiction]

You need a reason to stop and a bit of willpower.

[Super_Saiyan]

Oh God, this thread makes me feel a little scared to post on this forum. Great support here, evidently.

[CuriousDestruction]

I had an uncle who served in iraq. he came home after a tour acting strange. he wouldn't eat, sleep, or even leave his room after a while. he found out he was burning himself and contemplating suicide. we told him to get help, he didn't. he said he could control himself as long as he had something to do. he went back for another tour. he broke out into a psychotic rage in the middle of an operation. he got himself and 2 of his brothers in arms killed. if you really believe you can control your urges when you go back, i can't stop you. you may not have the same symptoms as my uncle, but you could if you don't check yourself out. i don't know if you are a marine or a army man. but a soldier is trained to be strong physically, and mentally. and part of being strong mentally is being strong enough to get yourself checked out. So talk to a trusted friend about this. or go to an independent doctor or other trusted advisor for help. i wish you luck. Semper Fi.

[Amyxoxo]

Oh God, this thread makes me feel a little scared to post on this forum. Great support here, evidently.

We have given advise he has not acepted it that is all we can offer.
Yes we do give good support but if you cant acept it then we cant help you.

[Cloud]

Oh God, this thread makes me feel a little scared to post on this forum. Great support here, evidently.

If your afraid of the truth your not going to get very far

[Rutherford The Brave]

Advise for a first time cutter; Don't fucking cut.