Need Advice. Why best friend acts the way he dose.

[fri13guy]

Basically, this week my friends parents where really getting on to him, and they always are, constantly. Its like he can never do enough to satisfy them. And, so this weekend he got really pissed off at them, and spend the weekend at my house, we had a blast, laughing all over the place, he was basically happy as crap. But, on monday, our return to school, he was all quite.. kinda emoish like he always is. But i'm just wondering why wouldn't he be happy as crap, like he was the one night, all the time? Because he's always with me, doing stuff thats fun, but he acts kinda dull/down...

What i think: I'm starting to think that he acts like this because he constantly has to worry about his parents, what they think, what there going to do, etc. So he just kinda gets down... all the time.

What you all think?

[Mr. Smithers]

I think, since your parents are cool with your friend, they should probably speak to his parents. He should never be afraid to live in his own home. Or you can tell him to talk to a school counselor if he is having problems at home. Either way, he shouldn't be scared to be at home.

[DrkZ90]

well, it looks like you are the only light in his life... help him! make your parents talk to his, take him to the school counselor to talk about his parents...

and keep inviting him over, at least you'll help him be happy even if it's only for the weekend... also while everything works out, you could do homework and stuff at your house too...

[Giles]

That makes sense. Whilst he is with you you're taking his mind off of his parents. So when he's back at school ( And probably bored) he's thinking about it allot more. So he feels slightly depressed.

You could try spending more time with him, talk to him about how he feels. It makes a big difference.

[fri13guy]

i agree completely that no one should be scared/upset in there own house.

I would ask my parents to talk to his parents, but his mother is so nuts that not even my parents want to get involved with it.

For instance, his mom called his girlfriends mother, and told her that he was prolly raping his little girl in a dark ally behind wal-mart. (he is a good Christian kid, dosent even cus because he thinks its bad, sex is not until marriage for him, the most him and his gf have done is make out.)

And he has a older brother, that left when he was 18, like slept on the street for a few days because he was so tired of the parents... and there being so over-ly protective of him now, because they think he will turn out like his brother, when in-turn he is turning out like his brother because they are smothering him.

and his mother wouldent listen when i went over to his house to talk to her about how shes basically ruining his life... she just wanted nothing to do with it... he has also told her the same thing, but she dosent listen...

and he dosent have much that can be "taken away" as a grounding or anything.. no car. no phone. no computer. no tv. no game systems. the only thing he has is his friends.. and girlfriend.. and thats what she takes away when she dose "ground" him... for not having scholarships that he cant even apply for because hes not old enough!!

help please?
(other than just smacking her in the face with a frying pan)

[KaelKaos]

i agree completely that no one should be scared/upset in there own house.

I would ask my parents to talk to his parents, but his mother is so nuts that not even my parents want to get involved with it.

For instance, his mom called his girlfriends mother, and told her that he was prolly raping his little girl in a dark ally behind wal-mart. (he is a good Christian kid, dosent even cus because he thinks its bad, sex is not until marriage for him, the most him and his gf have done is make out.)

And he has a older brother, that left when he was 18, like slept on the street for a few days because he was so tired of the parents... and there being so over-ly protective of him now, because they think he will turn out like his brother, when in-turn he is turning out like his brother because they are smothering him.

and his mother wouldent listen when i went over to his house to talk to her about how shes basically ruining his life... she just wanted nothing to do with it... he has also told her the same thing, but she dosent listen...

and he dosent have much that can be "taken away" as a grounding or anything.. no car. no phone. no computer. no tv. no game systems. the only thing he has is his friends.. and girlfriend.. and thats what she takes away when she dose "ground" him... for not having scholarships that he cant even apply for because hes not old enough!!

help please?
(other than just smacking her in the face with a frying pan)

It sounds like he just has parents who don't listen to anyone but themselves. There's really not much you can do, as his mom has already proven she's not going to listen to anyone. The only thing that can fix this is him. He needs to make the first step in changing this, and you need to be there to support him. Maybe talk to him about ways he can fix this, because he doesn't deserve to be unhappy in his own house.

[fri13guy]

yeah... seems like thats the only thing i can do.. and i have been doing it... there's just not many options.

[fri13guy]

So... today i basically cussed out his mom beacuse she wouldent let him spend the night with me, for her retarted reasons... anyway... my friend has told me before that hes kinda suicidal about the whole thing.... and i will not let that happen. is there any type of legal help i can get? something like DCF? theres got to be some kind of something for "causng suicidal thoughts".

and my friend wont just leave his house... because he thinks it will solve nothing.

[Lifeguard18]

I totally edited out the social services thing. I'm sorry for mentioning that. Talk to a counselor or try to get him out of his house for a few days. He should be happy and you're doing that. You should be extremely happy and proud of yourself for being there for him. Again I'm sorry I mentioned social services.

Edit 2: DCF is like social services i guess but I jut googled that. But once I searched Social services I was thinking i took it to far.

Is there any of his relatives that live near him? He could talk to them and see what help he could get from them. They could talk to his mom. There's support everywhere. It just needs to be found. And your part of that support. Try to get him away from there for a bit and have him go to your house or a relatives.

[KaelKaos]

So... today i basically cussed out his mom beacuse she wouldent let him spend the night with me, for her retarted reasons... anyway... my friend has told me before that hes kinda suicidal about the whole thing.... and i will not let that happen. is there any type of legal help i can get? something like DCF? theres got to be some kind of something for "causng suicidal thoughts".

and my friend wont just leave his house... because he thinks it will solve nothing.

He can always see a therapist for his suicidal thoughts and a counselor for the parental situation.