Need Advice

[Tonymaruso]

I just need some advice on life I can't seem to grasp the thought that any of this is going to get better. Everyday I wake up thinking about what today's going to bring. I can't get out of this rut, I wake up and just drug myself up to try and forget about the day before. Everyone that has said that they were my friends has turned out to be nothing but a bunch of fucking losers who judge me on my past. Sure I'm not the best person in the world I'll be the first to admit to that. Anyway I have to be going now, thanks for reading please any help is appreciated.


Anthony

[Aspiringanonymous]

Omigosh you live in Surrey?! I grew up in Surrey. >.>

Anyway; advice on life in general, you mean? That's a very broad subject.

Many paths lead to the same destination; many destinations result from the same path.

Life is a confusing, annoying, head-aching paradox. It's true that nothing is what it seems - what "is", anyway? What is, is what you perceive it to be.

How does one change a state of being, especially when it has become firmly engrossed and supported by destructive habits? How are habits broken? Most change begins with a catalyst, an experience or event in which one is persuaded fully to embark on the change. It begins, with opening oneself to the world. To that which inspires, or has the potential to inspire you. What is it about 'life' that you dislike so much? Certainly not every single existing thing.

You are not a perfect person. Nothing is perfect, anywhere; chaos and imperfection is just as inherent to existence as is order and harmony. It is through flaws, however, that wholeness is discovered.

Good luck, and may you uncover a better frame of mind.

[Tonymaruso]

I'm not entirly sure on what I meant. A few years ago my grandpa passed away, I was very close to him as my father left when I was only 4. I took his death very hard. I never talked to anybody about how I felt. I never felt comfortable enough to talk about it. My so called friends made fun of me for crying about it, my mom never wanted to. Since I've just been holding back everything. Soon after I just lost the will to carry on anymore, I don't feel like life is worth anything to me anymore. Everything that I once enjoyed is now nothing but faded memories. Anyway I'll stop my rant there.

[Mr. Smithers]

I'm really sorry about your grandfather. The advice that I can give you is to think that if your granddad was still living, would he want you to be sad, no he wouldn't. Find something that you enjoy doing, such as drawing, exercising, reading, playing video games whichever it is, to keep your mind away from being depressed.

[Tonymaruso]

I try I used to fly remote control aircraft I used to do all this things but non of them seem to work. The only thing I can do is listen to music but as soon as I take the head phones off I start thinking about things and it always ends up back where I started.

[Mr. Smithers]

Yeah thats how depression is. I want you to stay strong though. Crying and getting mad won't bring whatever, or whoever back.

[Tonymaruso]

I try to stay strong but I allways end up breaking down at some point or another I try not to get mad but I've allways been violent I e been trough anger managment six time and not once has helped at all. I keep thinking that I'm going to wake up and every thing will be fine but it never is so I do the same thing over and over like I'm stuck in a loop.

[Aspiringanonymous]

Every breakdown makes one stronger, in its recovery.

Change comes, only if you are open to receive it. Consciously put yourself out there to anticipate opportunities, rather than sulking and reinforcing the belief that it'll never come. Such as joining this community and reaching out to people on here, for example. Simple little things could go a long way.

[Appleton]

Have you tried talking to your mom about maybe seeing a counselor? I know it sounds cliche but it really has helped me in dealing with the shit i've been through. To me its comforting to know there is one person i can talk to that won't judge me but will help me grow. He's one person I know I can say anything to and it stays betwen us. I've been working with him for 3 years now. If you haven't tried it man, i'd give it a shot. It beats not having anyone to talk to and he could show you ways to deal with your grief and depression. If you need to talk, hit me up. Hope things go better for you.

[Tonymaruso]

I tried talking to her she never makestime anymore. I've never liked to all to therapist and other people like that.

[Appleton]

I tried talking to her she never makestime anymore. I've never liked to all to therapist and other people like that.

I don't think anyone starts out liking to talk to a therapist at first. It's something you have to get comfortable with over time. I think you are coming to the realization that getting over this and/or out of this "funk" that you are in, doesn't appear to be somthing that you can do on your own. You're going to eventually need someone's help. If you can't talk to your mom, then talk to a teacher or counselor at your school. If you go to church, talk to a pastor or other leader there.

I just think, reading your posts here, that you're at that point where you need help, whether you "like it" or not. Sure it's hard man, but I'm guessing it's not really easy staying in the same place you're at now. Ultimately you're going to have to decide which one sucks less.

I hope you decide to get help and realize that you don't have to do it on your own.

[Tonymaruso]

I tried going to the therapist he just threw some pills at me and said these should make you feel better soon but they did nothing. As for other peers I'm out of school I don't go to any churchs or religious groups. I don't know why I've been having a really bad week.

[Tonymaruso]

I don't know why to do today is th Annaversy of my grandfathers death. I feel so overwhelmed.

Don't know how to deal with it.

Please do not double post. Use the 'edit' function if you wish to add more to a post.

~ .Tuxedo Mask.

[BuryYourFlame]

There really isn't anything else we can do, we have offered you the best advice, but you have shot each of those down without even trying them.

Your mum doesn't make time? Try talking to her first. You had a stupid counselor? Try a different one.

That is really all we can say.

[Tonymaruso]

I was able to talk to my mom which helped alot. I also spent the nigh in the hospital I ended cutting myself fairly deep on my arm.

[Aspiringanonymous]

I'm going to ask a straightforward question: how do you expect us to help you? Or, is simply listening and making a response of acknowledgment enough?

When there is a will, there is a way. You must find the will to walk the path.

In any given situation, there are always three choices: accept things for the way they are, actively working to change the undesirable, or entering a state of denial, which really is only pushing the issue away for later.

[Tonymaruso]

I'am seeking a new therapist as of now I've come to the realization that I need help in this life.

[Aspiringanonymous]

Good for you for making that decision. Best of luck with everything, then.

[Tonymaruso]

Thank you all for the advice. :-)