help !! i dont know what too do!!!

[maddii-may]

i went out with this boy for about two months and we broke up because i got confused about something he had done and now he hate me :( i tried to tell him how i feel about him last night. he doesnt want to know anything. i am still madly in love with him and i dont no what to do he nos how i feel but im not sure that he is listening to him i think he does what his mates tell him what to do and i dont no what to do i am stuck .... any advice ?

[sarah newman]

ok, well this boy obviously cant c how gorgeous you really ar, you really just got to move on. what do others think??? x

[maddii-may]

sarah darling you no im not gorgeus

[Mr. Smithers]

Maybe it's time to move on. I don't think he wants to be with you anymore. I would try talking to him but if he says its over its over. You will meet a way better guy.

[maddii-may]

i no what you mean but he was the best thing that ever happened to me and like its hard to explain but when ever i talk to him i get upset x

[Mr. Smithers]

Yes I know exactly how you feel. I had a couple of breakups but I always say that things happen for a reason, and it was meant that this person is not my perfect partner.

[maddii-may]

true and this is the hardest break up i hace had but tbh i think i should fine someone else but its too hard ?

[sarah newman]

Maddi, u r the most prettiest person i no, u r way way way better and cutier to be worrying about him and dont try and go out wiv someone straight after u spit up because even though u think it will help it just reminds u of the good times u had with dan but u got all your friends here for u and u got me, i will look out for u and if u want to try and talk to him then we tryed to ring him but his phones off so u give him a birthday present to c? maybe give it to george to give to dan.
i was in the exact same place as u and it really puts u down and it makes u feel like ur really stupid and a horrible person but your not, u got to believe in yourself, think positive and u r a lovely person.
Im sure loads of people on this forum would tell u u r a lovely girl even if they dont no u xox

[maddii-may]

thanks sarah but you hhave seenwhat i was like with dan and he was the best thing that had ever happened and im not excatly pretty but the thing is i cant stop thinking about him and like all the good times we have had. but sarah i can all ways rely on you thanks hun xx

[Sapphire]

Break ups are hard, especially when the person involved means so much to you.

But, it isn't the be all and end all. You just have to ride it out and distract yourself. Organise to do lots with friends, occupy yourself with chores, do some cooking, play video games and things like this. It will help a lot, trust me.

You will find happiness with someone else in the future.

[maddii-may]

thanks i will try

[zoom zoom]

him well you say your madly in love with him. Just a question? is it love or is it just being apart from him that you feel? and if you do really like him you should tell him. and one more question if you dont mind. what did he do that night? and if you really really like him you could try to for give him, and show him you can move on. Well i hope everything works out

[maddii-may]

no i love him and that night after we broke up i called him and told hi mi didnt break up with him because i didnt love its the way he was being it that makes sense

[Mr. Smithers]

Maddi, I'm happy that you decided to move on. I'm sorry that that you are not happy with breaking up with him. I just know that you are gonna be fine. I know that you are going to have a better relationship, and be with a better guy. Don't be upset.

[maddii-may]

thank you :) i hope i find someone i can trust aswell xx but its not going to be easy x

[zoom zoom]

i know youll find somone theres always someone out there

[maddii-may]

thanks x

[Kelsie]

don't worry. you WILL find someone better. you may not think that now, but trust me you will. i went through the same thing.

[maddii-may]

thank you x

[PutMeInCoach]

sarah darling you no im not gorgeus
i dont know what you look like or how you act buy i really think EVERY girl is sexy or hot they each got their own swag i love it

[maddii-may]

i think that everyone looks good in there own way

[PutMeInCoach]

Well than you look good haha that is what i said..

[maddii-may]

i dont look good

[2D]

i think that everyone looks good in there own way

i dont look good

OMG UR N ALEEN!!!!

You're not ready to be loved or to love someone else if you can't first love yourself.

[maddii-may]

i used to love myself then alkot happened

[2D]

i used to love myself then alkot happened

Excuses excuses. You keep contradicting yourself and making up reasons why stuff isn't working in your life.

In relation to your ex. You broke up with him, he's done with you, end of relationship. I doubt there's much you can do. You can try, but probably with not much success.

[zoom zoom]

Hey keep me posted i would like to see if you find someone. So plz just message me.

[maddii-may]

well he called me and we spoke and im not sure whats going on and a lot has happend actully

[Sapphire]

Just take it as it comes.

There is no use in trying to second-guess everything.

[maddii-may]

well he wasnt at school today and i dont no what to think as he is not taking any off the blame x

[Sapphire]

He won't accept blame for what?
He flirted with someone else and said that you've changed. Then get hurt and not talk to you properly after you dumped him. That's all he's done.

If you really did love this guy then you would have trusted him that the flirting was innocent (or at least aired your feelings in a mature way) and you would have talked with him about whether or not you've changed and the consequences of it rather than dumping him straight away.
Also, if you really loved him then you wouldn't be so caught up on the distribution of blame or on the whole "he hurt me before I hurt him" thing.

[maddii-may]

1 i spoke to him about his flirting and he took a girl into his room i spoke to him about it and nothing happened so i tried as much a i could
2 i do still love him

[Sapphire]

Some people flirt innocently with others even when they are in a committed relationship. It doesn't mean much at all.
If you love him then you would trust him not to cheat on you. That's all there is to it.

And while you are over-analysing things, why don't you ask yourself whether you have changed and how?

[BUENA]

If he really wants you but is reluctant, then I suggest you fight to get him back. But if he doesn't want you, move on.

[zoom zoom]

Some people flirt innocently with others even when they are in a committed relationship. It doesn't mean much at all.
If you love him then you would trust him not to cheat on you. That's all there is to it.

And while you are over-analysing things, why don't you ask yourself whether you have changed and how?

But really if he knows that it bugs her he shouldnt really do it in the first place. if he cared enough for her he wouldnt do it. so really you should tell him that and if he doesnt care just dont bother with him i know you can find someone way better

[zoom zoom]

If he really wants you but is reluctant, then I suggest you fight to get him back. But if he doesn't want you, move on.

well why would she fight back for him when he has moved on?

[Sapphire]

But really if he knows that it bugs her he shouldnt really do it in the first place. if he cared enough for her he wouldnt do it. so really you should tell him that and if he doesnt care just dont bother with him i know you can find someone way better
Relationships are two-way and yes, he should have shown more consideration for her. But if the OP really did love him then she would have approached the whole thing in a better way and forgone all the "he won't accept any of the blame and he hurt me before I hurt him" shit.

By the sounds of it, neither this guy nor the OP are ready for a proper relationship.

[maddii-may]

i am ready for a proper realtionship its just when does things like that and takes girls in to his room ?

[Sapphire]

Tell me, what part of your behaviour actually shows that you are ready for a proper relationship.

I mean you ended the relationship very quickly without really trying to put things right, you expected him to take you back just because you decided you actually did want to be with him again, you played the "blame game" and justified hurting him because "he hurt you first".

I am not saying that he is without fault, but if you really were ready for a proper relationship then you would have acted more maturely.

[maddii-may]

well i am the one thats acting more maturly out of me and him and i tried to sort it out before we broke up and i dont want him back now i just want too be mates x

[Sapphire]

You may be acting more maturely than him but that does not automatically mean you are and have been acting maturely.

[2D]

He doesn't want anything to do with you is my guess. That's how I would/do feel.

[BlackBetty]

Time to move on sweety. You've done hurt this guy so this is the end of it. Girls think that when they come crawling back to us that we welcome you with open arms. Some are like that, other have more pride in there self to let there guard down again/and be that desperate.

[maddii-may]

he said he wanted to sort things out and i tried but he dont want to no ?