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Asylum
January 9th, 2010, 01:21 AM
My mother, she just told me tonight she plans on leaving.... now yes she emotionally abuses me, and sometmes physically, so why is this a bad thing? 1. she is not taking me with her 2. she is leaving me with dad. A. why this is a bad thing? 1. i don't talk to him 2. he phsycialy abuses me... andmentlly. 3. we can't hold a conversaion 4. because she was here, he didn't hurt me like he would've if she wasn't... like the times she is outof the house he hurts me more... and she threatens to leave him and tlls him he can't do that... yes kno hypocritcally, but she doens't phsycailly abuse m like my dad.... he is worse...he broke my arm a few years ago... chipped several teeth... this shows she doens't care about mee.. i hate my dad... i can't stand him. arghh so now if that happens, i'll run away or go to afreinds house, cuz i cna't stay... she's said things b4, but they were always we will go away togheter... this time its just her. i asked her mom can i come with u, she said no... can yuou wait till i'm in college, so i'd be out of the house anywa... its only 2 years... she siad no... so i'm realy scared, cuz once shes gone my dad will be sooo angry h'll take it out on me.. plus he is moving up in his job which is more stresss. which willmake him lose it more... and when she is gone, he won't care... he will go full force on me.. :(
my mom also has forgiven all the people that she has loathed... over the years like lall of the sudden hey are now in her life again.... she had cancer bfore.... so both ehr and i are thinking it's God's way of saying its time to finish forgiving, so I can take you hme. cuz these were things like 15 years to forgive, and they haven't spoken and it was like 6 different eople... so i'm scard she might get cancer again and die... she is also forgetting things and she has a hsitory of alzhiemers her fmaily. all this has got me so stressed out :( i really want to hurt myself now.... i was adopted... so its like my parents already abondone me once... now the one person who adopted me, no loger cares for me....

now i knwo ur saying go to social services... i can't my sster loves my dad... i couln't do that to her... like its an obsession, it owuold hurt her nd cuz her to maybe hurt herself...i coulnd't do that........the only option are killing myself (i'm not going t do) living with hm (not goig to do) or running away...last one is ok....

munchausen
January 9th, 2010, 03:47 AM
If leaving home is your only option then get to a friends house. Don't try anything to rash, if you do they are going to want a reason for you leaving sooner or later. You could always lie but it'll have to be convincing.
I don't know what your mom thinks of you but don't take her leaving you as a sign she doesn't care for you sometimes peoples hands are forced. She's probably been thinking about this for a long time if not preparing for it. I hate saying it to you but if social services hears she's left then they are probably going to come and do a re-evaluation to check your fathers suitability to care for children, the absolute worst case scenario is that, (if your sister is fostered and you're under 16/18 depending on where you live.) you both get relocated.
This situation is impossible to predict though as so many different things can happen, just try and do what you think is best for you.

Beautiful Obsession
January 25th, 2010, 05:30 PM
i know you dont want to, but you need to tell someone about this, its horrible what your dad is doing to you and it needs to stop before it could get worse, if he's already broke your arm, id hate to think when your mums gone what would happen, as for your mum, shes obviously just running away from her problems, maybe confront her? do you have any other family you could maybe go and stay with to get away from home? You dont deserve this, you need to stop it. think about yourself, it might be hard for your sister but you have to look out for yourself aswell. xx

that kid
January 25th, 2010, 07:34 PM
If your father would beat you when your mad what do you think would happen to your sister when you leave? She'd be the only one he has left to "relieve" his stress on. It might not be your favorite option but the way I see it it'd be better for you to go to child services.