Vicarious
January 8th, 2010, 08:21 PM
Hey guys, it's been a while since I posted, but I was active last spring.
Anyways, I have a bit of an issue/rant here.
First, I'm 18. I turned 18 in December. I realize I can't do everything I want yet since I still live under my mom's roof, but in my opinion, she's being ridiculous.
As a bit of background info, my mom is "allergic" to everything on the face of the earth. Smoke, pollen, grass. Anything with a scent, and any pet at all. Therefore, we (my brothers and I) cannot use Axe, Tag, or ANY scented deodorant. Let's just say when she catches us, it isn't pretty. I got Degree Pure Sport deodorant from my Dad for Christmas, and after a week of using it, she figured out I was using it, grounded me for a month, and made me do all of my laundry from the past week myself.
She never lets me do anything I want to. I spend most nights at home on my laptop because I'm so incredibly bored and she won't let me go anywhere. Even though my license lets me drive whenever I want, she won't let me out after 9 most nights, even weekends. It's my own car, too, so it doesn't really affect her.
I've been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now, and I can hardly see her. My mom never lets me go over to her house when I ask; her reason is I'd smell like smoke since her dad smokes. This is ridiculous, when I go there I immediately shower when I come home and put my smoky clothes in the garage and it never bothers her. Still, even when I offer to do this, she says it would bother her. Her "allergies" affect my life in many small ways. It isn't my primary complaint though, since it really isn't a big deal (besides the not being able to see my girlfriend issue).
I say "allergies" because they really are questionable. She is a huge hypocrite. Her new boyfriend drinks all the time at our house, when she never even let my dad have a beer in the house. He wears scented deodorants and aftershaves, and my mom even let their family get me a scented air freshener for Christmas. The same mom that ripped my dad a new asshole for having one in his car.
You may be wondering if I deserve to be able to do more. If I'm responsible enough. I've been in all honors and AP classes since 9th grade. I'm 11th in a class of almost 300, and have a 3.7 unweighted. I am an AP Scholar, and I'm in NHS. I'm the lead in the school musical, and All-State musician on both trumpet and vocals, and do too much more to list. I almost always do everything my mom asks of me. I'd say I'm pretty responsible. Sure, I forget a few things or put my clean clothes away a few days after I get them, but I'm in school from 6:30 - 5:30, it's hard to keep up with chores sometimes.
Still, whenever I ask my mom to do something, she searches for a reason to tell me no. I remember one time this past summer when I wanted to go to the movies with friends. I had just cut the grass and taken a shower. She looked outside and told me I couldn't go because I didn't move the one stick she told me to move out of the yard. After offering to move it before I left, she told me I couldn't go and it didn't matter, since I didn't do it the first time she asked I couldn't go.
This insanity is bringing me to the point of considering leaving and living with my dad. She can't realize I am responsible and she should, at the risk of sounding self-centered, be happy to have a son like me who isn't into smoking or drugs or drinking and who is going to go to a top college.
What I'm asking is is this normal behavior for a mom or is mine really overbearing like I think she is? And, any advice on how to deal with this?
Anyways, I have a bit of an issue/rant here.
First, I'm 18. I turned 18 in December. I realize I can't do everything I want yet since I still live under my mom's roof, but in my opinion, she's being ridiculous.
As a bit of background info, my mom is "allergic" to everything on the face of the earth. Smoke, pollen, grass. Anything with a scent, and any pet at all. Therefore, we (my brothers and I) cannot use Axe, Tag, or ANY scented deodorant. Let's just say when she catches us, it isn't pretty. I got Degree Pure Sport deodorant from my Dad for Christmas, and after a week of using it, she figured out I was using it, grounded me for a month, and made me do all of my laundry from the past week myself.
She never lets me do anything I want to. I spend most nights at home on my laptop because I'm so incredibly bored and she won't let me go anywhere. Even though my license lets me drive whenever I want, she won't let me out after 9 most nights, even weekends. It's my own car, too, so it doesn't really affect her.
I've been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now, and I can hardly see her. My mom never lets me go over to her house when I ask; her reason is I'd smell like smoke since her dad smokes. This is ridiculous, when I go there I immediately shower when I come home and put my smoky clothes in the garage and it never bothers her. Still, even when I offer to do this, she says it would bother her. Her "allergies" affect my life in many small ways. It isn't my primary complaint though, since it really isn't a big deal (besides the not being able to see my girlfriend issue).
I say "allergies" because they really are questionable. She is a huge hypocrite. Her new boyfriend drinks all the time at our house, when she never even let my dad have a beer in the house. He wears scented deodorants and aftershaves, and my mom even let their family get me a scented air freshener for Christmas. The same mom that ripped my dad a new asshole for having one in his car.
You may be wondering if I deserve to be able to do more. If I'm responsible enough. I've been in all honors and AP classes since 9th grade. I'm 11th in a class of almost 300, and have a 3.7 unweighted. I am an AP Scholar, and I'm in NHS. I'm the lead in the school musical, and All-State musician on both trumpet and vocals, and do too much more to list. I almost always do everything my mom asks of me. I'd say I'm pretty responsible. Sure, I forget a few things or put my clean clothes away a few days after I get them, but I'm in school from 6:30 - 5:30, it's hard to keep up with chores sometimes.
Still, whenever I ask my mom to do something, she searches for a reason to tell me no. I remember one time this past summer when I wanted to go to the movies with friends. I had just cut the grass and taken a shower. She looked outside and told me I couldn't go because I didn't move the one stick she told me to move out of the yard. After offering to move it before I left, she told me I couldn't go and it didn't matter, since I didn't do it the first time she asked I couldn't go.
This insanity is bringing me to the point of considering leaving and living with my dad. She can't realize I am responsible and she should, at the risk of sounding self-centered, be happy to have a son like me who isn't into smoking or drugs or drinking and who is going to go to a top college.
What I'm asking is is this normal behavior for a mom or is mine really overbearing like I think she is? And, any advice on how to deal with this?