Oh, my God! Help!

[MattHolyman41]

Why do only those ugly girls want me? Why can't I be attractive to a hot girl?

A not-very-attractive nymph wanted to have sex with me, but I said I can't...
:mad:

[nick]

Martin, that's a pretty impossible question. All I can say is that from your avatar you look decent enough looking. Just be patient I guess.

[MattHolyman41]

However I look, I get mad when I see other guys at my age with hot chicks and I have nothing but my own hands.

[Sage]

Oh my god, you should never, ever pick a partner based on looks! No, no, no! Personality is everything and if you want a hot girlfriend you're a chauvinist bigot!

Yeah, I don't buy into that shit either. Attractive people tend to be more confident. Therefore, work on your confidence. Sit up straight, walk tall, have an interesting answer to even the most mundane questions (what's new? what do you like to do? why do you like doing that?) and don't take shit from people.

[Lifeguard18]

I don't think this is much a sexuality question. More like for relationships and dating to Me. Yeah don't go out with a girl just by looks. You have to get to know her and talk and hang out a lot, bond. Then you'll know if she is the right one for you.

[Joshhmax]

I always kind of laugh when i hear the "looks arent everything". I agree with that. they arent EVERYTHING. but they do matter. Finding someone who you can have a conversation with is important but if they are not attractive to you than your still missing a major criteria for a relationship. i agree personality is important but looks are too.

[Mr. Smithers]

Your standards are too high. You say ugly girls come up to you. At least don't judge girls on their looks. Get to know them more. Looks aren't everything.

[charlie3322]

Your standards are too high. You say ugly girls come up to you. At least don't judge girls on their looks. Get to know them more. Looks are everything.


do u meen ARENT

[Zanra]

Well go for a girl you want and try being the chaser

[Antares]

Teen Sexuality :arrow: Relationships and Dating

[Kahn]

I find this.. Sad. Nonetheless. I look for personality. That is why I do not fall for the "hot" girl that comes up to me and asks me out right away. Usually the "hot" girls in my school are stuck up or dull. I want someone kind, intelligent, and interesting. Not a looker.

So.. My advice. Be a smart ass if you want one. You look fine. And think of others when you call them ugly or (and I quote) a "Not-very attractive Nymph." Personality my friend creates love. Not looks.

[Sage]

Your standards are too high. You say ugly girls come up to you. At least don't judge girls on their looks. Get to know them more. Looks are everything.

Too high? I would think when looking for someone that will mean a lot to you and possibly be living with for the rest of your life, you can't afford not to have high standards. If we all had higher standards, both ladies and gents, we'd less people together who shouldn't be together.

[The Joker]

The low standards is what causes divorce.

[Mr. Smithers]

The low standards is what causes divorce.

I thought it was the other way around. Finding someone perfect, only to see that person wasn't right for you.

That's just what I think.

[thatnathanguy]

well, reffering to girls as unnatractive nymphs probably isn't very attractive. i think the best answer so far is the girl who was talking about improving confidence. apart from that, try beng nicer to people.

[CaptainObvious]

Oh my god, you should never, ever pick a partner based on looks! No, no, no! Personality is everything and if you want a hot girlfriend you're a chauvinist bigot!

Yeah, I don't buy into that shit either.

Oh this this this. Yeah, I wouldn't be in a relationship with an extremely dull or annoying person just for their looks, but looks are sure as hell a prerequisite. People who I'm not attracted to but who have great personalities and I like to hang out with are called friends. I don't see how that is in any way shallow or wrong.

[Kinetic]

What's your definition of ugly, most people end up like smoking hot after high school, from your avatar I can tell you arnt ugly and your just pitiful, your standards are ok like... U wudnt wana date a troll but personality matters most and how you feel about the person

[Sage]

Probably off-topic, but I always loved how we as a society have this double-standard where women are allowed to have as high expectations as they like for men, but guys are called out on if they prefer a fuller female figure. :rolleyes:

[Englishrose]

Okay, I'm not going to say it's not about looks and it's all about personality because that just isn't right. Most people judge first on looks and then personality.

I'm going to assume your still in school and still quite young as in under the age of 18. (please correct me if I'm wrong). Anyway, I think your going to need a bit of change of heart. While we all judge people based on their looks, and it can be the first thing that attracts us to somebody, this attraction can rarely lead to a relationship unless there is something beneath the surface. I think the only advice I can give you is when a girl starts to show an interest in you, whether she be a looker or not, where is the harm in getting to know her a bit more, you may find yourself surprised at how much the attraction between you grows, and you see the good in someone.

Please don't judge solely on appearance. It may be a good starting base to find out what you may be attracted to, but it won't lead to anything unless there is something else. Don't blow girls off because of what they look like, you might be missing out on some great relationships. Also, if I'm correct about your age, the majority of girls are going through a change, and those ugly ducklings might turn into beautiful swans once they find themselves and those girls who you once thought weren't worth your time may now be that hot girl your chasing, but now you have competition.

[Affliction]

agreed with post above

[MattHolyman41]

Well... sure, personality is very important ... but you probably didn't get the main point of my problems. The problem is that no one at my age would go into a relationship not caring about any kind of physical appeal to that person. Which is my problem. Some of those girls are ok, some of them are not, but they just don't make me interested in any way.

I'm not sure if you can understand what I'm saying...

[maddii-may]

no looks arent everything but they do matter ijudge boys most of the time on looks then get to know them but to be quite honset they matter alot as if your like the hottest person you have to have a fit girlfriend its the same for girls

[sabotaged111]

firstly, it saddened me when i read this... ofcourse, i continued to read on and i do see your point, you can't get attracted to an "ugly" girl via her looks, but she could be the most understanding, fun, comforting and friendly person in the world, just get to know them is all im saying and for once, approach a girl that does take your fancy as it is stereotypical that the guy approaches the girl...

[maddii-may]

maybe think about how you are presenting your self to the girls that might be why none off them are coming to you matbe they dont think your right

[Evermore]

I always kind of laugh when i hear the "looks arent everything". I agree with that. they arent EVERYTHING. but they do matter. Finding someone who you can have a conversation with is important but if they are not attractive to you than your still missing a major criteria for a relationship. i agree personality is important but looks are too.

Okay, I'm not going to say it's not about looks and it's all about personality because that just isn't right. Most people judge first on looks and then personality.

I'm going to assume your still in school and still quite young as in under the age of 18. (please correct me if I'm wrong). Anyway, I think your going to need a bit of change of heart. While we all judge people based on their looks, and it can be the first thing that attracts us to somebody, this attraction can rarely lead to a relationship unless there is something beneath the surface. I think the only advice I can give you is when a girl starts to show an interest in you, whether she be a looker or not, where is the harm in getting to know her a bit more, you may find yourself surprised at how much the attraction between you grows, and you see the good in someone.

Please don't judge solely on appearance. It may be a good starting base to find out what you may be attracted to, but it won't lead to anything unless there is something else. Don't blow girls off because of what they look like, you might be missing out on some great relationships. Also, if I'm correct about your age, the majority of girls are going through a change, and those ugly ducklings might turn into beautiful swans once they find themselves and those girls who you once thought weren't worth your time may now be that hot girl your chasing, but now you have competition.

If you fall in love with someone's personality, they become beautiful in your eyes. Personally reading some of these comments and the original post is pissing me off at the self centered shallowness. Stop. Breathe. Continue. Looks are just something to pull you in. To attract people.If you spend time with them like I just said. They'll become more beautiful in your eyes. If you want a supermodel work on acting more confident. Making means jokes, and participating in sports activities. But in my opinion are a small matter. More for sexual pleasures then actual relationships.

[CharcoalHeadphone]

OP, i have exactly the same problem. most girls that are interested in me are either unatractive or very weird. I consider myself a fairly good looking guy, and even though i am higher on the socail lader than some, i am not what you would call popular. in high school, i get the vibe that good looking people arent mature enough to handle being good looking (it goes to their head). thatshy they're so cliquey

[CharcoalHeadphone]

btw, lance warren is right. im not picky, and find that most girls are atractive in their own way. for me, finding out that someone likes me makes them more atractive

[zoom zoom]

Thats kinda mean saying only ugly girls like you . like who r you to say that. if your that shallow i see now why you dont have a GF

[BlackBetty]

Looks may not be everything, but if you get married to someone, make it someone pretty because you got to look at her for the rest of your life (hopefull). :P.

I know exactly what you are saying! Same here. And your not ugly.