coming out...

[charlie3322]

ok so today at school someone found out bout me and my bf and its real bad for him because he is a wrestler and if the other wrestlers find out his school life is fucked any advice on how to get past this

[YOUNGDREAM]

idk i dont anything 4 that...

[Wonder.]

Deny it the best way you can think of. If the person has no proof, they can't make everyone believe them.

[Mr. Smithers]

Yeah just say that it's all rumour. In the future, maybe you should make better choices for your relationship.

[charlie3322]

we have been very discrite about it and havent told noone...

[Mr. Smithers]

Yeah. I have a similar situation. I was dating this one guy that was on the water polo team. He was 17 and I was 15 and they really hated gay people at our school. I made the mistake of telling one girl which starts the chain. All we did was say it was just rumours so maybe it will work for you.

[charlie3322]

that got uus out uv it in the class we have together but this girl messaged me on myspace and said its ok if im gay and she iis cool with it so i told her i am but he isnt to protect him...

[Commander Thor]

idk i dont anything 4 that...

Please, for the sake of sanity on these forums, do not post useless posts. They are not helpful AT ALL.


@ the OP.
Deny everything, say it's a rumor, brush it off. After a few weeks everyone will cool off and forget about it, that's the nice thing about rumors, they tend to be forgotton about.

How did this other person find out anyway?

[charlie3322]

im not sure.... thts another reason y im confused

[Zanra]

Just deny deny deny

[DareDevil]

I find it kind of interesting that all the advice at the moment is to deny everything. (By the way, this topic might be better off in the Sexuality forum.)

Maybe for your boyfriend's sake (especially if he isn't ready to come out!) it would be best to call any claims about you two being together a rumor. Talk it over with him before you do anything though.

What's unfortunate is people don't tend to pass rumors about a person's sexuality up as easily as they do others. They're just idiots like that. If you yourself are ready to come out, you could save yourself a lot of grief by taking the opportunity. Keep in mind this could also open you up to a different set of grief, depending on your school or friend network.

[charlie3322]

tnx daredevil

[randomdude8767]

everybody is saying deny but if you and this guy are really serious he would never deny that you 2 are together. I would never deny my gf.

[charlie3322]

tha thing is dude it wuld be uncomfortable 4 the uthr wrestlers if they knew hes gay...

[randomdude8767]

oH.... didnt even think twice about that.srry. DENY.DENY.DENY

[charlie3322]

haha well i guess im goin wit deny... any other advice still appreciated

[Antares]

Moving to Teen Sexuality

[charlie3322]

came out today... lost about 4 friends and got ridiculed in gym class. but i feel like a huge weight has been lufted off my life. thnx any supporters

[Mr. Smithers]

Wow charlie that was real brave of you to do that. Yes coming out does make you feel better. No offense, but the friends you lost weren't really your friends if they stopped being your friends after you came out. For being picked on in gym class, don't let it get to you, maybe they will see that you aren't any different.

[charlie3322]

thnx so much fezzie i love how on here i get nothing but acceptance!¡ its so dif than home and school ya know

[Lifeguard18]

Like fezzie said if they were really your friends they would stand by your side. And what you did was extremely brave and shows huge confidene. And that weight is just what I had. I had stress depression not doing good in school I had aches and pains. One I told just one person just one person that all went away in a blink of an eye. Havnt felt any if that ever since. The thing that bothers me the most is it fricken 2010 last year of the fricken decade and people still can't accept gay people. There's bigger things in life. To much to list. People need to get a life and just say everyone is equal. Imagine a world with no hate at all...

[Mr. Smithers]

Yeah the VT is like that. Home away from home.

[Lifeguard18]

Yeah the VT is like that. Home away from home.

Dito. If I havnt found this site I probably wouldn't have came out yet.

[charlie3322]

me either! THNK U VT!¡!¡ I LUV YOOO

[DareDevil]

Wow charlie that was real brave of you to do that. Yes coming out does make you feel better. No offense, but the friends you lost weren't really your friends if they stopped being your friends after you came out.


Amen on both counts! Congrats, boiyo.

As for the getting picked on in gym, the best thing you can do is to look them in the eye and make sure they know you have nothing to be ashamed of. Confidence will make all but the biggest idiots realize they're not getting anywhere with the ridiculing and possibly accept you as well.

[Affliction]

deny it, its none of thier bussniess anyway