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Shum
January 6th, 2010, 02:07 AM
hey im not quite sure where to put this in because it includes alot of different subjects but... i hope this is alright to include the story coz its vital to ur answers...
im 15 and i have a boyfrined who lives over in england. i live in australia. this im fine with. and i love him sooooo damn much. i couldnt bare to ever lose him. because of the time zone differences, i can only really speak to him early in the morning, like 6am. which im fine with as well. but the problem is that my parents arent :/ which reali depresses me. they know im bi and that i have a bf and everything, but i dont think they are very cool with it, like they say that they accept the fact im bi... but they dont act like it. soon after they found out, they told me i was only allowwed on the comp one hour a day beacause i was getting "too obsessive" this reli started to cause problems and over the months our family bonds have been breaking to the point where neither of us want to live with eachother anymore and all of us cry at least 5 times a week over the subject. my dad has been getting seriously angry and there has been violent contact, both from me and from him. once again, it seems like for the hundredth time, ive been banned totally from the computer again (im on a friends comp), coz i went on for more than an hour, coz the rule is absolute B.S. much to my distress and probably my boyfriends as well. its so hard for me to live away from him. and he probably thinks that im ignoring him or sumthing and i am soo worried sumthing bad is going to happen between us now. i havent reli been treating my parents with enough respect lately, coz of the whole one hour thing and that just gets them more pissed off and its just going in a downwards spiral. :/ this problem cant be fixed by just respecting them anymore, it wont suddenly change, we are all very deep down hurt. they say ill be allowwed bak on when ive earned my right to be but im not sure how long thats going to be, or how long eddy (my bf) is going to stand this, for the wat seems hundredth time, before he gets totally fed up with me. im so afraid sumthing is going to happen. eddy and i have been planning our life together for a while now, im going to fly over to england to live with him at some point. and i reli cant wait. im going to love it soo much when the time comes when i leave this hell hole here, but yeh... my parents arent going to like it. i could never leave eddy. and i dont want him to leave me either. my feelings are just too strong and if sumthing ever did happen i would not be able to take it. my life would have no meaning and... well i hope u undersatnd what comes next. i cant live with out him.
so im sorry i put you through all that. and i dont really have a specific question for you... but i just want to know what you think of the situation and if u have any advice on how i could possibly solve this problem without anything bad happening to mine and my bf's relatinship.
thx very much. from sam

Mr. Smithers
January 6th, 2010, 02:30 AM
As much as I hate to say it, this relationship might not work out. The long distance relationship thing might not work out. Maybe you should listen to your parents about this one.

Also don't post the same problem on two different sections.

Shum
January 6th, 2010, 02:38 AM
i posted it in two different places coz i didnt know which one to out it in,
in terms of your advice, there is no bloody way i would ever end it personally, and im pretty sure eddy loves me lots as well :) well i know he did before this happened. now i dont kno what he thinks...
i was more wonderng about what i shud do about my parents?

Mr. Smithers
January 6th, 2010, 02:55 AM
You are going to meet a way better person than him. You guys can still remain friends right? About your parents, you are going to have to sit down and talk to them about it. Maybe you can come up and agree with how you are going to solve this. Your parents only make the best decisions for you.

Sage
January 6th, 2010, 03:22 AM
Look at how you are feeling and acting right now. This is why your parents feel this relationship isn't best for you. Think long and hard on that.

AllThatIsLeft
January 6th, 2010, 03:25 AM
I dealt with the repeated thread. Keep in topic. ~ AllThatIsLeft

Evermore
January 11th, 2010, 03:46 PM
Okay sorry to say this but long distance relationships like that annoy me. How can you call this dating. Dating means you go on dates? You've never even seen this guy for all you know it could be a fat pedophile. Images you've seen of him could be anybody. Random people off the street, he just got them off the internet, or his son. Long distance relationships can work if you've already been dating and they move. Or they're in the military or on vacation but not like this.

Mental
January 13th, 2010, 08:59 PM
Okay sorry to say this but long distance relationships like that annoy me. How can you call this dating. Dating means you go on dates? You've never even seen this guy for all you know it could be a fat pedophile. Images you've seen of him could be anybody. Random people off the street, he just got them off the internet, or his son. Long distance relationships can work if you've already been dating and they move. Or they're in the military or on vacation but not like this.
To be honest, that's not a fair assumption. How do you know he hadn't met him in the past, or even if he's from online has not seen this guy on webcam and spoke over the phone/Skype to him?

I know some e-dates have ended up tragically, where some gullible 13 year old girl fell for a 48 year old pedo who was posing as a 15 year old Prince Charming, but most e-daters are smart enough to ask for more proof besides just pictures. I know e-daters that phone eachother, Skype, talk on Facebook (where they have hundreds of legitimate friends) regularly, and some have even met - I have yet to see anyone turn out to be a 50 year old pedophile.

Anyway, Shum. Your parents aren't comfortable with the fact you're dating someone online. Perhaps you need to prove to them that he is genuine. Show them his Facebook, or when he's on cam/Skype get them to see and listen to him. Maybe even introduce eachother over the phone.