sexual stuff

[Billy15]

you guys are probably going to think i am a serious dork but does caring about someone or being gay have to only be about sex? i really do like sex and i get boiled up just like everybody else lol but if i am gay (and i think I am) i want it to be about more then just sex ya know :) id like it to be about loving someone and being good to each other and stuff. I mean am i weird to think that way? should i just be thinking about sex at my age or is it ok to want more then just that?

[woody92]

you guys are probably going to think i am a serious dork but does caring about someone or being gay have to only be about sex? i really do like sex and i get boiled up just like everybody else lol but if i am gay (and i think I am) i want it to be about more then just sex ya know :) id like it to be about loving someone and being good to each other and stuff. I mean am i weird to think that way? should i just be thinking about sex at my age or is it ok to want more then just that?

No i dont think your a dork. No I dont think caring or being gay has to only b about sex. It is about how you feel for that person. Ok normaly guys think about sex most of the time but there are quite a few (like me and you) who think about the LOVE behind it. And I think being gay is why we think like that because we see the bigger picture of LOVE.:lol:

[CrAzMaN011]

It is fairly common to have a sense of being gay during puberty so just wait it out

[Tanner]

yes itstotally normal, you might be just more mature for your age, but i just dont think about sex either, although i think about it alot, i think about lovelike you do, its totally normal, dont worry, your a normal (hot) kid, (i did the hot part as a joke as to make u think im thinking about sex ) hahaha

[jgibbsd]

No... I do not think you are a dork. At your age you think more of sex than anything but you have to think about it and make sure you really care about the person. If you want more than that it is perfectly fine it just means you are more mature.

[Carfreakjack]

Ya of corse with my last gf I knew we wouldn't have sex. And are u openly gay to friends and family? Jw

[Zanra]

I'm the same way. Sex is great and all but I like to have a relationship about true emotions

[Footballkid27]

your not a dork love is the whole point of it. im bi and only do want sex but the whole point is love not sex. gay means u like guys not just wanna have sex

[RJLOVER]

you are so not a dork...im in love with a boy and if we were together if he said you will never see me naked i wouldnt care cause all i want to do is be with him

[XxHaViiK]

No, being gay/bi is still about the love of the other person. Sex is just a bonus.

[maestro15]

READ THIS! I had this lecture recently on having sex. The man says that sex is a good thing. even before marriage. But think as sex as a fire place. as long as that flame is in the fire place, you will enjoy it safely. But if it goes out of the place, you could burn down an entire building. The fire is your sexlife and the building is you and your social life. It is also a good idea to equally balance all the other things besides and before sex like Hobbies, beliefs, stories, favorite things and so on. Lots of teens your age only do the sex and the chart does not balance. Make sure that you are ready for sex when you know this person mentally, socially, spiritually (optional) and then once you have that palanced out, you can start thinking of physical and sex stuff. why find other people when your still finding yourself?

[BlackBetty]

you guys are probably going to think i am a serious dork but does caring about someone or being gay have to only be about sex? i really do like sex and i get boiled up just like everybody else lol but if i am gay (and i think I am) i want it to be about more then just sex ya know :) id like it to be about loving someone and being good to each other and stuff. I mean am i weird to think that way? should i just be thinking about sex at my age or is it ok to want more then just that?

You are 100% right!! Having a relationship is not totally about sex. You need to beable to be compasionate to the other person and do things OTHER THAN SEX!! Some people don't relise that, but It seems like you do!:P;)

READ THIS! I had this lecture recently on having sex. The man says that sex is a good thing. even before marriage. But think as sex as a fire place. as long as that flame is in the fire place, you will enjoy it safely. But if it goes out of the place, you could burn down an entire building. The fire is your sexlife and the building is you and your social life. It is also a good idea to equally balance all the other things besides and before sex like Hobbies, beliefs, stories, favorite things and so on. Lots of teens your age only do the sex and the chart does not balance. Make sure that you are ready for sex when you know this person mentally, socially, spiritually (optional) and then once you have that palanced out, you can start thinking of physical and sex stuff. why find other people when your still finding yourself?

Yeah, and it was in the wrong place.

[muscleuncutboy]

No, being gay/bi is still about the love of the other person. Sex is just a bonus.

wise words!

[hottstudd4u]

it is okai to think that way cause mi gurl fran thanks that same way too

[DareDevil]

It's great that you would be thinking about wanting more. Any good relationship should be about more than sex. Communication and understanding need to be built first, before you both become too wrapped up in the touching and feeling. I know a few couples who've had a tough time pulling themselves from a purely physical relationship into an actually functioning one.

I don't know what exposure you've had to gay life when it comes to the long-term, but there really are men (and teens) who think about their future with the idea of another man with them. And there are guys who want that as well, it just never occured to them, like myself. Marrying another man had never really occured to me until my boyfriend brought up the idea a week ago (don't worry, it wasn't a proposal. He just wanted to make sure I was planning to stick with him ((which of course I am)) ). And the minute he did I had to sit back for a moment,partially cause I never expected to have this conversation in the first month, but also because I had never given something that important any thought before. Of course I knew pretty quickly that of course that's what I'd want- but the long story now shortened is:




No, you're not a dork. If anything, that's a pretty mature thought. You should be proud of yourself, and willing to build a relationship before you 'indulge.' It'll make the indulgences more satisfying and you'll have the security in knowing you're not wasting your time.

[CaptainObvious]

you guys are probably going to think i am a serious dork but does caring about someone or being gay have to only be about sex? i really do like sex and i get boiled up just like everybody else lol but if i am gay (and i think I am) i want it to be about more then just sex ya know :) id like it to be about loving someone and being good to each other and stuff. I mean am i weird to think that way? should i just be thinking about sex at my age or is it ok to want more then just that?

That's not dorky, that's pretty normal, though not as normal as it probably should be for teenagers. Wanting more than sex is definitely not a bad thing, it's a good thing.

[Lil D]

its okshould i just be thinking about sex at my age or is it ok to want more then just that?I`ve thought the same thing when you said:does caring about someone or being gay have to only be about sex?

[kdddd]

billy, no i think that you sould think about love as well, you should not just want sex you should want a relationship which means you would have to love. I think that swhat it would mean to be gay

[enzenzz]

without love, sex is nothing but two people bumping bodies.

[nick]

No, being gay/bi is still about the love of the other person. Sex is just a bonus.
QFT, if you didnt feel the need for love you could be counted as just curious.

[ACQD139F83J]

that's perfectly normal... I know people that call themselves bi and they're only interested in sexual stuff with the same sex, so I think they're just curious. I personally didn't actually realise I was gay until I fell in love (well I think it's love...) with a guy. That's what a relationship is... it's not sex. (though it can involve it).

[penguin13]

That's the problem with youth today, not just gay youth. But anytime you're in a relationship it's all about the sex. I like billy's attitude :D!! Loving someone is about having a relationship with them, talking, being with eachithe and enjoying eachothers strenghts, weaknesses, good poins and faults. Not about dropping your trousers at every opportunity. I won't deny that sex is a fundamental part of any relationship, be it a same sex or opposite sex relationship. If we, the teenagers of today, understood this more - it may lead to more stable lives, better partnerships in the future. Divorces may be less common as people understands, as stated in previous posts, relationships revolve around a balanced system and sexual activity only occupies a portion of this system.

Well that's just my opinio

[Squisheee]

You're adorable (:
You're so not a dork.
Even though I like that in people.
and ALL relationships should be about more then sex. :P

[tbboltz92]

omg dude ur soo awsome... no i dont think sex should be ur only thought... Caring about other ppl is what a relationship is supposed to be.. all though it doesn't always turn out that way

[jimmy mccallum]

no no not at all mate, a relationships foundation doesnt include intercourse, its all about your gennuine love for one another. if a relationship is built on love then its bound to fail, caring about someone soo mucha and loving everything about them is whats involved in creating a long and lasting relationship.

and what you wrote seems completely normal to me, sure your young but its just shows how mature you are looking past the sex side of a relationship, i respect you highly for that

[StraightAcE]

its normal

[Nelson]

Billy15, ive been there, i used to be all about sex, i found someone, i loved him, it was good while it lasted, but when it was over i just went back to sex.

Relationships are what you make of it, not what the other person wants :)

PM me anytime mate

[Giles]

I consider that to be what makes you gay.
Having serious feelings for a guy is what makes you love that guy, not his cock or his ass.
If you only wanted him for the sex then I'd say you might be bi or curious.