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sam i am
January 5th, 2010, 05:00 PM
Well lately i been having dreams about me getting sexually abused when i was 5. I never had dreams about it well i don't remember any. But it's been getting worst i got over what happen.Idk what to do I'm so scared to sleep or do anything.I don't talk to my godmother's brother who did it to me,or even my godmother. Does anyone know y i get these dreams out of no where? Y is it bothering me now like i never had nightmares about it and now i do i can't stand it

Mr. Smithers
January 5th, 2010, 05:51 PM
Well what are you watching before you go to bed. What are you eating?

Those don't sound like just ordinary nightmares.

sam i am
January 5th, 2010, 05:54 PM
usually before i go to bed i talk to my friends on aim. and food wise idk what ever my mom makes lol but what i eat never affect my dreams

Mr. Smithers
January 5th, 2010, 05:56 PM
Well most of the time when you eat a lot of sugar foods, ice cream, candy, things like that, you get nightmares. Also when you watch scary movies or something on television that might have scared you before you go to bed, you get them.

If this is happening night after night, talk to a school counselor.

sam i am
January 5th, 2010, 06:04 PM
No i eat candy alot and i never get nightmares. But i don't want to go to a counselor I wanna forget these dreams i don't want my family to know i got sexually abused i just wanna forget about it.

Mr. Smithers
January 5th, 2010, 06:13 PM
Well, maybe you can listen to some music before you go to bed, or don't watch tv at all before you go to bed. But if it keeps happening you might have to see a counselor.

SnowWolf
January 5th, 2010, 09:22 PM
Have u been abused this way? Dreams are like little symbols of your life. Sleeping allows for a persons naturaly sicth sense to came awake. Its like predicting what is going to happen to you.

Heres what i found at http://www.newagedirectory.com/dream/dictionary.htm

rape - You feel used or your integrity violated by someone or circumstances that was forced upon you.
sex - The most powerful instinct in the human psyche. Satisfy a natural desire when sex is absent in waking life. With someone you like platonically: Affirming a close relationship. With someone you do not like: Time to moderate those negative feelings about them. With the same sex: Can be yourself dealing with your male/ female counterpart. The part of you that you don't like.
hope this helped. :P

soccer8
January 5th, 2010, 09:56 PM
well any upsetting memories or seeing someone that remindes you of that time might bring about these dreams

sam i am
January 5th, 2010, 10:10 PM
umm well yea when i think about it. i made a new friend and he looks just like him but younger.

Kahn
January 5th, 2010, 10:52 PM
You need to express yourself. Obviously you are having these dreams because they are trying to tell you something. You need to talk about it. You need to get it out of you. That is what you need to do, not what anyone wants you to do. It may be a hard path but you must get it over with to forget about it.

Appleton
January 5th, 2010, 11:10 PM
Sam
I was abused around that age by a family member as well. You never truly get over it, you simply learn how to cope with it and with the aftermath. You haven't had the chance to really do that since you never told anyone and you've never gone through any kind of healing process.

I know you say you don't want anyone in your family to know what happend to you. I know, I was there. But you have to understand that you did nothing wrong here. Your godmother's brother did. It's his fault, not yours. The first time you tell someone will be the hardest time, trust me. But you need to do this. The way you're feeling now - imagine that compounded by the knowledge that your not telling anyone may allow him to abuse someone else.

You need to do this. Tell a parent, tell a teacher, a counselor at school, someone at your church if you go, but tell someone buddy. Then, don't ask, but demand that you get into some kind of counseling. I'm telling you, it helps.

You've had the courage to live with this since it happened, now you need to have the courage to go to the next step. I think you can. If you need to talk or need to vent or cry, get in touch with me. My info is on the contacts tab on my profile. You'll be in my prayers and thougts buddy.

sam i am
January 6th, 2010, 12:15 PM
But the thing is i don't think he would do it to anyone else he was around my age when he did it(maybe he was curious..idk), on jan 7 of last year i called him and i asked and yelled and cursed at him but he denies it.I really can't do anything.I don't want him to get in trouble and its been 9 years i have no proof and i can't handle being in a drama situation right now. And plus my parents wouldn't believe me they so close to them they known them longer than me. i just can't tell no one i need to get rid of them fast.Last night i had another nightmare :/ it felt real and i woke up crying. ik i should tell someone but u gotta understand i can't