Internet Dates?

[lalivre]

Some people ask this question often: should I date this guy/girl on the internet? Honestly I would say yes. There's no harm, no foul, but some people you just can't trust.:type::love:

[Sugaree]

Honestly, I think internet dating is just an excuse of saying "I have no social life." Dating someone from the internet is just a waste of time. If you want to date someone, go out and meet people. Sure, the internet is a way of meeting new people, but if you want to date, you need to get out in the real world. No matter if you trust someone you meet on the internet, you shouldn't date them.

[The Batman]

Honestly, I think internet dating is just an excuse of saying "I have no social life." Dating someone from the internet is just a waste of time. If you want to date someone, go out and meet people. Sure, the internet is a way of meeting new people, but if you want to date, you need to get out in the real world. No matter if you trust someone you meet on the internet, you shouldn't date them.

There are plenty of healthy relationships that have started online and have outlasted ones from local guys/girls. Any kind of relationship can survive if both people are willing to put 100% into the relationship and are completely honest with each other. Relationships don't depend on distance they depend on the people involved.

[Sage]

There are plenty of healthy relationships that have started online and have outlasted ones from local guys/girls. Any kind of relationship can survive if both people are willing to put 100% into the relationship and are completely honest with each other. Relationships don't depend on distance they depend on the people involved.

Sadly you can't really expect that from teenagers, which is why online dating services tend to be directed at adults. :rolleyes:

[DecemberRain]

There are plenty of healthy relationships that have started online and have outlasted ones from local guys/girls. Any kind of relationship can survive if both people are willing to put 100% into the relationship and are completely honest with each other. Relationships don't depend on distance they depend on the people involved.

Highly agree. But I think it matters how mature you are really.

[woody92]

There are plenty of healthy relationships that have started online and have outlasted ones from local guys/girls. Any kind of relationship can survive if both people are willing to put 100% into the relationship and are completely honest with each other. Relationships don't depend on distance they depend on the people involved.

I also SO Agree I have a BF (drewlink99) and I love him to bits and I think of him in everyday. And I think we will be together for a while and I hope so too. We are ove 5000 miles apart, but who cares I still love him and I know he loves MEE too. REP+:lol:

[laurita_21]

I also SO Agree I have a BF (drewlink99) and I love him to bits and I think of him in everyday. And I think we will be together for a while and I hope so too. We are ove 5000 miles apart, but who cares I still love him and I know he loves MEE too. REP+:lol:

Edit: never mind :whoops:

[ChaoticHarmony]

me and chris have been dating online for over 4 months now....and we plan on spending the rest of our lives together. so no, i dont see anything wrong with online relationships. :D

[MacMilker]

me and chris have been dating online for over 4 months now....and we plan on spending the rest of our lives together. so no, i dont see anything wrong with online relationships. :D

yessir and im very happy for the two of them...this is just one of the many ik that have been going for a long time, some even several years.

i love this one kid and i hope we do go out online eventually bc he is amazing, he was my first crush EVER! lol and i rlly do like him :))

[MysticalBurrito]

There are plenty of healthy relationships that have started online and have outlasted ones from local guys/girls. Any kind of relationship can survive if both people are willing to put 100% into the relationship and are completely honest with each other. Relationships don't depend on distance they depend on the people involved.

Couldn't agree more.

[Giles]

There are plenty of healthy relationships that have started online and have outlasted ones from local guys/girls. Any kind of relationship can survive if both people are willing to put 100% into the relationship and are completely honest with each other. Relationships don't depend on distance they depend on the people involved.

I agree, as long as they're mature enough to have a proper relationship.

[Gumleaf]

i only think internet relationships work when there is a realistic promise that you will get to be together in the future. otherwise there isn't much point getting involved in one, because after the initial attraction stage in the relationship, you will want to get more physical, meaning hugging, kissing, etc and the internet doesn't offer that option obviously.

[ChaoticHarmony]

i only think internet relationships work when there is a realistic promise that you will get to be together in the future. otherwise there isn't much point getting involved in one, because after the initial attraction stage in the relationship, you will want to get more physical, meaning hugging, kissing, etc and the internet doesn't offer that option obviously.

ah, but chris and I are the exception that proves the rule. we never even knew the other existed until we met here. we've never met. but we will. we already have plans and the "realistic promise that we will be together" has formed.

[woody92]

ah, but chris and I are the exception that proves the rule. we never even knew the other existed until we met here. we've never met. but we will. we already have plans and the "realistic promise that we will be together" has formed.

I can also say the same thing about Me and Drew, we love eachother, we have never met, etc..., but we also have plans to be together.:yes: I hope all goes well for you and Chris!! All the best!!:thumbsup::thumbsup::thumbsup:

[Kaius]

There are plenty of healthy relationships that have started online and have outlasted ones from local guys/girls. Any kind of relationship can survive if both people are willing to put 100% into the relationship and are completely honest with each other. Relationships don't depend on distance they depend on the people involved.
Highly agree. But I think it matters how mature you are really.

Agreed, if you can be mature about it theres no reason why it cant last.

[aaaaaaaaaaaaaaagg]

I think that any relationship can last as long as you're with the right person.

[Mal]

I don't see anything wrong with online dating. Obviously it's the not the same as being with them in person, but that doesn't mean it's worse. Hell, the absence of a physical partner often means you get to know them as a person better (or at least sooner) which can be incredibly good for the relationship.

However, obviously yes, it does require that you will eventually meet up. A few meetings here and there to see how things go, and if it's all good then everntually one of you is likely going to have to move away from home. This can cause some issues if you're from different countries, but to be honest the world is getting smaller every day and if you spend enough time on the internet to date someone over it, you probably don't have that much of a life where you are anyway. Ok that last bit's a tad cynical but whatever. :/

[alex95]

i alex have a gf name laura i fucking love her ide do anything for her (including die) no joke and i really care i love her so badly with all my heart shes got me rapped around her finger... I hope we can be together one day..

[thrust of trust]

There are plenty of healthy relationships that have started online and have outlasted ones from local guys/girls. Any kind of relationship can survive if both people are willing to put 100% into the relationship and are completely honest with each other. Relationships don't depend on distance they depend on the people involved.

i agree. hands down.

[Shum]

eddy, my boyfriend, lives in england, and i live in aus. everything works out fine between us. the only problem is my parents dont like the internet dating idea :/

[woody92]

eddy, my boyfriend, lives in england, and i live in aus. everything works out fine between us. the only problem is my parents dont like the internet dating idea :/

so as long as your happy... who cares??

[nick]

I find it difficult express this because this subject is too personal to me.

Can you feel real, lasting love for someone you've never met, well yes, I can. Is it easy to sustain that over a period of time, no, not always. As Stephen has said, you reach the stage where a typed *HUG* is not really enough, where the longing to be closer, to be able to touch, becomes a frustration. The question then becomes whether that frustration breaks the relationship or whether the love is strong enough to live through it.

I have no choice in the matter, I love him as much now, more even, than on the first day.

[Appleton]

ah, but chris and I are the exception that proves the rule. we never even knew the other existed until we met here. we've never met. but we will. we already have plans and the "realistic promise that we will be together" has formed.

Exactly babe. What we have may have started online but its just as real as if we had met at school or through mutual friends. Love ya babe. :)

[Zanra]

I've had plenty of online relationships and as long as it makes you happy and it's real, that's all that matters

[lalivre]

I don't see anything wrong with online dating. Obviously it's the not the same as being with them in person, but that doesn't mean it's worse. Hell, the absence of a physical partner often means you get to know them as a person better (or at least sooner) which can be incredibly good for the relationship.

However, obviously yes, it does require that you will eventually meet up. A few meetings here and there to see how things go, and if it's all good then everntually one of you is likely going to have to move away from home. This can cause some issues if you're from different countries, but to be honest the world is getting smaller every day and if you spend enough time on the internet to date someone over it, you probably don't have that much of a life where you are anyway. Ok that last bit's a tad cynical but whatever. :/

Very well put!

[The Batman]

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[lalivre]

Great comments guys! I love them! You guys are so well spoken. I love that you guys aren't afraid to speak your mind! keep them rolling! I'm eager to hear what you have to say! :D

[YesterdaysNews]

like many people said, as long as the relationship is strong, and both partners are committed, theres no reason why it shouldn't work out just like any other relationship. But words can only do so much and go so far. If one partner isn't willing to meet the other in real life, the relationship will go nowhere. And things can get hard, really hard... but Josh and I are still going despite our arguments and problems. I know I love him, as much I know to love someone. One year in 12 days <3. And he is flying up on valentines day. The moral of my story is, if you really care for someone, hold on to them, you'll be together sometime. And if it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be.

[lalivre]

like many people said, as long as the relationship is strong, and both partners are committed, theres no reason why it shouldn't work out just like any other relationship. But words can only do so much and go so far. If one partner isn't willing to meet the other in real life, the relationship will go nowhere. And things can get hard, really hard... but Josh and I are still going despite our arguments and problems. I know I love him, as much I know to love someone. One year in 12 days <3. And he is flying up on valentines day. The moral of my story is, if you really care for someone, hold on to them, you'll be together sometime. And if it wasn't meant to be, it wasn't meant to be.

Thanks for the post!

Great posts, guys!
If you want to add something use the edit button don't double post ~Empty Misery

[Alfred Pennyworth]

I think that they can be great. Sometimes when you meet someone, it doesn't matter how, you can just feel something between yourselves. As other people have said, it can be a good thing, because you can get to know each other better. I believe, that if you are serious about it and have made plans to meet each other, I believe that it helps strengthen the bond between you and will help you cherish the time you have together even more.

[Jean Poutine]

No, not really.

There are so many variables that are missing online...for example, you may think I'm a huge jerk on VT, always saying the uneasy truth and criticising others and being a general jackass, but I'm the most sensible, caring and romantic guy I've ever known IRL. I simply don't let that side of me show where it is irrelevent, only in private.

Given these variables, nobody on VT would ever think of dating me. If I let people get close enough to me IRL I would probably be pretty successful. Unfortunately, I tend to be too protective of myself to let girls anywhere near the real me.

The flip side of the coin is possible. Maybe online it'll be best love forever, but once you meet maybe that person is totally different. Maybe he or she has certain mannerisms that were not apparent online and that annoy the fuck out of you. In extreme cases, maybe the person isn't even what s/he told you, or led you to believe.

It's possible to know a part of a person online, and love that part...but there are many others that are missing. They may be just what you're looking for, or they may ruin the whole portrait.

[lalivre]

I don't agree with meeting the other person and leaving. Internet dating at such a young age is complicated because when they come down to see you and then leave you'll crave their presence more and more. I think it makes the relationship a little more complicated. It's as if you need the other person around you after they leave...like a drug. You begin to feel lonely. I feel that it is better to date someone when you have easy access to them.