finding someone

[Billy15]

i think a huge part of puberty is dealing with all the new feelings that your body is telling you but also all the emotional stuff that seems to go along with it. Emotional stuff like meeting someone (like on the net) and developing feelings for that person and experiencing stuff that you never felt before even though it's not touchable. Puberty makes you feel stuff that you would normally never feel could happen and thats why i wanted to ask this question.

if you meet someone on the net and you realize that you'll probably never meet in real life and you'll never touch or kiss or do anything sexual together
but you still feel very close to them and want to know them better every day,
why do emotions let you get carried away like that? i mean is it because something is better then nothing or can you actually love someone and have like a bf relationship on the net>

i hope that doesnt sound to weird, sorry

[Fruit_Tart.]

hummm.... well i think that your emotions get to you and make you get like that way that you need someone with you...
on the net bfs are ok... but yeah i would want someone to touch and cuddle with... ya the online ones are ok. i do get emotional and all weird when i chat or like message or something... like i want them there cuz i have no one with me... but having someone online is better than nothing especially if you dont want your sexualilty revealed like mee.
to the question you had ummm... i dont actually know why emotions get to you like that. maybe its becuz your meant to do something or act even though you dont see them. like if your showing that you have feelings... idk. jus thinking outloud. and sorry if this is completely no help... << wow longest post ive had. but i want to know too... so yeah.. :)

[enzenzz]

love is an emotional response, you do not need the physical aspect to fall in love, it only reinforces it.

most of the time its easier to fall in love with someone who you only see the good part or the part they want you to show, its too easy to just turn off the computer if your are not feeling good but its different when you are actually with that person and see him or her anytime.

You form emotional bonds with them from getting to know them and that sometimes is stronger than being in just a physical relationship. You feel that they like you for who you are and not from what you have or other material things.

I wouldn't really consider anyone online a bf/gf until you meet them. I just consider them as really close friends you can share your life with.

[vincent_jamez]

Hey Billy:)
I think the SAME EXACT way.
I just never knew how to put it
all in words. But you kinda put it
all together for me!

I wish I had an answer to your question. But the same thing always happeneds to me. When I meet somebody online I wish I could meet them in person, hang out with them, touch them, but I can't and probably never will.
Like some people here on VT, I think we could be extremely good friends and everything but I know we can't. Just like how me and you PM, it would be really cool if we could chyll and meet in person, but like you said, we probably won't.... unless you somehow get a ticket to Long Island New York lol
emotions suck.
They play games
with your mind.
I always ask myself the same questions,
but could never understand.
hopefully one day my mind will
come to an understanding.

[kdddd]

I think, that you can have a online relationship in some situations
but if you want you can pm me and ill tell you what i think aobut it, i think most of has to do with if you can really trust someone

[Severus Snape]

Online relationships have obvious drawbacks and imo can only go so far due to their physical limitations.

[Billy15]

i guess i am lucky because lots of guys on here write to me and for some reason they think im ok or cute and stuff and even though i dont see all that in myself lol it makes me feel good that some guys are so nice and like me 4 me. for obvious reasons i cant do that at home so vt and my friends here give me hope lol. other guys write to me and just ask sex stuff and 2 be honest i dont like that 2 much because to me they dont really want to know me, they just want to know my size or to see a pic or web cam (which i dont have) and besides i think i have more to offer then just that.

but what im talking about is someone who really stands out from all the rest, someone who just wants to know me and who seems to understand me and care about me and when i meet someone like that it makes me feel different inside. it makes me want to know that person more and to get closer to them and even though i know we will probably never meet it is someone i can talk to about anything and someone i can care about and someone that makes me feel normal and not all hidden away and being ashamed that i might be gay. his words take me away from this place (home lol) and help me to accept myself and there is no way i could ever feel that way around here.

i know he doesnt love me or anything like that lol (well i dont think he would) but i guess what i was asking in the first question was, is it possible to fall in love with someone that you will never meet or touch and can only talk 2 over the net or is thinking like that really crazy and stuff? im not saying im in love with anyone or anything lol but i am curious if that can happen and has it ever happened to any of you guys. sorry if all this sounds lame.

[enzenzz]

what you may be falling in love with is just a part of a person. im not saying that they may be lying but there is always a possibility that they are only showing you one part of them and what your seeing is just the idealized part of that person.

i seem like a downer but there will come a time when you will want more than just talk.

[kenshin8106]

you deffinetly have the right idea about the feelings and such. I don't think its weird at all that you have the want to be close with someone, that you at least know cannot judge you in some sense because their not physically there. It's good because its a way to vent, or feel love, and express your curiosity, but at the same time you can say whatever, because its not like you'll ever meet. This could be good but at the same time in some sense its bad cus you'll never be able to hold this person or try what you would love to do the second you saw them in person. I think you get so attached just because its kind of appealing to have sumone you can do all of the things that go along with a online bf or gf, and not worry about the consequences, its normal to want to have someone like that. I think its okay to do, its a good stress relief and you can talk how you would want with your best bud but without worrying about omg what will he say if i ask him about his penis!? So i think its a good thing to have, just be careful out there :D

[Pudd]

I had a kind of internet bf. We planned to meet but one day last month he hit me with.
"I dont think i want to meet you irl" Which really upset me and ive not spoken to him properly since :(

PS i knew that he wasnt a paedophile because im also in contact with his school friends, seen pictures of him. All of the evidence has been consistent. At first i was a bit dubeous though.

[CaptainObvious]

i guess i am lucky because lots of guys on here write to me and for some reason they think im ok or cute and stuff and even though i dont see all that in myself lol it makes me feel good that some guys are so nice and like me 4 me. for obvious reasons i cant do that at home so vt and my friends here give me hope lol. other guys write to me and just ask sex stuff and 2 be honest i dont like that 2 much because to me they dont really want to know me, they just want to know my size or to see a pic or web cam (which i dont have) and besides i think i have more to offer then just that.

but what im talking about is someone who really stands out from all the rest, someone who just wants to know me and who seems to understand me and care about me and when i meet someone like that it makes me feel different inside. it makes me want to know that person more and to get closer to them and even though i know we will probably never meet it is someone i can talk to about anything and someone i can care about and someone that makes me feel normal and not all hidden away and being ashamed that i might be gay. his words take me away from this place (home lol) and help me to accept myself and there is no way i could ever feel that way around here.

i know he doesnt love me or anything like that lol (well i dont think he would) but i guess what i was asking in the first question was, is it possible to fall in love with someone that you will never meet or touch and can only talk 2 over the net or is thinking like that really crazy and stuff? im not saying im in love with anyone or anything lol but i am curious if that can happen and has it ever happened to any of you guys. sorry if all this sounds lame.

That kind of thing definitely happens to lots of people. I've personally never fallen in love online, but I've seen it happen. It's natural to develop feelings for a person when they're so kind and caring and helpful, there's nothing wrong with that. But I would not recommend getting into any kind of serious relationship online.

[MacMilker]

Was this about me? Lol

[Fruit_Tart.]

^^haha. lol :D. my thought is that its about a relationship with person and why we would have emotions for those we dont know, only by online stuff. why people get into the emotions and if you can actually love over the computer or phone or watever you use.

[MacMilker]

well, I LOVE HIM