Bi and gays PLEASE READ!

[Alex17]

Please help me. I am bi. I have known that I was for a while now and I am accepting it. The only problem that I am having is trying to figure out how to tell my friends. I don't think I am ready to tell my family yet though. How did you guys finally tell people?

[woody92]

Please help me. I am bi. I have known that I was for a while now and I am accepting it. The only problem that I am having is trying to figure out how to tell my friends. I don't think I am ready to tell my family yet though. How did you guys finally tell people?

Well you can read my story HERE. (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=62049) I am gay btw. But I will just say that I have come out to close friends and my imidiate family (my mum, dad and sister).

My advice to you is to tell ONLY thoese people that you REALLY TRUST!!
However I tell one girl who is a blaba mouth because I dont want have it as a secret

PM me if you any questions!:)

[BuryYourFlame]

Moving to Teen Sexuality

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[Teardrop Harmony]

i just nudged my friend and sed to him god that girl is hot and he looked at me confused and asked 'Taylin are yo a lesbian' i replied 'no i am bi' and we just laffed and now they accept me for who i am. nearly everyone in my school knows and it is great coz i am hv been in some great relationships coz ofit

[woody92]

close female friends who aren't big mouthed are the most understanding ...I told a girl my age that I was bi and she said it's cool . prepare to answer questions too

then if u have any guy friends who aren't homophobic , tell them one by one :) and take it slowly otherwise it can become a bit overwhelming

what you say here si SOOO ture. I found that girls are the most understanding. and yea they do ask a lot of questions, I have heard them all...lol.

i just nudged my friend and sed to him god that girl is hot and he looked at me confused and asked 'Taylin are yo a lesbian' i replied 'no i am bi' and we just laffed and now they accept me for who i am. nearly everyone in my school knows and it is great coz i am hv been in some great relationships coz ofit

I am glad your happy!! And I wish everyone in my school knows (but not 1 person knows at school) coz i have just moved schools (last september)

[Quick_Sylver]

Mkay. I told my best friend first, then her BF, then a close friend, then my mom.

This is how it went with Nat
Me: Hey, what do you think of homosexuality?
Nat: I think it's their choice and if they like the same sex, that's up to them. Why?
Me: I'm bi.
Nat: Uhm, pardon me? What's 'bi'?
Me: Bisexual, liking both genders emotionally and physically.
A dozen questions later>>>>>>>>>
Me: So you're cool with it?
Nat: Totally. It's cool, don't you know?

I did the same with her BF and the close friend, but with my mom I kind of blurted it out and she had a similar reaction as to Nat.

I don't suggest you telling anyone who might tell everyone before you want them too. Stay strong.

[Stewart]

Well, you should check out EmptyClosets. It's a great coming out website. It really helped me, but the best way to come out is just to ask them how they feel about homosexuality, and then say, "I'm "whatever""

[ChaoticHarmony]

i basically just asked we are friends right? and i can trust you right? and told em im bi. a got a few questions and a couple of my friends thought i was kidding but i told em i wasnt. lolz. yea just tell really close friends that you trust and dont go to fast, it can get overwhelming

[MacMilker]

i think i basically just told them, the majority of my friends are girls so it was easy. now we talk about guys and stuff its fun :)

[Fruit_Tart.]

hmmm... its hard for me cuz my rez is like homophobic and i cant reveal it there. my school is okay but if i do then most of the people there will be not talking to mee. umm id say tell all of your chick friends first see how they react. then if its going smooth then tell more and more people till most people know :D. sorry if im no help :(.

[Sugaree]

Please help me. I am bi. I have known that I was for a while now and I am accepting it. The only problem that I am having is trying to figure out how to tell my friends. I don't think I am ready to tell my family yet though. How did you guys finally tell people?

First, welcome to VT. Nice to have you on board. Second, coming out is a BIG thing. Trust me, a lot of people on here know including me. I came out to my aunt first because I had trusted her. She gave me enough support to finally tell my mother, who was a bit reluctant but eventually has accepted it. Coming out is something that you need to tread very carefully. ONLY, and I mean this, ONLY tell the ones you trust the MOST. Be sure that they can keep a secret and not blab it all out to others.

I would suggest going out to your friends first before your parents. If they were true friends, then they would understand that this is who you are. Parents are a bit harder to get by. My mother was extrememly hard to convince, but she eventualy accepting it as I previously stated. Now, weather or not you feel comfortable telling both of them at one time or not is up to you. Just be careful with this. If your parents don't like this, or fully hate it, then you risk a great threat of being disowned. Just BE careful. I wish you all the luck in the world.

[Severus Snape]

If you don't know the right way to tell them now is the wrong time to tell them. Think about it. Only you know your friends but a general rule of thumb to follow is to ease into it and if you know any of them are homophobic it may be best for your friendship not to tell them.

As of right now I have gotten most of my closest friends to say they wouldn't care if I was gay.

[Lifeguard18]

You can read my story and many others here ( http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=62049 )

like woody at the top said tell the people you trust first. I did and they don't give a crap and that makes me happy. :D

I would start with someone who you known for a long time and they don't care about sexuality.

Here's a tip: Girls are more accepting than guys. Outof all the people who know about me three are guys two are gay ones straight and those guys don't care at all. More girls know about me than guys.

[Appleton]

Like everyone has said, people you trust and slowly. I told my family on my birthday and slowly started telling close friends. No one betrayed me except for a little problem with my dad, which is slowly getting better. Like it was said before, be prepared for questions. Hope it works our well for you, PM me if you need to. Good Luck.

[Mr. Smithers]

Just tell them. If they are the kinds of friends that you are afraid of telling that sort of stuff about then they aren't the type of friends you should be having. :(

[Double_Ace]

Please help me. I am bi. I have known that I was for a while now and I am accepting it. The only problem that I am having is trying to figure out how to tell my friends. I don't think I am ready to tell my family yet though. How did you guys finally tell people?

everybody is different so there is no way of telling how they will react so start by tellin yo closest friends

[Zanra]

You don't have to tell anyone unless you are ready. I'm bi too and I made sire that I told someone who I could trust and would keep it a secret with me.

[KenFisher]

Gah, two threads about the same thing.
Was about to post same link, AppleFanBoy, Your thread. :P
I kinda don't want to post in two threads about the same thing...:(

So, what I'm gonna say is, yes, girls are more understanding. But mind the bitchy ones.

Guys...Not that they won't take it nicely, it's just that it depends on how well you get on with them.
If you get on well with them, it usually doesn't matter. (unless they are homophbic :/)

Prepared for some gossip and bitching about it, which should die down, as it's not interesting anymore. Like any other fact, like who's going out with who.

Only tell people when you feel ready, and that you know they're not gonna hate you.

Hah, colour coded for your convinence! *oh, Elan. And tvtropes.*
I do do good summaries?

[Tatsuya]

haaa yeaaa just tell anyone that you feel like saying.
like everyone said, they need to be really really close, and you can truly trust them.
but sometimes, even people you don't expect to be accepting will too. also, vice versa.
becareful though D: sometimes even the ones you expect to be supporting, wont be.

[hesastar18]

im very quite so i really dont let ppl ceartin ppl know about my sexulailty unless im sexualy interrested in the person, other wise im not telln u lol

[Drusilla Rules]

u don't have to tell people if they assume ur straight that's there problem

[TAC1]

I suggest starting with your closest male friends. Then work to your closest female friends. Preferably, I told me closest female friends since I know that they arent homophobic and they will more quickly accept me.

[SmileyGirl]

well im not bi or gay but i kno ppl who r and they sed wen ur ready ull want to tell.

[Carfreakjack]

just a warning if u tell ur friends ur family cold easily find out. thats y im still in the closet

[Eltoro123]

I DUNNO IM BI TO N DIS IS THE FRST TIME I SED N HAV NO1 TO TALK ABOUT IT WITH SO ALEX17 IF U WANNA TALK [email protected] JST ADD ME

[manlymadness]

Tel all your friend ones that are ok with it are true friendz

[Mysterious Skin]

You should tell them because if you told them and rejected you they're not really your friends are they?? i mean the liked you before.

[xSEBBIE]

Yeah, just tell your close close friends first and eventually as they encourage you you'll get more and more comfortable with it and tell everyone =] But yeah be careful who you tell, if they're you're real friends and love you they'll be fine with it. You'll reach your family in your own time.