I'm not sure if this is abuse or not...

[Asylum]

sorry its long...
- I live next door to two boys. At the time I was 13 and te older one was 13 (boy 1) and the younger one was 11 (boy 2). Anyway my little sister decided to give these guys my phone number and screen name (important)... Later that night, I was outside like normally drawling, reading and listening to my music, I love going outside at night. (This is in my own fenced in backyard. btw.) My grandmother was watching me and my sister that night, so parents were out. My sister was outside too talking to the two boys' younger brother (boy 3), he is about 6. So anyway... boy 1 and 2 invite boy 4 and 5 over, there friends..... they were around same age as other 2 boys 13, and 11. Note that 13 year old guys much bigger and stronger then I... They saw my sister who was talking to boy 3. They asked if I was out.... she pointed to where I was and told them how my parents weren't home.... I wasn't in a visible spot to where they were. I didn't think it to be anythign to worry about just a normal night. I grew up next door to thm, nothign to worry about... I played games with them.... I didn't think they would try anything... Anyway... boy 1,2, hoped the fence. boy 4 and 5 ran to to other side of the yard and hoped the fence there. Listening to my CD player I was oblivious. I then looked up to see all four guys in my yard. Hey guys... i walked towards them, you guys shouldn't be here, grandma is watching us, and she doesn't like kdis in the yard when she is over. boy 1 had a stupid grin on his face and I felt a hard smack on my butt and turned to see boy 4, so i can yell at him and slap him accross the face for laying a hand on me. When I turned boy 1 smacked me on the butt, i was so frustrated. It hurt so bad :( And by this time they formed a close circle around me. Anyway i turned i'd get smacked. I would see one guy try to smack me turn, ony to get smacked by someone else. It was all so fast.... my mind couldn't think... i knew i had to get out of the circle. About 11 smacks later, I tried breaking through the circle, but was grabbed and thrown to the ground. I then tried crawling, but was smacked and pulled inside the circle again. I just sat down and cried. They then laughed and walked away.

That night, I got messages on my cell phone from the guys... i didn't answer their calls, but I did listen to their messages. The messages were about rape. They discribed in detail what they weregoing to do to me. I was freaked out. but afraid to say anything. Theses were the people I was friends with....
later boy 4 kept messaging me online. and would leave me messages telling me where to touch him next time, to feel his boner, and let him finger me etc. ( i had no idea what he mnt by any of those....) i was still extremely inoccent.. i blocked him and all his other user names

Later that week I got several text messages from a random person that were death threats, rape threats, and just awful explicit messages from that person. I told my parents. all they did was go to my neghbors parents asking if the text was from boy 1,2. they said no...
we were going to take it to the police but decided agasint it because my parents didn't wnat to cause neighborhood trouble... but they did change my number for me.
but i still live next door to them... and i still am afraid to go outside...
i only go outside now in the woods.... and the last 2 times i've been chased and whilsed at by random teenage guys to come over where they were and followed. i was lucky to get away those 2 times.

sorry for the rant

[Rutherford The Brave]

Well It is abusive, if they are slapping your bum its sexual assault. I think you should tell the cops anyhow it isn't fair too you. You should tell your parents that you feel threatened and you no longer want to feel unsafe in your yard. Plus that you do not want to be raped and or killed.

[Sapphire]

:hug3: I am sorry to read that you have been treated like this. I've had all sorts of threats too and it can really scare you.

To be honest, yes, this was abuse.
Can you talk with your parents and tell them that you are scared to go outside because of these boys?
Taking some self defense classes would be good for you actually. It can be very empowering to know that you can fight off an attacker who's bigger and stronger than you.

[Asylum]

i've been tlaking to my parents about it though... like this happened 3 years ago... i brought it up to my mom last week for like the 7th time now.... , and it's too late to go to the authorities... i have talked to my parents about being afraid to go outside, but tey siad if somthing else happens they will go to the authorities next time...
i will definately talk to my parents about takin self defense lessons. they seem helpful

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Like Carole said, taking some self-defense classes might really help. I think it's a good idea for most girls, really, especially pretty ones like yourself. As a girl who's been whistled at/called after and gotten some creepy looks before I can say that knowing how to defend yourself really makes those situations less frightening. It lets you just sort of roll your eyes to yourself and keep walking. The average guy won't push it past the point of maybe calling you a bitch as you walk off if he's particularly ridiculous, but if one ever were to try something you'd know what to do. And that can be a huge comfort.

You can also look into finding a counselor, or someone you can talk to who can help you learn to get past this. Obviously it's had an effect on you if you're still afraid to go outside after three years. The counselor will help you put things in perspective so you can stop being afraid and move on with your life.

The reality is, none of those threats are ever likely to be carried out. Even though this still affects you, those guys have most probably forgotten about it and probably had no intent to honestly do the things they described to you. They certainly don't intend to now. That's the part that kills me, how you have to go through this and work to get over it and they can just forget it. It's a good thing, though, because it can maybe help you see that you don't need to be afraid. You're in control of yourself, no one else.

:hug:

[Asylum]

thanx Jessi for the post :) yea i'll definately give that a try and aww thanx. yes it would be helpful to defend myself in situations like that
i have a psycologist, but i haven't really trusted her enough to open up to her yet ya kno? i have difficulties opening up to people.
very true. that makes me sick too that they forgot and moved on... but it still bothers me :( i will try to work to move on. i need to do this with so many things. I mean its not forgiving, i've forgiven everyone who has hurt me, its jsut the forgetting...

[Evermore]

What assholes. sorry but this kind of thing pisses me off. Carry some mace with you. You said these kids were 11? That is just wrong.

[Asylum]

yea they are... i reall should yup 2 of them were and the other 2 were 13 at the time

[sabotaged111]

WOW, 13 year olds threatening rape and telling you to let them finger you? thats wrong, it's wrong at any age but woah, that's young! That was abuse, sexual assault and sexual harrasment. I'm guessing you still don't know who sent the death threats? Anyway, i hope you aren't too badly affected by those arseholes!(hug) Tbh, not every guy thinks of sex every 2 seconds, but i really cant get over the fact that 11 and 13 year old boys done that! It's just sickening. I'm sorry and i feel for you. If you'd like, add me as a friend and we can chat sometime:)

[SmileyGirl]

I agree self-defense classes will help and i'd get a restraining order against all of them.

[BeautifulDisaster]

Yes, it was abuse.
I'm sorry you went through this.

[Asylum]

yea it waz wrong and young.. nope still dont' knwo who sent the death threats..yea i kind of still am affected by them... 3 years latter... i'm glad there are guys out there who don't think that every 2 seconds. alright i'll add you thanx :)

thanx guys for all your responses yea i might need to take some self defense classes

[BiBoy13]

WOW! This is awful and sick! Especailly when the lads were so young. I think self-defence classes would be a good idea.

[Asylum]

yea it was sick... i will definately take it into consideratin thanx Matty

[Mattasaur94]

This is, in my opinion, abuse.
1- they physically hurt you
2- It was sexual
3- They verbally tormented you (i suppose) by laughing at your pain
4- They threatened you.\
5- Chasing you, thats harrassment.

To me, this is clearly abuse, the best thing you could do, seeing as your parents aren'tt listening to you, would be to talk to a friend's parents about it, they usually can help out, or, wag school and go to the cops... Depends on where you live and who you know.
=S
Sucks that alot of guys are jerks... Just... try not to let this change your opinion on all of us (guys) everyones different. :confused:

[Beautiful Obsession]

Yes it is abuse, they had no right to do that and the txts is harrassment.
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