I may be rethinking this

[Sapphire]

Some of you may remember that I reported one of my abusers to the police at the end of September. I gave a video interview and they took the family PC away for analysis in mid October. We haven't heard anything since.

After doing all of that, I have realised just how much I still have to tell my family. I know how much it will hurt them and I've recently found myself wishing that I hadn't started proceedings so I can spare them this. I don't need to cause more hurt in order to heal. I can heal myself without ever admitting to them just how far it went.

Ugh, my head is a jumble!

[overcome.]

This must be a very hard time for you in general, even without worrying about this. Sometimes people are better off not knowing particular details, I know it's not to be deceitful to not tell them this information, but it can avoid many things like hurt, anger and negative emotions. I'm not encouraging that you bottle everything up, but I'm also not sure what I'm really trying to say. It's a tough predicament to be in, I hope the abuse is in the past and not still going on. They will get what's coming to them, one day.

[BuryYourFlame]

Carol, healing isn't the only reason he needs to be behind bars; having him locked up will also prevent him from doing what he did to you to anybody else.

Yes, it will greatly hurt your family to hear this information, but I think it would be for the better. You have no part in this hurt, just because you tell them doesn't mean you are responsible for it in the slightest. Your family can only be there for you if you let them, and that is what family is for.

Stay strong. =]

[Sapphire]

I don't know what to think.
I know that I'm not responsible for what happened and that I'm not responsible for their emotions regarding it. But that doesn't seem to make it any easier.

[The Joker]

The amount of hurt that you'd be causing by continuing with him going to jail isn't as bad as the pain that he could make another person feel.

Think of everybody else, you and every other woman in the world would feel much safer knowing an abused is in jail.

[Sapphire]

I haven't voiced my hesitations to the police or my family as I suspect that I may feel more fortified and stronger in a week or two.
My counsellor has said she will help me deal with telling them.

[The Joker]

Good idea; sometimes it's hard to do it on your own.