Getting weird feelings about my friend, what should i do?

[Danny_Lakerson]

hey everyone. Im a 16 year old boy. and i'm straight, i know i am. i get excited when i watch girls do things with eachother..i fancy a girl at school.. but recently iv started becoming ...i dunno..sexually attracted you could say to one of my mates..its been worrying me alot and i don't know if i should tell him about it or not..iv known him for a long time and im really worried about how he would react if i said that to him..i haven't lost feelings for girls or anything like that. but iv just suddenly got really strong feelings for my friend..someone please help

[nick]

Well it has to be entirely up to you whether you choose to say anything. If you are hoping it might lead to something then you have to decide whether to take the risk of speaking or not. Unless you know or think that he is gay or bi he could react very badly to you saying that you are having sexual thoughts about him, to be honest my advice would be to keep those thoughts to yourself, it would probably ruin your friendship.

[KaelKaos]

hey everyone. Im a 16 year old boy. and i'm straight, i know i am. i get excited when i watch girls do things with eachother..i fancy a girl at school.. but recently iv started becoming ...i dunno..sexually attracted you could say to one of my mates..its been worrying me alot and i don't know if i should tell him about it or not..iv known him for a long time and im really worried about how he would react if i said that to him..i haven't lost feelings for girls or anything like that. but iv just suddenly got really strong feelings for my friend..someone please help

Like nick said, if you want to maintain your friendship with him, it might be best not to tell him. These feelings for your friend could easily just be a phase, a part of puberty, and can go away as easily as they came. I think you need to keep your friendship with him at the top of your priorities.

[Danny_Lakerson]

Like nick said, if you want to maintain your friendship with him, it might be best not to tell him. These feelings for your friend could easily just be a phase, a part of puberty, and can go away as easily as they came. I think you need to keep your friendship with him at the top of your priorities.

im just so confused..i mean im really close friends with him as it is. and iv never thought of him in this way before..i still get turned on by girls etc..and i still fancy three of the girls in my year..but its gotten to the point when i think it would bother me if he has a girl friend because i wouldn't want him being as close with anyone else as he is with me, his best friend..only in the last few weeks have i had these thoughts and they're a really worrying me. iv got exams soon aswell and cant be distracted by this sort of thing :(

[KaelKaos]

im just so confused..i mean im really close friends with him as it is. and iv never thought of him in this way before..i still get turned on by girls etc..and i still fancy three of the girls in my year..but its gotten to the point when i think it would bother me if he has a girl friend because i wouldn't want him being as close with anyone else as he is with me, his best friend..only in the last few weeks have i had these thoughts and they're a really worrying me. iv got exams soon aswell and cant be distracted by this sort of thing :(

I think you're worrying too much about this. He's your friend and sometimes we get crushes on our friends, it's happened to me many times, male and female. The best thing to do is to push it aside, it can almost never lead to any good. And the part about him having a girlfriend or not..that's being selfish. Yes he's your best friend but he deserves to have other friends too.

[Starlight Blaze]

trust me put it aside at least 4 now i got one and didnt let go and now its border obsession. its prolly just a phase

[MMVM_Kaputt]

I think you could wait...maybe a month or so...and see if your feelings have changed any.
If not, and you still have those feelings about him then you could hint at it, or ask him if he has ever felt strange around other boys...that way you know what he thinks of boys in a sexual way and you can move from there, confide in him that you might be bisexual...though if he doesn't think of males like that, you don't have to mention that you like him in more ways than just a friend.
If he is curious or bi, then go for it, tell him!

Good luck :)

[Lifeguard18]

You could be curious. If it just started don't think your sexuality is changing permanently. If it continues for about a month or two then you could possibly be bi. Like I said if it just started dint think your sexuality is permanently changed.

[ModernWarfare]

i m right there with u

[Aspiringanonymous]

Old thread, locking.