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MacMilker
December 31st, 2009, 06:22 AM
Okay, hello all. I have a huge crush as some of you may know on this guy. Those of you who are maybe into astrology, im a libra and hes a aquarius (which go very well together) We flirt all the time, and have all the same interests, i mean all the same stuff. we just have so much chemistry, so much likes, we agree on everything, and we can talk to each other for hours, and hours, and hours with basically not saying anything big. He always has me laughing, (normally im the only one putting on the show, lets put it that way) and vice versa. When we met i already had a lil crush on him, but i didnt start to flirt because i wanted to know everything about him, before i just hopped into the i love you thing (which ive never tried b4, {it works}). So now its pushing 2 weeks we've been talking. We know everything about each other, likes dislikes, and our personality features top to bottom. And ive started to flirt with him and talk about love, and how i really like him, and how liked him for a long time. those of you who know me a little too well are prob like great, hes falling in love again, well i am, but this time i feel different, like i can see myself with this guy, caring for him etc etc. I know this is different.

But heres the prob we talk about meeting all the time and what we would do, and when we do he seems so passionate about it, but i talk about dating and loving him and all he has to say most of the time is "thanks" whats that mean?

im almost 100% certain he likes me, but doesnt show it. and what i also think hes worried about is the distance. Now dont get me wrong but we really dont live that far considering other places.i live in CT he lives in Buffalo, which is a four hour drive, we could meet somewhere half way on our first date, you know whatever lol.

but why do you think the distance thing is such a problem to him, before we know it we can drive, and we get a long so well, and when we can drive ill like see him every weekend. and i dont think he is going to find anyone where hes at, because its like anti gay central, idk y.

How do i convince him this: what we have is special, i really like you, and when we think about it, for what we have in front of us, the distance thing isnt really a big deal

i think about what are the chances (in terms of astrology) that i found someone who is so likeable and amazing, and perfect for me, (like totally my type) thats an aquarius and im a libra. i mean seriously i could of met anyone with those qualities whos not an aquarius (11 other astrology signs)

i look at him and i see us in the future, i see us having an amazing life...why doesnt he? :headache:

anyways guys thanks for listening to my epicly long post, i love all of you...really

~FALCONBR8VE

The Joker
December 31st, 2009, 06:43 AM
Long distance relationships rarely work, and online ones never work. Plus, you're 14, that would just make it doomed to fail.

madman
December 31st, 2009, 06:44 AM
i guess he does like you, and u obviously like him, maybe hes just shy about saying how he feels, give him time to feel comfortable with everything, dont try pushing him let it happen as it should. as for the distance then its not ages away but again it might make him not secure about it. wait a while and see what comes from it

MacMilker
December 31st, 2009, 07:04 AM
Long distance relationships rarely work, and online ones never work. Plus, you're 14, that would just make it doomed to fail.

yeah but you dont really understand, this isnt really considered that because we live close...and thanks for the support :'(

KaelKaos
December 31st, 2009, 01:53 PM
I think he's nervous about the distance because he doesn't want his relationship to fail. 4 hours is not TOO far, but it's definitely much less convenient than living in the same town. I think you should convince him to meet you halfway for a first date, just to try things out. Distance relationships only work if both of you are equally committed.

MacMilker
December 31st, 2009, 10:32 PM
I think he's nervous about the distance because he doesn't want his relationship to fail. 4 hours is not TOO far, but it's definitely much less convenient than living in the same town. I think you should convince him to meet you halfway for a first date, just to try things out. Distance relationships only work if both of you are equally committed.

O-M-G thank you...so much for a reply that wasnt like "oh, your gonna fail miserably" that does make a lot of sense and i GREATLY appreciate it

happy new year:yes::yeah::yummy::cool::D

CaptainObvious
December 31st, 2009, 10:43 PM
Long distance relationships rarely work, and online ones never work. Plus, you're 14, that would just make it doomed to fail.

Hmm, remarkably wise for someone so young. :P

He's right. Long distance relationships are very difficult, and the ones that last almost invariably start with people who know each other well who then end up being pulled apart, from what I've seen. And online relationships never, ever work. For long.

So that's why this guy is wary.

YesterdaysNews
January 1st, 2010, 12:56 AM
Hmm, remarkably wise for someone so young. :P

He's right. Long distance relationships are very difficult, and the ones that last almost invariably start with people who know each other well who then end up being pulled apart, from what I've seen. And online relationships never, ever work. For long.

So that's why this guy is wary.

Just FYI my boyfriend and I are pushing a year (Jan 18) and he's flying up February 14. So not ALL online relationships are doomed to be short lived.

But, they are very difficult, and if he's even the slightest bit not committed, you'll get hurt. I suggest talk to him more and see how he feels about being committed to each other over a distance. if he's not interested, don't push it. Long distance and online relationships aren't the healthiest kind, so don't wait around for this guy.

The Joker
January 1st, 2010, 10:10 PM
yeah but you dont really understand, this isnt really considered that because we live close...and thanks for the support :'(

I'm just telling you this from personal experience.

MacMilker
January 4th, 2010, 05:52 PM
I'm just telling you this from personal experience.

oh okay, thanks for the insight :yeah: