Art_dude
December 30th, 2009, 06:52 PM
The title says it all.
I'm in an extremely tough situation with a current friend. Her name is Serena and I've known her for almost 3 years. We met freshman year in high school and we became very close. WE actually didn't have much in common but it was one of those serendipitous friendships that unexpectedly happened where 'opposites attracted.' At the end of my freshman year I decided to leave the private school we attended together. I'm not going to get into the drama of what happened (it had nothing to do with my friend - it was personal and I left for several reasons) anyway the bottom line is that I left and she wanted to remain friends.
I wanted to remain friends as well, but after a long summer and completing my first year of homeschooling, I had a lot of time to think. I learned a shit load about myself, and matured a lot. And the more I saw Serena the more I realized how much I changed, and how much she hadn't. It was nothing personal, it was just that I noticed I had grown a lot and she was still very 'young' Serena was always verrrry nerdy and verrry young. She's an only child and has had a very sheltered life - I'm not going to get into the details but let's just say she's never been allowed to wear makeup let alone leave her house. She is extremely smart but she acts very young for her age, you know what I mean? I was aware of this when we were in school together but for some reason it didn't really matter much. However now that I wasn't in that environment anymore I was acutely aware of her age and all her other idiosyncrasies.
I GIVE and I NEVER get anything in return. This is always how my friendships have been and I'm sick of it. I'm always the one to pick her up when she's upset. I'm also the one who listens to her go on and on about stupid crap that is irrelevant to even herself. And then when I open my mouth to say anything worth mentioning (gee like PHILOSOPHY or ART, or POLITICS, GOING TO A FUCKING PARTY AND GETTING SHIT FACED) lol she looks at me with a blank face and doesn't even listen. Or when she does she has no idea what to say - I don't even blame her: I've had a relatively normal upbrining. She hasn't. It's literally like talking to a kid.
I love her to death (as a friend) and I will always cherish our friendship but I can't deal with her anymore. I've been trying to slowly distance myself but she keeps clinging to me because I'm really the only friend she's ever had. I feel absolutely terrible about wanting to break off all of my ties with her because I know I'm all she has, but she is preventing me from doing things I want to do. If she doesn't want to have a life that's fine, but I won't let her bring me down with her :/ Any suggestions on how to go about ending this?
I'm in an extremely tough situation with a current friend. Her name is Serena and I've known her for almost 3 years. We met freshman year in high school and we became very close. WE actually didn't have much in common but it was one of those serendipitous friendships that unexpectedly happened where 'opposites attracted.' At the end of my freshman year I decided to leave the private school we attended together. I'm not going to get into the drama of what happened (it had nothing to do with my friend - it was personal and I left for several reasons) anyway the bottom line is that I left and she wanted to remain friends.
I wanted to remain friends as well, but after a long summer and completing my first year of homeschooling, I had a lot of time to think. I learned a shit load about myself, and matured a lot. And the more I saw Serena the more I realized how much I changed, and how much she hadn't. It was nothing personal, it was just that I noticed I had grown a lot and she was still very 'young' Serena was always verrrry nerdy and verrry young. She's an only child and has had a very sheltered life - I'm not going to get into the details but let's just say she's never been allowed to wear makeup let alone leave her house. She is extremely smart but she acts very young for her age, you know what I mean? I was aware of this when we were in school together but for some reason it didn't really matter much. However now that I wasn't in that environment anymore I was acutely aware of her age and all her other idiosyncrasies.
I GIVE and I NEVER get anything in return. This is always how my friendships have been and I'm sick of it. I'm always the one to pick her up when she's upset. I'm also the one who listens to her go on and on about stupid crap that is irrelevant to even herself. And then when I open my mouth to say anything worth mentioning (gee like PHILOSOPHY or ART, or POLITICS, GOING TO A FUCKING PARTY AND GETTING SHIT FACED) lol she looks at me with a blank face and doesn't even listen. Or when she does she has no idea what to say - I don't even blame her: I've had a relatively normal upbrining. She hasn't. It's literally like talking to a kid.
I love her to death (as a friend) and I will always cherish our friendship but I can't deal with her anymore. I've been trying to slowly distance myself but she keeps clinging to me because I'm really the only friend she's ever had. I feel absolutely terrible about wanting to break off all of my ties with her because I know I'm all she has, but she is preventing me from doing things I want to do. If she doesn't want to have a life that's fine, but I won't let her bring me down with her :/ Any suggestions on how to go about ending this?