Scars... if some one offered you...

[Faithfull]

If some one offered you the chance to remove all of your SH scars knowing that they would never come back, 100% for free... would you do it?

I dont think i would... i like my scars. They all tell stories, they all make me remember things that i would forget if i didn't have my scars there... I'm not saying that i'm proud of them but i wouldn't want them to go away, they're a part of me now i think.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Yes, I would remove these mistakes from my body.

[ShatteredWings]

Right now, no.
I don't trust myself to not just do it again.
And they don't bother me...

[-Silence]

Yes, I know what I've done and I know what I've been through so I dont need these scars to remind me.

[Krazymitch]

I dont think i would... i like my scars. They all tell stories, they all make me remember things that i would forget if i didn't have my scars there... I'm not saying that i'm proud of them but i wouldn't want them to go away, they're a part of me now i think.

i agree with the first post...i feel as if it is apart of my life, if i didnt have them i would be missing something.

[Nostrum]

it depends. i've cut something into my upper outer thigh that i wish i never did, and i'd like that to be removed.
but presently, i would not like my other scars to be removed, until they became a hindrance in my life or learned from them.

[xxLostAndUnfound]

That's a hard question. Personally, I don't mind my scars. Although it would be nice to be able to wear short sleeves without people questioning me 24/7.

[Malcolm Tucker]

No, the one's that I have left I want to keep, to remind me of what I don't want myself to do, and the consequences of my actions, they're with me for life so I won't do it again.

[DarkWingedAngel]

no
because well I think i still might do it agen
i mean it would be great to not have them there when i have a kid but agian i might still do it later.

[Harley Quinn]

At this moment, no, i want them because of the story behind them.
In the future, sure i won't want them, but if they are there then it's fine with me.

[The Batman]

Yes I rather just get past it all and have nothing remind me of it.

[BlackenedSilver]

I would like to say no, but tbh I really would say yes. They don't bother me at all in fact I quite like them it's the questions I can't handle. I hate how people look at me when they see them.. People judge far too easily.

[MadManWithaBox]

no. I don't like them at all. But I can't imagine not having them.

[ShatteredGlass]

Yes, My scars only show everyone how much I hurt, and I hate appearing vulnerable

[Asylum]

yes and no... i like my scars sometimes, ad then during the summer... i'd rather not have them :(

[Project Delta]

No, I know that i will never do it again, But still i dont want to just get rid of them, I see my scars now as a message that humans are not perfect and that for myself means i cant always do what is thought i must. Which gives me hope and leinience with the work that i do. Although i can try my best it wont be perfect.

[ktkurbst0mp]

Some of them, yes.
I want the ones off my legs.
The ones on my arms, well, honestly I've learned to live with them.
And 99% of my life is spent in a hoodie.
But I don't want to forget...

It's like, if I cut my hand using a saw and it healed right away and left no mark?
The next time I used the saw, I'd use it the same way. And hurt myself again.
But if the cut took a lot of time to heal, and it left a mark, the next time... I'm probably going to say, hey, that hurt me. Maybe I should use the saw a different way. And change what I did.

Yes, when people stare, it makes me wish they were gone.
But I've learned to live with them this long, I can live with them forever.

[Zephyr]

Yes.
My arms and thighs look like I got mauled by a cougar or something.
I trust myself enough to not cut now,
That I'd take such an offer.
Besides, I hate looking at them and being reminded of things past.

[Sapphire]

Even though they don't normally bother me, I would have them removed.
I'm looking to the future, not the past, and I don't need them to remember my past hurts.

[psalm]

YES! With pleasure. I hate my scars! I wish they weren't there.

[hazza213]

Holy hell yer they make me feel so embarrassed but the minor ones are starting to go from 2 years ago so YAY!!!!!! xx

[Amyxoxo]

Well yes i would, because i know that when im older i will look back on now and think how stupid i was being. If i have children i dont want them to be cuddling me and see all the horriffic scars over my arms, if they ask i dont want to ever lie to them either so i dont want to say that i self harmed because im sure it wouldnt go down well with them. What if you cant get a job when your older, what happens if you want to go swiming on holiday with your children. No matter how much you try you will never be able to hide these scars they will get out some way. Seriously i regret even thinking about starting to do it as it has cause me so much hell. xx

[Sapphire]

Well yes i would, because i know that when im older i will look back on now and think how stupid i was being. If i have children i dont want them to be cuddling me and see all the horriffic scars over my arms, if they ask i dont want to ever lie to them either so i dont want to say that i self harmed because im sure it wouldnt go down well with them. What if you cant get a job when your older, what happens if you want to go swiming on holiday with your children. No matter how much you try you will never be able to hide these scars they will get out some way. Seriously i regret even thinking about starting to do it as it has cause me so much hell. xx
You actually learn to accept and live with them. I barely notice the ones on my arms nowadays.
There are laws in place to ensure that discrimination in the workplace doesn't occur so you can't lose a job or get turned down because of your scars.
With children, they are only curious. They aren't affected hugely that their cousin/sister/brother/mother/father has scars and don't do or say anything beyond asking what happened.

Hope that gives you a little piece of mind.

[1_21Guns]

I'm not sure, but no, I probably wouldn't have them removed.
At times, they are triggering, but I have nothing to hide. I'm not proud of them, but I'm not ashamed either. I've made my mistakes. I've done it now.
Each scar is a story, all be it a story of something that went wrong.
Sure, if I have kids, they might see them, see the mess I made, the damage I did and some guys will probably run from me when they see them, but if they can't take me for who I am and accept the things i've done, what kind of guys are they?
If anyone asks, I have no shame in explaining. Each one of them is a journey. Yeah, they remind me how good it felt, how much everything hurt at the time, but they also remind me of the strength I had to stop.

We can't magically undo every mistake we ever made, so why should this one be any different?

[Amyxoxo]

You actually learn to accept and live with them. I barely notice the ones on my arms nowadays.
There are laws in place to ensure that discrimination in the workplace doesn't occur so you can't lose a job or get turned down because of your scars.
With children, they are only curious. They aren't affected hugely that their cousin/sister/brother/mother/father has scars and don't do or say anything beyond asking what happened.

Hope that gives you a little piece of mind.

I dont understand....you would be happy to tell your children that you have self harmed that is why you have scars over your arms???
If you have to go to hospital for your injurys then it goes on your health record and employee can look at this and make a jugment according to this!

[kipper]

Not in a million years they remind me of what i have been through and the mistakes i have made

[OnlyByTheNight.]

Yes, I would like to be rid of them all. Except one, because the reason behind that one cut taught me alot. Other than that get rid of them! I just see them as an annoying reminder of all the stupid mistakes I have made!

[Sapphire]

I dont understand....you would be happy to tell your children that you have self harmed that is why you have scars over your arms???
If you have to go to hospital for your injurys then it goes on your health record and employee can look at this and make a jugment according to this!
Employers and potential employers cannot fire you or turn you down purely on the basis that you've got scars and health records are confidential so they can't access them without your consent, even then, they can't use that to eliminate you or dismiss you. If they do make decisions like that because of your scars/record then you can take legal action against them on grounds of discrimination.

I would be ok to tell my children why I have my scars once they have reached a certain age.
I am not proud that I resorted to it on so many occasions but neither am I ashamed of it. Both attitudes, I think, would cause problems when it comes to ones own children asking questions.
If I can use my experiences to help them grow into understanding and compassionate people then I would be happy.

[Obscene Eyedeas]

I would never get rid of them. I have memories of long lost friends attached to them. Ones i never wnt to forget

[Reflection.]

If some one offered you the chance to remove all of your SH scars knowing that they would never come back, 100% for free... would you do it?

I dont think i would... i like my scars. They all tell stories, they all make me remember things that i would forget if i didn't have my scars there... I'm not saying that i'm proud of them but i wouldn't want them to go away, they're a part of me now i think.

I don't know understand why anybody would keep their scars. Don't your scars remind you of painful memories? Fights? Depressions? Your answer is making it seem like your self harm never happened, and all your memories of it would dissappear.

Why would you want to live with something that's only caused you nothing but pain and misery? It makes absolutely zero sense to me.

[Amyxoxo]

I don't know understand why anybody would keep their scars. Don't your scars remind you of painful memories? Fights? Depressions? Your answer is making it seem like your self harm never happened, and all your memories of it would dissappear.

Why would you want to live with something that's only caused you nothing but pain and misery? It makes absolutely zero sense to me.

This is so true i dont understand either. If you over come your self harm then why would you want to wake up everyday and be reminded of it?
So people say it does something to them to remind them of what they over came (or something like that...), would they not want to forget about it as things move on, people move on and change. You will be juged for it, no matter of legal souts will make it any different.

As i said before it will stop you from doing things when your older no matter what!

[Project Delta]

Amy, i'm one of the people who dont wish to get rid of them. Wanna know why? Because its a battle that has made me stronger, and the self harm scars are trophies of the war that i've beaten. They are proof to me that i am not perfect, but i will have to keep trying to be so. When i'm older i will remember the bad times, but the feeling i felt when i realised i was over it for good too.

[Amyxoxo]

But with the scars there, it will never be over for good. It reminds you of the battle that you won but you got battle scars out of it.... But i respect yours and other peoples oppinions ....

[Reflection.]

Amy, i'm one of the people who dont wish to get rid of them. Wanna know why? Because its a battle that has made me stronger, and the self harm scars are trophies of the war that i've beaten. They are proof to me that i am not perfect, but i will have to keep trying to be so. When i'm older i will remember the bad times, but the feeling i felt when i realised i was over it for good too.

But just because you're getting rid of the scars doesn't mean that your forgetting about the WAR that you won. The scars are just reminding you about the BATTLES you lost. Your memories should be proof enough that you're not perfect. You should be able to remember how you overcame your self harm when you're older without having to be reminded of your painful memories everyday.

Like Amy said though, I respect your opinion.

[Project Delta]

And i respect yours too. But i still stand by what i said :)
Everyone is different but when i see my scars, i'm not bothered really. I'm just proud of myself for being able to stop when i never used to think i could :)

[Sapphire]

But with the scars there, it will never be over for good. It reminds you of the battle that you won but you got battle scars out of it.... But i respect yours and other peoples oppinions ....
I actually disagree.
I've got all of my scars and my self harm is over for good.

[Amyxoxo]

I actually disagree.
I've got all of my scars and my self harm is over for good.

But i dont understand how it is over when you still know that it is there ....

When you look at your arms or whatever you will see the painful times that you just couldnt cope with in the right way. With things like these on your arms no matter what any laws about discrimination or anything like that people will still treat you defferently that is the way it is.

[Sapphire]

I am not proud of the scars but at the same time I am not ashamed of them. I recognise that it wasn't a good thing for me to do but that at the time it was the best way of coping that I had. I have moved on and no longer need it to cope.
That is how I know that it is over.

People can and will make judgments about me. I don't care. The people who matter in my life don't care.
But if employers or potential employers discriminate against me then I will fight it.

[Loislane]

Guys, if some of you do want your scars removed, it might be worth trying bio-oil. They may not remove ALL of them completely, but for some they will, and for others they will fade them.

[xrazor_tearsx]

No way, never.

They're like the road map of my life, they show me how far iv come and one day il be able to look at them and be proud of what iv overcome.

[Sunshine Girl]

I would want them gone. Too many reminders.
I would rather blend in with everyone else.

[Kelsie]

I would remove some... Not all... The only ones i don't want are the scars on my legs and the scars on my ankle. Especially the scars on my ankle cause I stupidly cut my lover's name there. My parents don't know about him and if they knew they would never let me speak to him again. :(

[BeautifulDisaster]

Although I hate my scars & I have been severely bullied for it by both family members & people from school... They all tell a story, a memory...

I would love for them to disappear forever, but at the same time...
I think they all mean something important & tell their own individual story/memory.