Am I Overthinking This?

[Maxxy]

I've been dating my girlfriend for just over two years now, and now we have just graduated from school and beginning the rest of our lives. A few months ago we were drifting apart but we worked through it. The problem is over the past month it seems as if her and my friends have been excluding me from things, and I usually find out the following day. My girlfriend doesn't even question why I'm not invited, but what annoys me is that the four of them have been my friends for about 6 years, and she didn't meet them until we started dating. They have become her friends but I'm annoyed that they rather her and have said they'd stay friends with her if we broke up.

Now this is what I may be overthinking:
My friends and I organised to go to the club for NYE, all of us and my girlfriend. This afternoon I got a messege from my girlfriend saying, "I can't wait until tomorrow night, we can watch the fireworks and get plastered. Afterwards you can come back to mine and stay the night, my mum said it's okay. It'll be the best night of our lives, I can't wait to see you. It'll be awesome, we'll be so drunk. xoxo"

So naturally I was feeling happy as she hadn't let me know what we were doig for NYE, so I wrote back, "Awsome, but I can't get too drunk as I have work next day, and won't that be an attractive site if your totally smashed."

I then got a messege saying, "Cool, but sorry, that messege wasn't sent to you. I didn't mean get so drunk, it was a joke." She then told me who it was spose to be for, and it was for one of my closest male friends. I'm not usually jealous but it was just a little strange.

I'm not accusing her of anything, but I just wanted to know what other people make of this, especially as I never got an invite to stay the night, I do now after questioning it. It's just me, my girlfriend and my friend the night. I just find it strange and maybe this is why I haven't been getting invited, and I only found out about those things as when my girlfriend left her phone at mine she got a messege from him saying, "Wanna go out tonight, hit the town." I didn't think anything bad until when I rang her and told her the messege and she said they always go out, and she got angry when I questioned her.

I don't know, I'm just overthinking everything and too confused, but I'd like to hear what others say, even if it's telling me to get over it because it's nothing

[2D]

It seems a little fishy to me, I would sit her down and talk to her about it, just to make sure nothing is going on between her and anyone else. But be careful how you do it, you don't want her to get offended if it was harmless between her and your friend. Best of luck man.

[KaelKaos]

That is odd.

You're not over thinking this, you're her boyfriend and you have every right to know what's going on. Tell her you don't like that fact that she's letting another guy stay over at her house, and you feel like there's something she's not telling you. It could be nothing, you never know, but you need to find out.

[nutrick]

ohh man, this doesn't sound good. but my suggestion would be to remind her who her boyfriend is, and take charge of the relationship as soon as possible. talk to her about it, and if you find things you don't like, break up with her right then and there.


Cheers,
Patrick
www.patrickdomingo.com

[Maxxy]

Thanks guys.
We spoke about it and I would like to remain optimistic about it all, but I can feel the end is near. We spoke about it and just found that we are just drifting apart, and she says nothing is going on with anyone else, and I do believe that.
We decided that we'll go away this weekend, just the two of us to try and work it all out and just get away from everyone and this will probably decide the fate of the relationship. Both of us are expecting any outcome as we both already know the fate anyway.

As I said, I want to be optimistic but I'm being realistic and think that we've come to the end of the road as a couple. As sad as it will be, I already think that regardless the two of us will be better off not in a relationship. I would like to remain friends with her.

But fingers crossed for this weekend, that regardless what decision has been made that we are both happy with the outcome and able to continue our lives, even if we remain just friends.

[Baudelaire]

kick her to the curb, in my opinion, someone who wants to get "plastered" and spend the night at you male friend's house isnt being true to you, "the best night of your life" seems like something you would do with a lover, not a close friend, I dunno about your friends, but the girl isnt worth it.

however I could be completely wrong and they couldve just been partying with no intention for any of "that" ok? so dont be so quick to break up with her, its sort of a 50/50 shot.