Some Issues

[The Batman]

I really don't know where to post this so if any of you guys can find a better place go on and move it.

Issue #1.

So some of you guys know that not to long ago I was dating a guy and I found out he was cheating and I broke up with him not to long later. Now what most of you don't know is that very recently we've been talking every night before we went to bed and usually end up laughing and having a good time and like it really got me to realize that I never got over him so I decided to try and rebuild it make it stronger and actually have something this time but when I asked him if he wanted to try and get back together he said he needed to think about it so I waited almost a week for him to say something and he would always avoid it or if I asked him about it he would just say, "yea i thought about it" and then get quiet for alittle bit until i changed the subject, but when we didn't talk about it he would give me the impression that he did still have feelings for me and wanted to get back together. So like every night when he told me that he was going to bed I would tell him good night and that I loved him(I say it to pretty much all my friends before we go) and like he would usually just say thanks or something and he would leave but like one night he said it back and immediately left I have problems with reading to much into things and taking some things to seriously so I figured that I would try not to read to much into it but I ended up doing it anyway and assumed that he wanted to get back together. However I still had to know so the next night about midway into the convo I asked him about it and if he meant it and he said, "Yea, as a friend." That pretty much crushed me because I felt like he had been leading me on all week making me think that it would happen and he ended up not wanting to get back together. Then last night while we were talking he brought up the first day we met and said, "Who would ever thought that we would be such good friends after that, I'm really glad we are friends Thomas."

I've been depressed about this week to the point where I can't even sleep at times and I stay up just thinking about it. If I'm on msn I start talking to the people I usually do and if they ask why I'm up so late I just make up some excuse.

Issue # 2

I've had guy problems for a while and now that this is turning into one of the worse it's really got me thinking about my other relationships and my feelings during them. The truth is I'm not sure if I've ever really loved someone like with a real love. I don't really know what love is or how it's suppose to be felt so when I find a guy that has even the smallest amount of interest in me I usually jump at it and end up in a rushed relationship and just as fast as I thought I loved them it ends even faster. I want to be alone for awhile and not even deal with crushes but whenever I talk to certain people(my ex included) I just want to be with them and start up another relationship or something and idk all of this really sounds stupid.

I have a lot more issues but these are just the main ones and I really didn't want to post this on VT at first but i really don't know what else to do. I just want all of your honest opinions about what you think my future move should be or how you think I should deal with some of these and don't worry if you're confused because I do it to myself all the time.

[Sceneboy612]

There is only one thing that you can do that will help you, it will be hard, but you will feel better in the end. You have to let go. I know it is heartbreaking to do this, but it really does feel better in the end. You cant forget that he CHEATED on you. It was wrong of him to cheat on you, and it was wrong of him to lead you on. But he has made up his mind. Being friends with him is better than not having any connection with him, and who knows, it could be building up onto something better as a friendship, than it could being a relationship with him.

And you just havent found the right guy out there, there is plenty of guys around that wont cheat, or lie to you. Ones that will love you in return. All you have to do is wait, and you will find someone.

Remember, i am here for you if you need to talk to someone, and i am sure that i am not the only one :)

[The Batman]

Thanks John and yea I think it is time to get over him I don't want to do it but I have to.

[IAMWILL]

Hey Tom,
If its not meant to be, it's not meant to be, but don't worry, there's plenty of fish in the sea.
You need to relax and stop worrying so much about your relationships. I feel like you only want to be in a relationship because maybe your friends are in relationships, or all you her is about how great they are.
Step back for a bit.

[The Batman]

Thanks Will, I've been thinking about it all day trying to figure out what to do, I wanted to talk to him but he didn't answer my txts, or log on today so i said forget it. None of my friends are in relationships except like one or two the others are single just like me so that's not it but I've been thinking for awhile that I only want a relationship with a guy so I'm falling for the idea and not the person. I've been fighting back tears all day trying to resist some old habits but it's just getting harder and harder. He's the first guy to make me feel this low usually i get over it in a day or two but i can't get him out of my mind.