WHAT DO I DO?!!? (please read+respond)

[MacMilker]

okay, so heres a big effin problem...

i have a bf hes awesome, really cute, really romantic, we have everything in common. but he lives far away and hes 17, and im 13... i love him dearly, but today i was thinking about him, and i just dont really have the feelings for him anymore as i used too. also i live in ct, n he lives in utah. he said hed come and see me when hes 18 but what are my rents gonna say when i ask to hang out with an 18 yr old? and how would he come and see me? also we r way illegal too, which would technically mean i would have to wait until im 18, (longg time)

now on the other hand i met this rlly cute kid, hes 14, rlly nice rlly funny rlly cute, and lives near me. we were flirting a lot today, and are getting really close. we were takling how we would go see each other when we are older, and just hang out. then he added, and kiss and other stuff hah. (does this means he likes me) so i said yeah i would so do that.

now im starting to have feelings for him, and not much for my current bf, or as much for my current one.

so my question is, should i go with bf A, cuz hes rlly sweet, is so eager to see me, rlly cute, loves me so much. but we r illegal until im 18, he lives rlly far away in utah, im in ct.

or should i go with B, cuz hes also cute, funny, has a crush on me, doesnt live far away at all, and is only 14, one year older.


im so confused and i really need help, also if you guys think i should go with letter B, how do u think i would tell my current one?

thanks, love always

~falconbra8ve

[KaelKaos]

I think it's better if you go for B.

It might be hard to break up with your current boyfriend, but you've got a lot going against you two. Age isn't too big of a deal, but you live thousands of miles apart, and like you said, you're loosing feelings for him. And he might be sad, he might get mad, but in the long run it's better for the two of you.

[Kitty Purry]

i think u should go with the 14 year old he is your age and lives by u so you can have a better relationship. Also u can date him legally

[MacMilker]

thanks guys always

i love VT :)

[madman]

go with b, atleast you know who he is and can see him wen you want, and there seems to be something he likes about you, see where it goes it could be real

[Lord C]

I'm just reiterating everybody elses opinion. Go with B.

To your other question about how you should split up with A if you were to. It just depends on your form of communication. From your post I got the impression that you don't physically see each other much anyway, so that makes it easier. Just tell him that you feel it's not working, there's too much of an age-gap and it's hard for a 13 year old to keep up a long-distance relationship. (Don't mention there's another dude) ;)

[nick]

It wont work with A, the combination of the age difference and the distance make it impossible. Accept that and move on. If that means taking up with B then good for you.

[pol852]

i really would say go for the 14 yr old, i meen hes ur age and lives next to you,waaaaaay better then a long distant relationship(trust me), But if u really really love the 18yr old then stick with him!

[ktkurbst0mp]

B.
Because truthfully, you don't know what's going to happen with the other guy.
The thing with long distance relationships is that, you really don't know how the other person and you will physically mesh.
Plus, everyone has a longing for a physical part in a relationship.
Now, I'm not saying that's all that matters. But you being young, you should experience that too. I'm not going to lecture you about the safety issues about dating someone online. But it's not good.

Also, if you're not really having as strong of feelings for your current boyfriend, you should give this new guy a try.
As for telling him, just say it's not working out. Tell him you can stay friends if he wants, but you really don't want to be in a long distance relationship. If he says that he wants to come see you, just say he shouldn't because you're not interested.
He should respect you enough to accept that.
And if he doesn't, well he wasn't really worth dating in the first place, huh? :/ I hope I helped. Good luck.

[Sugaree]

Option B would be better for you. You and the other guy are not going to work out obviously. There' a big age difference and it's hard to keep up a long distance relationship. Going with the guy closer to your age is going to be better since you'll have some commonground there. Hope it works out for you.

[MacMilker]

thanks guys i love you all really. i read every single post and you all want B so i went with b. my current bf took it so so, he tried to send me on a guilt trip but i hung in there and didnt give in.

i actually feel much better now that hes kinda...gone. and i dont know why. maybe its easier for me cuz i dont have to plan how im gonna meet him n all that shit. idk all i can say is im glad i went with B, cuz he likes me tooo :D

[musiclover]

Go with B. Definitley.

[Santiago22]

I think that B would be the best option. He's only a year older than you and it really sounds like you like him. And just think about it, A is an adult and you r just entering puperty. Plus u dont even live near A. And with B u coould just go and see him any time u wanted. Hope this helps:)

[Tango]

thanks guys i love you all really. i read every single post and you all want B so i went with b. my current bf took it so so, he tried to send me on a guilt trip but i hung in there and didnt give in.

i actually feel much better now that hes kinda...gone. and i dont know why. maybe its easier for me cuz i dont have to plan how im gonna meet him n all that shit. idk all i can say is im glad i went with B, cuz he likes me tooo :D

Glad it went well for you :) I hope you and B have a good, happy relationship!

Having a real relationship is so much better then online. Long distant relationships are really hard to deal with especially when there's a big age gap.

[dmeek7]

Everyone must find out the hard way, but long-distance things never work out, and giant age differences never work out either. You should always choose the person more close to your age and who lives closer.

[bakrb448]

I think it's better if you go for B.

It might be hard to break up with your current boyfriend, but you've got a lot going against you two. Age isn't too big of a deal, but you live thousands of miles apart, and like you said, you're loosing feelings for him. And he might be sad, he might get mad, but in the long run it's better for the two of you.

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[georgiamay]

Please don't bump old threads, this is over a year old. :locked: