i did something WRONG!!

[blingibong]

i have a gf.....

i went over to my m8s last night not intendin to stay we ended up watchin porn and i was in boxers cos it was late i foned my parents to sy im not coming before hand.... and then its really obvus that both had boners as we where watchin it.... so he took his out and started to wank i followed and wanked as well then he took mine and tossed me off soo i had to do the same.... and he blew me i did the same n he slept naked and kissing each other.... (both of us have gf and now we feel bad about this (but we both enjoyed it )
what can we do??
is this wrong??
should we tell your gf??
any other advice?? (if this has happnd to u)

plsss help im desperate for help!!!

thanks !!!

[Krazymitch]

i dont think there is anything you can do...NO, do not tell your gf's that will just cause HEAPS of problems. i dont see it as being wrong, u didnt plan for it to happen, it just did by the sounds of it, if u had of planned for this to happen then i would say otherwise, but u didnt, did u?... i think u should talk to him about it, no matter how awkward it is, if u want to do it again tell him so, but if not then i rekon you should agree not to talk about it. hope that helps :D good luck

[SimSailorNick]

Maybe you were just curious and horny. I guess it's normal for most guys. You're fine and it would be better not to tell your girlfriend.

[Ballin2much]

dont tell, that will screw it up more,, if you feel bad try and talk it out with each other.

[foreverjd14]

its more experimenting than cheating i would say cause it was really kinda of a do i ike this or not kidna thing right? so i would say dont tell it was jsut experimenting and if they found out they wouldn't really understand

[woody92]

i dont think there is anything you can do...NO, do not tell your gf's that will just cause HEAPS of problems. i dont see it as being wrong, u didnt plan for it to happen, it just did by the sounds of it, if u had of planned for this to happen then i would say otherwise, but u didnt, did u?... i think u should talk to him about it, no matter how awkward it is, if u want to do it again tell him so, but if not then i rekon you should agree not to talk about it. hope that helps :D good luck

I agree! dont tell your GF's, coz it will just make problems!

[wisse2012]

hell dont worrie about it it was just a fluke

[Art_dude]

Don't feel bad about it? are you people serious? He slept and made out with another guy while he was in a relationship with another person! If you don't feel guilt after something like that then there's something wrong with you. It sounds like everything was fine and you were both having a fun time jerking off together until you crossed the line and had oral sex: that's cheating. If you want to wank with your friends be my guest: but don't excuse the fact that he slept and had oral sex as 'curiosity.'

[The Batman]

Don't feel bad about it? are you people serious? He slept and made out with another guy while he was in a relationship with another person! If you don't feel guilt after something like that then there's something wrong with you. It sounds like everything was fine and you were both having a fun time jerking off together until you crossed the line and had oral sex: that's cheating. If you want to wank with your friends be my guest: but don't excuse the fact that he slept and had oral sex as 'curiosity.'
^Best thing I've read in this thread^

Cheating is cheating if it's with someone of the same sex or different and that's what happened. Doesn't matter if it was curiosity or experimenting because the fact is you both have gf's. I'm not sure rather or not you should tell your gf because truthfully if I was her I would want to know if I'm being cheated on no matter what sex that person is.

[woody92]

^Best thing I've read in this thread^

Cheating is cheating if it's with someone of the same sex or different and that's what happened. Doesn't matter if it was curiosity or experimenting because the fact is you both have gf's. I'm not sure rather or not you should tell your gf because truthfully if I was her I would want to know if I'm being cheated on no matter what sex that person is.

thats VERRy true because i would want my partner to tell me.

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[ErykaInspire.]

If you truly cared about your GF you wouldn't have done it in the first place. All of these people telling you not to worry about it aren't helping you to make the best decisions.
To cheat, is one thing. But to cheat and keep it a secret is completely different.
You don't necessarily have to tell her the ENTIRE truth, but it'd be a better idea if you did. She may get upset, but I'd hope that she'd respect you for telling her. Explain that it was an accident and there was no emotion behind it. Just hormones out of control.
Best of luck.

[Fruit_Tart.]

^^thats wat im thinking... if you guys really loved your gfs then you wouldnt have done it. yes you were horny and i know wher that can lead, but if you truly wanted to keep the relationship with your gfs then one of you wouldve stopped and told the other guy to stop. jus my thoughs~~~

[ErykaInspire.]

^ + rep.

[blingibong]

thannks guys
i was drunk but thats not an excuse i no ill explain to my gf if thats what u mean n ill break up with her we av been togethr for like 4 years now but everything has its ending!! :'(

[ErykaInspire.]

You should've mentioned that you were drunk in the original post. How old are, anyways? I'm sure too young to drink. Breaking up with your gf is probably another mistake on your part. I'd say let her decide.

[Giles]

what can we do?? Nothing.... It's done now.
is this wrong?? Basically, is cheating on your gf/bf wrong? That's what you did, just not in anyway you expected to.
should we tell your gf?? If you can keep a secret, than I wouldn't bother. If you want a totally honest relationship then tell her.
any other advice?? (if this has happnd to u) It hasn't, but I'd just recommend not doing it again if you still want to be with your Gf.

[ktkurbst0mp]

I agree with Inspiration.
Definitely let her decide, unless you'd rather continue on with the relations with your buddy. Or if you never really cared in the first place.
If you're willing to just throw it away, it makes me wonder. But breaking up with her would kind of make her think that you prefer that over being with her.
And well, that might hurt her even more than just the cheating.

[Fruit_Tart.]

^^ Yup, Yup, and Yup... thats wat i think too. tell you gf that you did something with your mate then explain to her that you were drunk and that you were in wrong mind. but i still think that you wouldnt have done anything with your mate if you truly loved her. if i were you i would stay with the mate :)... Thats wat i think anyways.

[JustNcross]

Me and my cousin used to take turns sucking each other, but that was waaaaaaaay back when i didnt even know what penis was. i was like 7..

anyways i say you just follow your heart, it'll make the best decision for you :).

[The Batman]

I wouldn't tell her that it was with another guy. It's one thing to be cheated on with another girl but if it's a guy that's something that could end in disaster. Just let her know that you were drunk and things happened with you and someone else if she asks who then just tell her you can't say. Also you need to talk with your mate about this because if you guys do want to somehow end up together then you should really talk this over and decide how to tell his gf also but if you agree that it's just a one time thing and it won't happen again then you both have to find a way to avoid situations that might lead to another encounter like this.

[blingibong]

lol my heart its confusin atm and ur been mean Inspiration but lookin that you are a girl so its fair thanks

[Fruit_Tart.]

^^ wats mean about her?? shes jus giving a very reasonable advice...

[ErykaInspire.]

I'm not being mean. You're the one that cheated, mind you.
You're asking for help, i'm not going to hold back on my opinions.

[blingibong]

thats what i said im fine with it!!

[ErykaInspire.]

No need to yell. :P

[MoveAlong]

blingibong, calm down.

Why did you enjoy it? Because you were horny, and sexual pleasure is enjoyable. You don't need to have a girl to enjoy sex. I mean, you could be blind folded, get this great handjob, but it could be from a guy and you would still cum.

What can you do? You could become better friends, or do this again as a friend thing (that's not a bad thing - there are some guys out there that do this), or you could just not do it again.
But, be sure to talk with your friend and make sure it's okay between you two guys FIRST. No reason to lose a relationship.

Is it wrong? That's up to opinion. A lot of people think it's weird or gross. Personally, I don't think it's wrong. You guys experimented, as every guy has wondered about how it is with another guy before.

BUT, it can be wrong if you do something like oral sex unprotected. This is a real risk - not "omg I'm gay" or "omg freaking out" risk - you could catch an STD from unprotected sex of any kind. Do you want HIV? Do you want an infection?

Also, you should still be faithful to your girlfriend. Now idk how to explain this, but all I know is...don't get carried away.

Should we tell our girlfriends? No! Your girlfriend will be like "what the FUCK? You're fucking gay?! This is gross! I'm going to tell all my friends and then they will pass it around the school and you two will be called gay in the halls at school."
Don't tell them. Keep it to yourselves.


Lastly, calm down again. "Gay experiences", which I prefer the term "same-sex experiences", happen between guys sometimes. Be sure to be protected, if it's sex with a girl, or if it's fooling around with a guy. Be sure to talk to your friend about it and it straightened out. Some of the things you could talk about is...don't tell your girlfriends...do you want to do it again...it's not really "gay", and we're not "gay", because we both like women, and gays don't like women so we can't be gay...if you don't want to do it again that's ok, let's still be friends...etc. Idk, I can't give you all the answers.

[blingibong]

i spoke to him he said sorry and i said sorry he decided not to tell your gf but... i will never do it he wont to soo im happy so is he but i dont think i would be going out with her anymore...... she had sex with my friend 2 days ago and he told me :@

[blingibong]

thank you guys for your help but i guess she cheated on me beofore i think this thread helped me even if has no use anymroe :( im sorry

[woody92]

sorry to hear that mate! good luck in the future!
u can PMme anytime!

[Fruit_Tart.]

oh sh!t.. thats jus f*cked up. ha ha. im sorta got mixed feelings now. idk wat to think.

[blingibong]

im fine.... some one else asked me out all ready i said ask me later like in a month soo im ok oh well lfe has to move on

[woody92]

im fine.... some one else asked me out all ready i said ask me later like in a month soo im ok oh well lfe has to move on
YEA i know how u feel the same sort of thing has just happened to me recently (but i was the one who ended it).

[blingibong]

same i jst sent the vid my "friend" sent me of doing her.... guess she didnt no that she was used to make a vid... somone is not going to be happy....

[Giles]

same i jst sent the vid my "friend" sent me of doing her.... guess she didnt no that she was used to make a vid... somone is not going to be happy....

This is beginning to get even more pointless than when we found out it was pointless in the first place.

[woody92]

OMG!!!!!! THATS REALLY BAD!!!! so she cheats on you and then she (will) find out that she was used for a vid!
LOL sorry MATE!

[superstar2067]

I would talk to your friend a out it and NOT tell your gf
It was probly a spur of the moment type of thing

[blingibong]

done n done !! best day todayy suites her right

[ErykaInspire.]

You don't seem to heartbroken after a relationship of, how many years?, is over.

[Art_dude]

Wow this story got pretty fucked up pretty fast XD
hahaha Eryka thanks for beating me to the punches ;) Rep

I have nothing else to add other than, "wow." So much for trying to rectify the situation and trying to redeem any dignity you had left. "it suits her right?" wow dude.

[thrust of trust]

seriously...don't tell anybody about that. unless you wanna die at ur gf's hands...

[MoveAlong]

Wow this story got pretty fucked up pretty fast XD

lol yes it did