My Friend

[BlackBetty]

I was talking to my friend this evening and she was just talking about stuff. She said that her mom checks her phones text messages and she will randomly walk up and ask for it. I was picking and said, "What happens if you don't give her your phone"? She said "I get hit". I then said "That is not fair". She then says, "I get hit all the time, it don't bother me any more".

Ok, this is really stressing me out. I feel like I could have a neverous breakdown over it. Me and her is really good friends, and she don't deserve nothing like that.


:blowup:

[wisse2012]

wow that would bother me to id tell a parent or something nd get it stopped

[Dead_User]

I was talking to my friend this evening and she was just talking about stuff. She said that her mom checks her phones text messages and she will randomly walk up and ask for it. I was picking and said, "What happens if you don't give her your phone"? She said "I get hit". I then said "That is not fair". She then says, "I get hit all the time, it don't bother me any more".

Ok, this is really stressing me out. I feel like I could have a neverous breakdown over it. Me and her is really good friends, and she don't deserve nothing like that.


:blowup:

Man, dude, has she told anyone but you? And how long has it been going on?

[BlackBetty]

Man, dude, has she told anyone but you? And how long has it been going on?

She didn't exactly tell me how long it has been going on for, but I can tell that it has been a awhile.. She said she gets hit all the time. I don't know if she has told anyone besides me.

[cherry_boi]

i was in the same kind of situation, my best friends dad is an alcoholic and he gets violent when he's drunk

it's a really hard thing ot deal with and i have yet to find a good solution, the best so far is i have my bff call me whenever his dad is drinking and getting worked up, then i drive over and we usually go out somewhere so just chill in his room, his dad doesn't get violent with him when i am there, so ya that seems to work, but it's still stressful, especially when i get called at like 2am and have to drive over

wish i had an answer for that kind of situation but i don't think there is really a good solution, unless ur friends life is in danger there isn't alot that can be done that will keep the peace....

:/

[BlackBetty]

i was in the same kind of situation, my best friends dad is an alcoholic and he gets violent when he's drunk

it's a really hard thing ot deal with and i have yet to find a good solution, the best so far is i have my bff call me whenever his dad is drinking and getting worked up, then i drive over and we usually go out somewhere so just chill in his room, his dad doesn't get violent with him when i am there, so ya that seems to work, but it's still stressful, especially when i get called at like 2am and have to drive over

wish i had an answer for that kind of situation but i don't think there is really a good solution, unless ur friends life is in danger there isn't alot that can be done that will keep the peace....

:/

It's not like her mother is an alocholic. Her mom and dad is divorced... Her mom just takes her anger out on her, and it isn't fair to her. It would be kinda hard for me to drive to WV, when I live in NC though, LOL. But I just don't know what to do. When I talk to her on the phone her mom is usally asleep or something. That's the only time I talk to her besides texting all day long. And she dosen't never say "my mom just hit me", she told me right on of the blue one day. She is always talking about how she hates her mom and she rather be with her dad but he lives in NYC. She has ran away with her boyrfriend before and she got put on probation because of that. She was going to move down here with her cousin but she can't now. I just feel bad for her, because me and her have that kinda of "spark" I guess you could call it. We have everything in common.

[XxHaViiK]

You should seriously try to encourage her to talk to someone about it that can help. If she won't talk, you should be a good friend and talk for her. Tell someone. I'm not trying to make your stress worse, but if you don't take action now she may be very fucked up the in future from all of this. She may even get suicidal.

[Fusion]

Ask her to talk to a councillor or somebody along those lines if not, you talk with her it may help her, if you feel up to it with you saying you are stressed out.
You could also ask her to contact a family member like a grandmother or someone along those lines and ask for her advice

I don't think this will stop happening to her unless:

She gets rid of her phone
or
She contacts a councillor or another family member about the abuse that is happening

[BlackBetty]

You should seriously try to encourage her to talk to someone about it that can help. If she won't talk, you should be a good friend and talk for her. Tell someone. I'm not trying to make your stress worse, but if you don't take action now she may be very fucked up the in future from all of this. She may even get suicidal.



Well, she is suicidal.. Me and her made a pact not to do self harm nomore, but I don't know if she has been holding up her end like she says she has. I think whenever school starts back I'm going to speak to a cousnelour.