Coming Out Stories

[Lifeguard18]

I'm sharing mine why not share yours.

Ok so this is how I told the first person I was bi:

It was 5 pd in school. LAL class. We were going over a lesson, it was on an overhead and lights were out so that was the best time, and i decided to tell my friend. But before that happens for a few weeks I kept saying to myself you have to tell someone. You have to tell someone. Tell someone you trust. You have to tell. It's time. Tell her. (her is Ang) you have to tell you trust her the most. That was causing me so much stress problems with the sides of my stomache tiredness etc etc. So that was when I caved. Now onto LAL class.

It all started with a note and it said this (not exact words I threw out the actual note but remember)

Me: Ang can I tell you somethig. It's very important.
Ang: yeah sure. What is it.
Me: promise not to tell anyone.
Ang: ok. I will what's wrong.
Me: I'm about to cry right now.
Ang: it's ok. You can trust me. It's alright.
Me: ok here it's goes. Ang... I'm bi.
Ang: Aaww it's ok. Im fine with it. I'm bi to so I know. What made you want to tell me first.
Me: I can trust you the most. I've known you for a while. You're awesome.
Ang: aaww I'm glad you can trust me. If you ever need to talk I'm here for you.
Me: :) thanks. If I never need advice I'll come to you.
Ang: great

Bell ring. I say out loud thanks so much ang. She said you're welcome. Don't worry about it. You're fine
Thanks again so much. Everyone walks out. I walk out with the biggest smilei have ever had in my whole entire freakin life. And because of me telling and because of her I have told many many more people and they do not care and I couldn't be any happier. For my new years resolution I'm telling more people.

I shared mine now share yours if you want to.

[The Joker]

That's a great story!

[Lifeguard18]

That's a great story!

Thanks :) it's not exact word Some is exact but it describes what I said.

[Oren]

Well... My story starts about a year and a half ago. It was the first few weeks of school starting up again, I ran into a old old friend from elementary school, I asked how he was doing and stuff. That day at break I found him and his friends and his friends were really nice so I started to hang out with them. Well about a week later they tell me that one of my new friends was bi. I was very excited to hear this and 2 days later I built up the courage to tell him that I was bi/gay (unsure at the time). He was glad to hear that from me because it is a small town and hardly anyone accepts it. A few days later pass and I asked him out. It lasted around 6-8 months (I'm bad with time). Now he has a gf and I'm still single. Well that's my story, thanks for reading.
(that was a lot to write; iPod touch :))

[KaelKaos]

You're lucky to have such a great friend as Ang, people like that don't show up too often.

And yes, that was a great story :)

[Huskyboy132]

Coming out to my sister. (I'm gay)

It was a normal school day morning.
My sister came by the house to pick me up for school.
I started off by telling her that I had found someone.
And she goes, oh! Who is SHE?
And i thought "holy shit this is going to be harder than i thought"
then i said, "well jocelyn (her name), its kinda a he"
Then I couldn't hold it anymore and had this breakdown,
and she tried to calm me down by saying stuff like "oh dont worry! we're a dutch family, we have more gay people in our country than straights!"

Yeah, by then i was at school and thats how i ended.
Then the next day my other sister flew in from London,
Jocelyn (my other sister), convinced me to tell Stephany (yes, OTHER sister)
So i jumped on the bed and went "Steph! guess what! im gaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay"
and then she laughed.

So yeah. My siblings know.
Telling my parents is going to be the bitch.
But im going to procrastinate that until I leave for college :D

[Oren]

Great story husky

[woody92]

Yea they were all great stories!!
Now here is mine!! (Sorry if it’s too long)

OK… well it started about 5 years ago. I left small clues so my parents would get the message that I was gay! And they did in the end, and they were GREAT with it, they could not care LESS!!!
Then about a month ago I JUST HAD to tell my sister (Chloe). So, I had just got home from getting my sister from her boyfriend’s house and I said “Chloe I need to tell you something” and she said “ok what’s up?” and I said “you can’t tell anyone” and she was like “OK” and then I said “I…. I am gay”, and she said “that’s great and I love you so much do you know why?” and I said “no why” and she said “you’re my big brother and I love you and NOTHING will get between us” and I gave her a cuddle.
Then about a week later (IF THAT) I decide to tell one of my friends (I travel on the train with her every day to go to school), and she was fine with it! The thing is, is that she is a bit of a gossip girl, and so I am hoping that she will tell more people! But for some strange reason I told her not to tell!! I don’t know why!
Then after that about two weeks ago I wanted to tell my sister’s boyfriend (because he is one of my friends too). And so… I did and he was fine with it too. (Just a note: as some of you may know I live in Spain, and Spain is a catholic nation and so they don’t accept it here [in the whole], but my friend on the train and my sister’s boyfriend DO accept it).

Oh, and I have just remembered I only knew I was really gay about a month ago, because I thought I was BI. And about 8 months ago, I told my girlfriend (now ex-girlfriend), and back then she was fine with it too, and even now that we aren’t together we are still friends and she is still fine with it, ok we dont talk much now but i know she is ok with it!

So at the moment I could NOT BE HAPPIER!!!!
(sorry if I have dragged on and on and on)
(sorry if you got bored too)
Thanks for reading!!

[KaelKaos]

That was a good story Ryan!

You should be thankful you have such a loving and understanding group of friends/family. :)

[woody92]

I AM DONT YOU WORRY ABOUT THAT!!!

I know why my family are soo accepting as well! because I have lost TWO sisters (like they died) so my parents and my sister (chloe) dont want to lose another member of the family (ME)!! So thats why they are accepting and my friends, well who know why, just because they are a group of great people I supose!

[Lifeguard18]

I love your stories everyone. I wish I could tell my sister but I don't know if I should tell any family yet

[Starlight Blaze]

Well this is long
First I asked a girl out and she said no, then i realized i was AT LEAST bi
then i got a crush on her cousin, whos a guy
i told her and she was completely fine, and in fact kinda suspected it!
then i worked up courage and told my crush. He avoided me for about 2 weeks but then went back to normal.
I told a couple more friends who actually liked me more because of it (all girls)
Then i told another really close friend but she was highly christian, so i had to calm her down a bit, but then she was fine.
after that i told another guy friend, but he then proceeded to tell his parents who told my friends mom, who then told my friends and my mom, so then i had a talk with my parents
i havent told anyone else since, but most of my friends took it very well

[woody92]

Well this is long
First I asked a girl out and she said no, then i realized i was AT LEAST bi
then i got a crush on her cousin, whos a guy
i told her and she was completely fine, and in fact kinda suspected it!
then i worked up courage and told my crush. He avoided me for about 2 weeks but then went back to normal.
I told a couple more friends who actually liked me more because of it (all girls)
Then i told another really close friend but she was highly christian, so i had to calm her down a bit, but then she was fine.
after that i told another guy friend, but he then proceeded to tell his parents who told my friends mom, who then told my friends and my mom, so then i had a talk with my parents
i havent told anyone else since, but most of my friends took it very well

and what did your mom say?

I LOVE THE NAME BY THE WAY!!! "master of bate"

[Starlight Blaze]

oh my mom said to protect myself from people who would use my sexuality against me
yeah i like the name too, got it from here

[OstrichAficionado]

I came out this new year, I wanted to start the year by being myself.

It was our christmas vacation at that time. So anyway, long story short, I went out to get a drink with my cousins and she took two of her friends along. It was a gay couple. I got drunk and I told one of them that I was gay and he encouraged me by saying that it's gonna be alright as long as people are accepting etc. So then I realized that I want to have a life like that, and I can't do that as long as I'm still in the closet. I went out for a drink with them again and yeah, they were really lucky to have each other. I told two of my cousins that I liked guys, they were ok with it. New year's eve came, I thought about telling my friends and I did; I started to by posting it on Facebook. Supportive comments came along, so did homophobic ones but I don't mind. They're still my friends, they're just adjusting. School just started again and people were fine with it. Most of them didn't see it coming, but I assured them that I was telling the truth.

Sooo...yeah. It really is great to be out!

[woody92]

I came out this new year, I wanted to start the year by being myself.

It was our christmas vacation at that time. So anyway, long story short, I went out to get a drink with my cousins and she took two of her friends along. It was a gay couple. I got drunk and I told one of them that I was gay and he encouraged me by saying that it's gonna be alright as long as people are accepting etc. So then I realized that I want to have a life like that, and I can't do that as long as I'm still in the closet. I went out for a drink with them again and yeah, they were really lucky to have each other. I told two of my cousins that I liked guys, they were ok with it. New year's eve came, I thought about telling my friends and I did; I started to by posting it on Facebook. Supportive comments came along, so did homophobic ones but I don't mind. They're still my friends, they're just adjusting. School just started again and people were fine with it. Most of them didn't see it coming, but I assured them that I was telling the truth.

Sooo...yeah. It really is great to be out!


I am gald that it turned out good for you!

[KenFisher]

*Slightbump*
I think a mod should sticky this so others can read this for reference :)

Due to SOME INCIDENT, quite a few people in my old school knows. Some take it just fine, some, well, don't. My close friends are alright with it. Obviously with that process, kinda basically every one of my teachers kinda knew. Even if they want to help, bureaucracy stops them.
It was a tough situation. Read my blog here (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/blog.php?b=2726) for more info.

Now I'm at a new school, I gotta do that all over again, if I do.

So. I think I love this friend of mine. Not sure if he's completely straight.

There was a Christmas party. Before you come to any conclusions, as I said x'mas party, it's a school organised one. Almost no drinking can occur when you're 16, unless you sneak some in.

So, there was a dancefloor. People naturally go and dance. Not exactly my type of dancing. I prefer moshdance over the clubdance they did. Guys are supposed to dance with girls and get sexual. So, naturally, I sit out, or rather, sit out after not being happy on the dancefloor. I just get self conscious.

Not helping that this friend just danced. He kinda ignored me throughout the night. Too busy dancing?

So, I get annoyed, sit out, and put on 'Dance, dance'. (FOB rules. HA.) On my iTouch. (HA. That's for a suckage party.) And sing out loud, not too loud, though.

And when people ask me what's wrong, I don't tell them. I can't exactly say, '(his name) just keeps dancing and kinda ignored me', cause that'll tell them the wrong things, ie, I fancy him. Which I do.

So, when the party ends, I found another friend of mine John. He's real nice. As we walked him to his ride home, it goes something like this:

Me: This party sucked.
John: Why?
Me: It's like, it's just not quite right. Music doesn't help.
John: What do you mean, not quite right?
Me: Um, (name of friend) just keeps dancing and I kinda feel ignored.
John: oh.
Me:...I actually gotta tell you something...I just wanna cry now.
John: What is it?
Me: .....
*Reaches ride*
I, uh, dunno if I can say it.
John: Don't worry, talk to me on MSN when you get back.

Which I did, and told him. I just said, I'm not straight. And that I fancy that friend. And the incident in my old school which leads to low self esteem.
John's fine with it. He's straight, and also very understanding. Also didn't see that coming. (I act so straight, no? :P)
He just gives me the support I need. Thanks, mate :)
*will elaborate with him that I'm more like bicurious as in gay, but curious in girls.*

@secret lover/Josh, (WARNING: FOB FANBOYING) It's stated that 'The Best Part of Believe Is the Lie'. Pete rules. :D
Yea, I know what you mean. He might have been in sarcasm mode there.:P

[Tatsuya]

ahhh you guys are so lucky to have supporting people around you guys, haha :P

anyways, as for me, it's pretty lame. i have only told one person(told cha its lame). but i mostly joke around my friends about me interested in guys and whatnot. some probably have got hints or whatever, because sometimes, i just will just say "ohh yea, that guy is hot" LOLOL but i guess they're just quietly not accepting. well whatever, some of them, maybe.

anyways, here goes my story.

i was having a sleepover at my cousin's house ( AKA my bestfriend). yeaa, he's my best friend. and he's pretty homophobic. ehh yeaaa D: soo umm, we really like talking and talking all night long. and suddenly he asked, "do you have any secrets i don't know ? " since he mostly tells me about his secrets. i said, "yea, but then you wont wanan be my friend anymore".
and then i suddenly burst into tears. he thought that i killed someone or something haha. and after talking and talking and me giving clues ( which he didnt even pick up any of em ).
i finally said it.

" i'm not interested in women ".
and there goes moree tears . surprisingly, he quickly responded
"so what ? i don't care. im fine with that "
and i didnt know what to say. i wasn't sure what to respond. he continue and said
"how could you think that i wont support ya. we're bestfriends from we're like 4 or something. we even take a bath together and blablablaaa" which made me laugh and yeaa i was kinda relieved.

i didnt even expect this since he's really homophobic, but i guess a true friend will accept you for whatever you are. he even asked me "so how does the gay people do "it" " which made me laugh ,oddly . afterwards, he didnt even feel awkward sleeping next to me. it was me who felt awkward if he thinks that i would do anything bad to him. ( no, im not interested in touching him at all , okay ! haha. but that doesn't mean that he's not good looking either. he's actually pretty popular in school. i just see him as a brother and a good friend. )


and that has been months already. everything is the same like before i told him. everything is okayy. he dont even feel awkward being naked in front of me or anything. he sees me as a friend. and im very happy.

but that's just one person. many more to go lol.
there are some that i think will support me, but who knows whats going to happen.
and i think im kinda interested in girls. so yea, bi i guess ?
not suree. whatever i feel like going with.

[Tatsuya]

double post wth ?

[Zanra]

The first person I told was my best friend through aim. She didn't take it so well.. She yelled, denied it, took off on me, and tried to tell me that I'm not Bi lol. After that I told my bestestest friend who I love closely and he said he was fine with it (after convincing him) and he told me he was bi and we both liked each other but we never did anything and he wnt straight again. Lol than I told my other friend in a note and he was cool with it, and I told my OTHER friend and he told alot of people like I expected him to.

[iCookie Jar]

I have allot of close friends, but none so much as Megan. Me and her where always together along with three others. For a couple of years now I've had a huge crush on a boy in my chemistry class. Me and him are quite close friends, he's great to be around and has a thing about slapping my ass and grabbing my crotch. But I'm not complaining.
Anyways. Megan, these three other friends and I where all sat outside in our little spot on a hill; it was quite a hot day. I asked megan quietly if I could talk to her alone. being the stupid friends they are, they all wolf whistled and howled and growled, which didn't really bother me.

Megan: What's so private then?
Me: Theres something I've been meaning to say. It's really improtant to me.
Megan: Uh, Ok then.
Me: It's difficult to word this correctly, so I'll just say it simply.
Megan: Ok then.
Me: I'm gay.

Megan said nothing, instead she gave be the biggest hug ever, I could hardly breathe. My heart was racing, but it was such a relief to have let it out. Behined us we could hear the wolf whistles again. And I started crying whilst Megan just hugged me. We went and sat back down, Megan had the biggest grin.

Tom: What was all that then? You to going out or something?
Megan: Quite the opposite.

They're still trying to work out what she ment.

[highfieldsboy]

You guys are lucky and have much acceptance.

I'm 20 this year and am from the uk, i have had to hide being gay since i was 12, long time to dwell on it, people just do not accept it very well from the area of the UK i am from.

I hate it, i really do, but i have to think of myself and my family too, i can;t just come out it causes so much bother

[ChrisG]

I liked reading your guys stories. I am bi but have not told anyone. I have a girlfriend and was wondering if I should tell her. I would hate to lose her.:confused:

[iCookie Jar]

I kinda regret telling Megan. Because I'm pretty sure I'm Gay. But I suppose I shoulda waited until I was 100%. I think I may be Bi, because of that really cute guy from chemistry. But idk.

[woody92]

I liked reading your guys stories. I am bi but have not told anyone. I have a girlfriend and was wondering if I should tell her. I would hate to lose her.:confused:

I was in the same position as you, and I decided to tell my GF. ahe was fine with it, now we have split up (about a month and a half ago). And I know that I am GAY!! Good luck to everyone who posted on this thread!

I LOVE DREW LOADS!!!!!!!

[Lifeguard18]

I love all your stories.

[charlie3322]

came out today!¡! lost 4 friends so far and got ridiculed in gym. but i feel great. it shows who ur true friends r

[Citizen Erased]

About a year ago I came out of my science lesson at the end of the day and took my two best friends to the side. I said something like 'Hey, um, I need to tell you something...I'm bisexual,' they hugged me and were completely accepting (I knew they would be :3) then the following day one of them told me they were bicurious so I wasn't alone ^__^

Since then I haven't told anyone, until recently when, if anyone asks, I just tell them :)

[Soccer Girl 13]

My brother tricked me into telling my mum i was bi ) : I told my dad while we were fighting.
And i told my friends in my group, than next closest friends & on wards. Now i don't even care about it anymore, i just tell anyone, When i make new friends, i tell them so they know that half of me (and so i don't feel bad about not telling them the truth)

[TAC1]

I told my best friend (who i consider my brother) that I was bi...He completely accepted me for who I am and he also knows that I like him (thats a different story). On Friday i told one of my old friends that I was and she also accepted me. Later on in gym I told my gym partner (in crime) that I was bi...he told me he was cool with it once I didnt try anything on him. I feel so much better that others know.....I SO PROUD OF MYSELF THAT I WANNA COOKIE!!!

[Nelson]

I came out to my parents a couple of days ago now,But i first started telling people on New Years Eve, i first met someone great :wub:, i rang what used to be a best friend, she laughed about it and said she wouldnt tell anyone, twenty minutes later i get a call from another one of my best friends, she was pretty upset i didnt tell her first, but even more angry that my other friend was ringing people after i told her not to :mad:, anyway, after i told my bestfriends, i changed my facebook "interested in" people started holding "bash-a-bi" day on my profile, so that kinda ruined it, then a couple of days later my homophobic friend found out, he was ok with it as long as i dont crack on to him (although he damn hot:yummy:), after that hurdle i decided to tell my dad, hes homophobic but i chose the wrong time to tell him, while he was drunk, so he went crazy, homophobic slurrs every couple of minutes, after a few days of him knowing he has come to the conclusion "Do whatever you want to do, not in my house, and if you do anything, dont tell me about it" so now im cool with it and yeh, just dredding going back to school!

[sorrowful dahlia]

how do you work up the courage to come out? i want come out but i cant ever work up the courage to. PLEASE HELP IM DESPERATE

[woody92]

well one day I just got up and said "I am going to tell her today" (her is my sister) and later that day I told her! You need to stay strong always smile and be polite (no threataning behaviour) when you get up and say "I am going to tell them today" make sure you do it (i always think the sooner the better) BUT dont do it unless your 1,000,000% sure you are ready if your not dont do it! because you might not be ready to stand their reaction! and all the questions that come after. (especialy if you tell a girl)
Good luck with what ever you decide to do.
you can PM me anytime if you need any help!

[Sugaree]

Well, since I am no longer a closet case I might as well share my story right?

So I'm home schooled, not to mention a Catholic (in some rights). Most of my family, not including my father and grandfather, are very strong in their beliefs. Now, I knew I was bisexual for months and I was having a hard time trying to accept it. I was constantly in a mental lock/battle about all the contradictions of my sexuality and religion that it took a toll on me. In September or October of last year, I came out to my aunt (who, as it turns out, it also bisexual), and she couldn't have been more supportive. I had been talking with her about finally coming out to my mother, which I know I needed to do at some point. So one day after my school work was finished, I told my mother, "There's something I need to talk to you about." Now, whenever I say this to her, she gets concerned. Concerned as in, "HOLY SHITFUCK" concerned.

I started breaking down, tearing up, and finally said, "Mom...I'm bisexual." It was so quick the way I said it. My mom apparently misheard, so I told her again. Now she was all defensive about it. "You're going against your religion...you'll be frowned upon by God...you'll never be happy." I just sat there in my chair and took it all. Eventually it lead to me exposing some of the secret crush I had on one of my friends, Charlie. Now, she thinks that the crush was just a strong friendship...it's not. It all ended with me saying, "Well, this is me. What you see is what you get and damn it, I hope you can come to terms."

Of course, the next day we talked about it and she's somewhat supportive. She's trying to get me into all the whole God thing again. Don't get me wrong, I believe in God. I just don't see a reason to be thinking about it all 24/7 like she does or talk about it constantly like she does. I plan, on the course of the next few months, to tell my father. But I'm not so sure. I'm confident, but still have my doubts. I don't plan on telling my grandmother since I know what her reaction will be and I'd rather not discuss that point.

Anyway, this is my story and I think it is safe to say that I am proud of who I am and will be proud of what I will soon become.

[KenFisher]

ooh, let me update. Well, came out properly to two more people. One's a very nice guy who always smiles no matter what. Quite hairy and slight chub, but hey. He's straight. It was when we're watching how Reading beat Liverpool. I like MU, so, yeah...It was out of interest. :) So, I started by talking about the 'new hot girl' around, then I said, doesn't care, not into women that much. Then things go on fine. He's still nice to me. Whereas, I just came out to another guy because I can't answer 'who are your targets in school'. He was like, um, 'You shouldn't show it. You might change later. But it's fine.' But due to some party where I got pissed and all the trouble that followed, we kinda not like each other now. (I think I loved/crushed him.) He was saying indirect homophobic insults (that is so not him. WHY?), but today, when I tried to be nice and smiled, he shook his head. *Crestfallen* I saw him in town, wanted to talk, but didn't. :/, hope it all goes well for me. He'll come back, no?

[woody92]

Thats really sad to hear! I feel so sorry for you! You know you can IM or PM me anytime you want! I know you liked that person alot!*HUGS*

[ati5870]

My story is kinda lame.... We were in class and me and my best girl-friend were talking (using the variables on the graphing calculator bc the teach was talking) and like in mid convo she was like r u bi? and i was like dont tell, but ya, then she said oh cool

[NextToNormal]

lets see...the first time i told anyone anything was in my precalc class junior year of high school. we were doing a review for our final exam and i was sitting with my friend mel. her mom is gay and we were like best friends so i decided to tell her. i wrote her a note that said "mel, i have to ask you something." she was just like whats up. so i wrote back to her, "what would you say if i told you i was bi?" she turned to me and said "i would tell you i already knew and ask why it took you so long to tell me" so telling her was really easy.

the summer after i graduate high school, i told a friend of mine that i liked her and that i had since about the time we came back from winter break. she told me she liked me too (shes a lesbian). we started dating this past summer. i left for college in august. in early october, my girlfriend was the first person i actually came out to. i was like "baby, i know im not going to have a problem of acceptence with you so i just need to say this...im not bi, im gay. being away at school kind of made me realize that guys are really not my thing and they havent been for the longest time even though i was with a guy for 7 months right before we started dating" and she was more than accepting. after i told her, that was actually the first time she told me "i love you" it made me really really happy. after i told her im gay, i came out to my closest friends from home and they were are fine with it. my friend mel (the one from my precalc class), when i told her, she said she knew back when i told her that i was bi that i was a lesbian. that kind of made me laugh.

about two weeks after i told them, i decided to tell someone in my family. my aunt (my dads sister) was coming up to my school to pick me up, so i figured she was the best person to tell since we are so close. when i told her, she was really shocked. but after the initial shock wore off, she told me that shes proud of me and that shes glad i trust her enough to tell her and that shes going to love me no matter what. that was a relief. then on thanksgiving, i felt it was time to tell my oldest sister. she got mad at me and didnt talk to me for a good week. then she finally called me and we talked about it and she said that because im her sister and shes known me all of my life, she knew from the time i was like 10 that i wasnt straight but that it was something i was going to have to discover on my own. my aunt and my oldest sister are the only family members of mine that actually know from me telling them. no one on my moms side knows because im afraid to tell them (my oldest sister is from my dads first marriage).

thats my story...sorry if it was kind of long.

[WaahZombie]

how fantastic! xD