Teen Marriage

[algluvr]

I wanted opinions on this:

Do you think teen marriage is a bad or good idea? Let's say a couple's in love, say both 14, 15 or 16, with enough money to rent apartment and generally to live, NOT PREGNANT, bad or good to marry? That is assuming they have the money say from in home computer repair and teaching, etc?

if they marry young even if some think it's a bad idea, should they live by themselves as a couple if they have the money, as opposed to living with parents?

What are major risks, besides money?

[Raptor22]

I wanted opinions on this:

Do you think teen marriage is a bad or good idea? Let's say a couple's in love, say both 14, 15 or 16, with enough money to rent apartment and generally to live, NOT PREGNANT, bad or good to marry? That is assuming they have the money say from in home computer repair and teaching, etc?

if they marry young even if some think it's a bad idea, should they live by themselves as a couple if they have the money, as opposed to living with parents?

What are major risks, besides money?

You will be distracted from education and your future, you do not need that...

[The Joker]

Your hormones are still messing with you at that point, so to make a decision on who you want to spend your life with at that time, your mindset would be warped.

[Ballin2much]

not imo. not ready yet

[MoveAlong]

I believe that this is a poor idea. I agree with all of the other posters.

This distracts you from your education - not just the marriage, but also affording a place to live? yeah...And your education is what helps you make money in the real world.

Also, teenagers aren't mature enough or experienced enough to be able to make a huge decision like this. Most of them don't really understand "love".

And no, they shouldn't live by themselves as a couple. How would they pay for it? Who would guide them? They would develop a lot of immature habits.

[Patchy]

I can see this turning into a debate.

Moving to ROTW.

[woody92]

Ok... I dont think it is a good idea AT ALL coz like other posters said it would ruin their education, etc.


How would they pay for it? Who would guide them? They would develop a lot of immature habits.

However, I think that, some teenagers are lucky enough to have RICH parents (i know it is unlikely but it is true). And i KNOW that if my parents had LOADS of money they would buy me an apartment and let me live on my own or with my GF/BF.

I just want ot make it clear that i am TOTALY AGAINST THE MARRIAGE, BUT i am not against over 16's to live in seperate accommodation as lon as they can pay for it with help from their parents!

[laurita_21]

i'd be against it. If you get married at such age -like other people said- it will distract you from loads of important stuff. I think its a big commitment and i don't think it would last because feelings could change, specially at that age.
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[overcome.]

Snap decisions in the heat of the moment can be made at any age, but I think especially when you're younger. It's not always normal for young people to think logically enough to explore all aspects of their current situation and what they're planning to do in the future. They very often don't think of things from all different angles, simply because they don't have the life experiences that somebody 10-15 years older than hem would have. They don't have that experience of making big long term decisions that will affect them greatly. It's not a criticism towards young people, it's just the plain truth in my eyes.

Also, you'll never forget your first love, whatever age you are. But when you're older or even months down the line, you can look back at relationships and identify the difference between love and infatuation. When you're younger, you don't know the difference, you could easily believe you're in love.

My opinion is to simply do your best to enjoy your life and make yourself happy. If that means making a partner happy, that's cool also. But think logically, realistically and from all angles of every situation, especially important ones. Sometimes there's no need to look into things too much, but in this sort of scenario of teenage marriage, of course you need to. I'd say for the vast majority of the population, say 98% of teen marriages probably won't be successful. It depends what your interpretation of 'success' is. My opinion is happiness, ideally long lasting. Other people's often = money. If you're happy with your husband/wife from the marriage, regardless of financial issues, etc, then you're happy. Of course, financial issues are something to also consider. A wedding isn't cheap. I could write a lot for this, I'd rather have written a few thought out paragraphs than a simple 'yes' or 'no' answer, anybody can do that and not elaborate.

Final conclusion; like I said, imo 98% of teen marriages aren't worth it in the long run.

[woody92]

snap decisions in the heat of the moment can be made at any age, but i think especially when you're younger. It's not always normal for young people to think logically enough to explore all aspects of their current situation and what they're planning to do in the future. They very often don't think of things from all different angles, simply because they don't have the life experiences that somebody 10-15 years older than hem would have. They don't have that experience of making big long term decisions that will affect them greatly. It's not a criticism towards young people, it's just the plain truth in my eyes.

Also, you'll never forget your first love, whatever age you are. But when you're older or even months down the line, you can look back at relationships and identify the difference between love and infatuation. When you're younger, you don't know the difference, you could easily believe you're in love.

My opinion is to simply do your best to enjoy your life and make yourself happy. If that means making a partner happy, that's cool also. But think logically, realistically and from all angles of every situation, especially important ones. Sometimes there's no need to look into things too much, but in this sort of scenario of teenage marriage, of course you need to. I'd say for the vast majority of the population, say 98% of teen marriages probably won't be successful. It depends what your interpretation of 'success' is. My opinion is happiness, ideally long lasting. Other people's often = money. If you're happy with your husband/wife from the marriage, regardless of financial issues, etc, then you're happy. Of course, financial issues are something to also consider. A wedding isn't cheap. I could write a lot for this, i'd rather have written a few thought out paragraphs than a simple 'yes' or 'no' answer, anybody can do that and not elaborate.

Final conclusion; like i said, imo 98% of teen marriages aren't worth it in the long run.

i totaly agree

[Rutherford The Brave]

I will say this and only this. If you are mature enough to handle the responsabilities and you know what you will be in for. You will be able to do it.

[INFERNO]

I'm opposed to teen marriage because chances are the couple simply aren't ready for the long-term and possibly for the short-term. The marriage compromises goals of education and getting a decent-paying job because you have to juggle numerous things all at once that you probably don't have the experience or knowledge for. There probably are some teen couples who probably could be successful in obtaining education, jobs, happiness, etc... all while maintaining the marriage, however, the majority of them probably would fail. The hormones are raging and exaggerating behaviors, they're still trying to figure out their place in the world and what they want to do, and all of these issues should at least have a plausible answer and be thought out.

One other issue though and this doesn't have to do with how mature or immature the teen partners are, is the legal definition of an adult. Suppose one is an adult at 18 years old as it is in many places and suppose the partners are both 15-16 years old. Between 15 years old and 18 years old, there's plenty of time for them to get physically injured, become ill or anything else requiring medical (including psychological) attention. The problem though is they cannot consent because they're minors, there's no parent nor guardian so the laws would have to be changed. There are piles of other problems regarding their age, such as getting good-paying jobs at their age while handling everything else.

Overall, I say it's likely to fail both in theory and in practice for the majority of teen couples.

[Sugaree]

I frown greatly upon teenage marriage. Young couples that "love" each other really don't know what love is. Love is a confusing thing and is hard for many people to figure out. They may THINK they love each other, but who knows? Marriage deals with considering long term and short term effects. Teen marriage causes the couple to lose out on education, they make little or no money to live on; not to mention that all the plans for their seperate futures are pretty much down the toliet.

Marriage is a difficult thing, and most teenagers now can't handle that much. Most teens nowadays have trouble with school. If they have trouble with schooling, who's to say they'll win with marriage. Marriage is a learning experience for the two who are married. You can't go through marriage like it's a walk in the park. What happens when you impregnate your wife and you're only 16 years old? What happens when you need to get a job just to stay off the streets? Observing my parents and their eighteen year marriage, I think I can safely say that every couple has problems, no matter how "perfect" they seem to be. If you are planning to get married, always think about it all first. How will it affect you, how will it affect your plans, etc., etc.

[Sage]

From a legal standpoint? Sure, why not. Though lest I know the couple on a personal level and feel their claims are legitimate, then they most certainly will not get my respect and almost without a doubt be subject to my ridicule. Such is life.