Feeling low and rejected.

[hannahd96]

I lost my virginity to my boyfriend of 6 months about 2 weeks ago. I was saving the moment untill i was ready and i really felt right about doing it with him as i trusted him and thought i knew him so well. 2 nights ago he asked to do anal with him and i said no as i wasnt ready to do that yet. Now he had dumped me and has been telling my mates that i am rubbish in bed. I feel that all my friends a laughing at me and i just cant face them. Even the friends not laughing at me will say I tild you so and thats what you get from going out with a guy so much older (i am 13 and he is 18). I feel rubbish, has this sort of thing happened to anyone else and how did you get over it?

[Art_dude]

let me get this straight: your boyfriend of 6 months dumped you because you refused to have anal? Wow, this guy has got to be the grossest prick ever....

Unfortunately I can't say I've heard this kind of thing happen often. I'm not trying to guilt trip you or blame you for what happened, but sex at 13?!! reallly!?!? With an 18 year old?

If you didn't feel like rubbish I'd be pretty surprised. However don't feel guilt for something you couldn't forsee. All you can do is try to move on with your life and take what happened as a life lesson learned. If anyone should be embarrassed or feel guilt it should be the ass hole who pressured a 13 year old girl to have anal with him.

[hannahd96]

Sorry, i think you missunderstand me. i dont think he finished with me just because I wouldnt have anal, i think he would have done that anyway. It was probably just his way of getting control. I have just been stupid thats all.

[Char]

oh.. i feel sorry for you :(

but why do you feel rubbish? because of your mates or because you lost your virginity to this boy? i wish i could help you...

[hannahd96]

A bit of both really. All my mates were against him and are now queueing up to say they told me so. I was so stupid, I wanted to lose my virginity to someone special and i thought he was. now i Know he was only with me for 1 thing:(

[2D]

Well sorry to spoil the party but your friends were right. What the hell were you thinking having sex with an 18 year old when you are only 13! Oh, that's right, you weren't thinking at all! I would feel rejected too if I was enough of a moron to get used that badly.

[OstrichAficionado]

Well sorry to spoil the party but your friends were right. What the hell were you thinking having sex with an 18 year old when you are only 13! Oh, that's right, you weren't thinking at all! I would feel rejected too if I was enough of a moron to get used that badly.

i DO agree with you but everyone makes a mistake that would make you want to kill yourself once in a while :/

you should probably move on with your life and to make you feel better, you should feel rubbish for dating guys like him instead :S