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MattHolyman41
December 21st, 2009, 02:56 PM
Sorry it's so long but I'm so confused. You have to hear the whole story
Once upon a time there was a hot girl. Her name was Gabrielle.
She's one of the freshman year kids on high school and she's ... well quite popular. I kind of began to like her about a month ago. She's really cute and friendly and I like her butt :D. Well, since I am sort of introvert douche, who would never encourage himself to make a first step I hesitated.

But finally one saturday evening I called her and asked her out... she said she's already on her way to the mall and that I can meet her there. Well, if it was so simple. I arrived at the mall and looked for her everywhere. She wasn't picking up the phone. Disappointed, I returned home. Next day she called me. I asked her what happened and told her that I couldn't find her. She said she was sorry and that her mom called her to come home immediately. At home she had a certain argument with her mom, who constantly took her phone( probably as a punishment). It was quite a story, but I tried to ensure myself everything's okay.

Then four days later, on Thursday, I couldn't catch her alone. She was always with her annoying bitchy friends! When I came home, I called her. She wasn't picking up... that's what I thought. I began to have thoughts about her trying to avoid me in any way. It was quite possible that she just doesn't want to go out with me, but she's afraid to tell me.

On Friday, I came to her before class, told her I wanna talk to her, and tried to ask her out. It was a perfect opportunity to go to the movies, because Avatar had been just released. She said she's going out with the girls that night. I asked her whether she can go on Saturday and she said I should call her.

Great! It was a beautiful friday, everyone was going to see Avatar and she can't go with me because she's going out with that bitch.

Whatever! I called her on Saturday afternoon. The response was quite simple (Hurray! At least she picked the phone). She was talking to me with sleepy voice and told me that she just woke up and she's really tired after the last night. I apologized her for waking her up and told her I'll call her later. Then a couple of hour later I sent her a message: "Sorry I bothered you" and didn't say anything else.

Well, what should I think. Should I tell her to fuck off, because she can't even pick a phone and find some time to go out with me? Or should I try again, because she has never said she doesn't want me?

A lot of people says she's very unsure person, she just doesn't know what she wants. Sometimes I meet her and her bitchy friend in bus, but obviously, I can't talk to her because her bitchy friend talks with her about some bitchy bullshit!(Sometimes I think they're talking about me how stupid I am, but I'm not sure)

So What should I do? I'm not sure even though I've been patient enough.

Rutherford The Brave
December 21st, 2009, 03:15 PM
First off, you should stop calling her so much. Secondly what happens to you if she really is trying to ignore you? Are you going to go berserk or something? Lastly, why not try to be patient. She might learn the error of her ways and come talk to you.

MattHolyman41
December 21st, 2009, 04:00 PM
the worst thing is that she just can't say no... If she doesn't want to she should say no... If she wants then why the hell is she doing all this crap?

Art_dude
December 21st, 2009, 05:00 PM
I think you took the appropriate steps in every situation. I don't think you called her more than you needed to. From what I read, you were very mellow and understanding (despite her not having the common decency to call or explain why she didn't get in touch with you) and that you were just trying to schedule a date.

I think there are two possibilities: 1) She doesn't want to go out with you (for whatever personal reason) but feeling guilty about rejecting a nice guy she says yes anyway. Only after she realized her mistake she conveniently 'left the mall' and 'had her phone taken away' to avoid the inevitable awkward conversation "I said yes out of pity"
It sucks, and it's happened to me before, but that's life unfortunately. We say we'll do something but then we try to take it back and hurt others in the process.

Possibility 2) She actually DOES genuinely want to go out with you and that she just has trouble scheduling things. My best friend Audrey comes up with the craziest stories for not being able to hang out, or she forgot, etc, etc, but it's genuinely true: I talked to her sister and her friends and stayed over their house for 3 days and saw with my own eyes that she has bad A.D.D. If this is the case, ride it out and be patient. She's only human and as a result she's going to make mistakes.

If she really does want to go out with you, and she honestly has trouble scheduling things, give her the benefit of the doubt and wait for her to call you. If you accuse her of false intentions when she actually just had a slip up, then you'll obviously lose her respect and come across as desperate.

Jordan...14
December 21st, 2009, 05:07 PM
the worst thing is that she just can't say no... If she doesn't want to she should say no... If she wants then why the hell is she doing all this crap?

maybe she does like you but is too scared to tell you that?