I Give Up

[Underground_Network]

Fuck this shit.

[2D]

Geez quit being so melodramatic. Pull yourself together and learn to deal with shit. You're only 16, just get over yourself. You aren't that big of a deal, move on a grow up.

[woody92]

I wlouldnt give up there are PLANTY more fish in the sea...
you need to find someone YOU LOVE and you have to KNOW that they LOVE YOU back... (but u have to b sure).
GOOD LUCK!!
Pm me if ya want!!

[ChaoticHarmony]

dude dont give up totally yet ok? like woody said, way more fish. my advice is to just take a break for a bit. maybe your just so focused on finding love that your going out with anyone you find attractive...
you gotta let love come to you, not vice versa. one day you'll find the love of your life, and trust me, you'll know it.
till then just take it easy and coast thru it all. if u find someone that u think mite be it, wait a bit. get to know her. see if there is potential. it mite save u the heartache.
good luck with any future relationships! just be careful :)

if u want/need to pm me for more advice, im always here n willing to help :D

[haibekah]

i know how you feel man. i was dating this dude for like.. barely a month and all of a sudden he just stopped talking to me. i feel the same way: needing someone to love. i think that the most important thing is to love yourself first. you can't give yourself to someone completely if you don't love yourself. i know that sounds cliché and over-used but it's so true. i'm here to talk if you need me. i know where you're at. (for the most part)

[BlackenedSilver]

Adam don't give up totally.. Like has been said there are plenty more fish in the sea.
You're a sweet, caring, Amazing guy who deserves someone who appreciates that and loves you unconditionally, it just takes a while to find a girl who isn't an idiot for not seeing and loving it. I know you'll pull through this, you're strong. *Huggles*
You'll find someone eventually ^_^ Just try to forget about it for now. x

[PaintHuffington]

If this is your definition of "heartbreak", then everybody on this green earth has had their heart broken at least twenty-five times. Learn to not be so fickle.

[Sage]

There may be plenty of fish in the sea, but people with that attitude all find themselves in the same place: The desert. Sit up straight, walk it off, and gimme twenty, private.

[Mikey]

I'm just like you. 10 months of depression. 1 month relationships if not less. I basically started this year and I got my first kiss this year. Heart broken so many times I almost gave up. But then again theres always a girl who I find out likes me, and if she's cute enough I will try to talk to her and if it works it works. I like two girls, both who like me, one has a boyfriend. So its like D:. Because I can't choose one over the other even with a BF

[KenFisher]

Well, people are good with advices here :)
I mean, yes, what's need to be said is said.

POINT 1)
There's a dude I fell for (don't worry, the process of love is all the same anyhow) and when I (stupidly) told him, shit happened. like, a lot. I happened to (stupidly) somehow bug him even more. and basically, it seems like this is not gonna be fixed in a lifetime. He kinda caused me having to move school. And not seeing all my friends. For a long time.
anyway, whenever I blamed myself, yes it does get worse. and I DID say I give up on love once.
Thing is, when I actually got away and get into the new college I'm going to, I can work and take my mind off him. Oh, and also finding new people. (gosh, slavic dudes are fit mostly!)
the point here is, blaming yourself does nothing good. And when you get away from the situation, it should get better.
And yes, there are plenty of fish in the water. So, catch the fish you want!

POINT 2) I pissed off a girl friend (notice the space?) (who was going out with that dude above :roll: ) and when I left it a few months and came back to her, she is alright with me now.
What I say is, leave her for a while, then come back to her and try to be friends, she might be alright with you then.

POINT 3) loving youself..well, treat yourself with something you like. can be anything. (don't go into excess though) Make yourself a list of what's good about you. Preferably when you're feeling positive. (after doing stuff you like?)

POINT 4) young love is AND CAN'T HELPED TO BE fickle. true love is NOT so. as you go on, you'll find the difference. everyone is eititled to be melodramatic some time, right? Just don't be too often. People will get tired. Not only people here, but IRL too. Some people are more tolerant than others of course.

Oh, on another note, as said, be careful when you want to be with someone. If there's potential go for it. If not, just be careful. Don't go straight into it. Saves more than broken hearts.

Hope that (summary and expansion of things) helps,
Kev.

[Triceratops]

What the fuck!
I'm waiting for the day until something genuinely bad actually does happen in your oh so incredibly hard life.

No offense, but recently something horrible has happened to someone very close to me, in terms of relationships, and yet you have the audacity to cry and whinge over something so unbelievably miniscule much like this. It just really annoys me tbh.

Adam, you need to seriously grow up and quit drowning yourself in your own self-pity. It will never do you any favours whatsoever. If you don't fucking learn or even make an attempt to sort your act out, you'll just be stuck in these petty and ridiculous situations for a very long time.

[Underground_Network]

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[2D]

Like you said, you are an emotional person. I highly doubt you've actually loved anyone in your entire life. Sure I bet you've had intense and confusing feelings for them but I doubt it was love.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Physical abuse isn't genuinely bad? Poverty isn't genuinely bad? Not knowing if I'll fucking have a meal every night (I skipped dinner yesterday because my mom couldn't afford to buy anything and all we have is junk food) is okay? You see, I'm an emotional person. I don't highlight that shit, all I seek is love. It's hard when I go to a therapist who my mom now owes her entire life savings too. Try living with no money. Then you'll learn how much love means. Love means the fucking world to you when you don't have anything else. So don't judge me as someone who hasn't endured a lot. I have. My friends are drug addicts. My dad is addicted to gambling. I'm physically and emotionally abused every fucking day. Which causes all the other shit I endure. I don't make a big deal out of nothing because I like to, it's because I'm just screaming out for help. Ever since I left this forum I've attempted suicide MORE. Maybe I should come back, but maybe I should just leave forever.

Sorry, my thoughts are jumbled...

Adam, dude I go through what your going through everyday. I am working for myself. I make the best of the situation in my life.

However bro, I have to be honest. I'm a little fed up with you. It's not that I do not think that your a bad kid and all its just. You need to get your shit together, I mean come on. I have heard from Amanda, and Ster what you do. Do you not recall? I made you and Ster appologize. Still, you continuesly expect them to wait hand and foot for you, you expect them to text you and be there when you need them always. Don't tell me that I'm wrong, I have been down a road similar to this, might be the reason why I do not talk to some people. You have to work things out, and quickly. Stop the complaining, stop the suicide attempts, and make the best of what you have.

[Triceratops]

It makes me laugh how you talk to me as if I've never been through any shit in my life. :rolleyes:
I probably experience things just as equally as bad as you do. In fact, a great amount of on VT are bound to as well. We just don't repeatedly go on about how tragic things are for us as much as you do, or expect people to just sympathize and gasp; "Oh my, poor thing! Look how hard this must be for him!" all the bloody time.

You make a worse situation out of all these issues yourself.
You make them out to be far more horrific than they actually are.
I understand they aren't particularly pleasant, but for God's sake would you at least quit with the consistent whinging because it's tedious, childish and completely ridiculous.

I can guarantee someone who endures what you go through in life wouldn't carry on the way you do over a few missed phone calls (oh, I'm sorry, one missed phone call >__>) and facebook messages.

Oh well, you're bound to find some other girl who you will fancy the hell out of - and the same things will probably happen over and over again...

[AddiEast]

Donr be so hung up on finding love and thinking that will cure your problems
Just date a bunch of different ppl and have some fun thats all
love will just happen when you dont expect it

[Underground_Network]

Yes, I fail, I get it.

Bye.

[2D]

Control yourself man. It's possible. No matter how fucking fucked up to fucking shit you are you always have some amount of control. Just don't give up. You might as well stick it out and see where your life goes. It's always better than just being over.

[Aηdy]

It makes me laugh how you talk to me as if I've never been through any shit in my life. :rolleyes:
I probably experience things just as equally as bad as you do. In fact, a great amount of on VT are bound to as well. We just don't repeatedly go on about how tragic things are for us as much as you do, or expect people to just sympathize and gasp; "Oh my, poor thing! Look how hard this must be for him!" all the bloody time.

You make a worse situation out of all these issues yourself.
You make them out to be far more horrific than they actually are.
I understand they aren't particularly pleasant, but for God's sake would you at least quit with the consistent whinging because it's tedious, childish and completely ridiculous.

I can guarantee someone who endures what you go through in life wouldn't carry on the way you do over a few missed phone calls (oh, I'm sorry, one missed phone call >__>) and facebook messages.

Oh well, you're bound to find some other girl who you will fancy the hell out of - and the same things will probably happen over and over again...


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[Sapphire]

As I have said to you on many occasions, you have to work to make things better. To say "this is just how I am" is a pathetic cop-out. You are a certain way and it makes your life worse for yourself.

The only way you are ever going to be happy is by changing the way you think and behave for the better. No one can fix your problems for you. No amount of close friends or girlfriends will be able to fix your problems. You have to do that yourself.
You won't be able to have a long lasting relationship if you don't start taking responsibility for your own mental wellbeing - and you can take my word for that!

[Underground_Network]

I just see myself going down the road of Dylan Thomas. He never figured out who he was. Drank himself to death at the age of 34.

The only thing that made him happy was love and writing, and even both of those things at times fucked with his head.

The only way I'll live to 34 is if I follow in his footsteps, but avoid the alcoholism and the abhorrence of school, because the only things I know are love and writing. Everything else isn't second nature. And medication doesn't help. My psychiatrist is already more frustrated than me, I've been through five different medications now with no real positive effects. So I think maybe I am meant to be this way...

[ShatteredWings]

But you don't have to take that route. Really.

You don't have to be an alcoholic, you don't have to die in your 30s (or earlier)

Adam, you're an amazing writer, and a nice fucking guy.

There's no such thing as predestiny IMHO, you can make of your life what you want.

Maybe the meds aren't working, maybe your psych isn't helping. there are other people you can go to. There's others who can help you...There's people who care

[Sapphire]

Medication isn't helping you because your problems are not neurobiological.
Your problems are in how you think and behave.
Until you accept that and actually work to change things, you are not going to get any better.

[cherry_boi]

ur the only one that can make ur life better, and until u make a sincere attempt to change your behavior and thinking patterns i think people will just refuse to sympathize with you

you take bad situations and make them worse, and overwhelm urself with bitterness and self pity.

and yea other people may be worse off then u--which doesn't mean ur problems aren't as important as someone in a worse situation..... but if u don't fight hard everyday to push trough and make positive changes then don't expect people to feel sorry for you and don't be all pissy cuz things never work out for you

make them work out for you

or at least make an honest and constant effort to

and change ur negative attitude, that will get u nowhere, take the time to really analyze ur behavior and actions and learn from it

and i have a feeling all the suicide attempts are for attention....in an attempt to make people understand how seriously you perceive ur life to suck

but they do nothing but make u look immature and over dramatic

stop thinking about ending ur life and start thinking about what u can do to make it better

and stop relying on someone else to fix things for you, and bitching at them when they don't come through in your eyes

nobody wants to fix something that is gunna break itself the minute they set it down....