extremely confused about sexuality

[iamthecheese]

okay so i am an eighteen year old male, and throughout high school i have had a few girlfriends, but when it came time to have sex with them or do anything sexual i wouldn't be able to get fully aroused, maybe only one time. the thing is though, i feel like i have been supressing certain feelings in the back of my mind about being attracted to guys as well. at this point, i am starting to come to terms with that, but what is confusing is that i still find myself attracted to women, but now i am also attracted to men as well, and whenever i think about being with a man i feel way more aroused than i ever have when i think about women. this all feels so crazy to me, and the more i think about it, the more i come to terms about how i feel about men, but at the same time i am also attracted to women, it just feels like as each day goes by, my feelings for men increase. i dont know what this means and i dont know how to help myself. i find myself feeling very confused and conflicted. it's not even about me being ashamed of how i feel, it is more about me just wanting to know what i want. if you have any advice or feel the same way please respond.

[XxHaViiK]

Could just be hormones, because by the way you described it, you're just sexually aroused by guys. But if you feel emotionally attached, too, then you could be bi.

[Schizothemia]

I feel when one is coming to terms with sexuality, they must always give it time, and give themselves a chance to experiment.

Something I suggest is just letting these feelings develop and see if they go any farther because it could mean you are attracted to men as well (not only in terms of physical attraction, but also mental attraction.) But give yourself time, don't rush into any decision and really be open to changes. :)

[iamthecheese]

that sounds like sound advice. the only thing im confused with is that i never really got fully aroused with a woman before, and i don't really know what to make of it, and now that my attraction to men is increasing i am even more confused.

[Schizothemia]

Perhaps you are gay?

And even then you shouldn't force yourself into a label. Love works in mysterious ways.

Like I said, just give it time, and just be yourself. Don't worry about who you should be, or what society dictates, simply be you. :) And be happy with who you are, no matter who that may be.

[iamthecheese]

thanks i appreciate it. i've just been so out of it lately because of all of this.