What would you do?

[kingkingking]

Right so, over the past few months I've been growing to really like my friend in school who is a guy.
I'm bi but nobody in school knows and I don't know if hes bi but I think he might be because of the way he acts. He doesn't seem to mind being "close" to guys. For example in maths he sits at a right angle to me on our table and he sits with his legs strtched out and so do I so usually his legs end up under mine which involves them touching but not like sexually anything and he doesn't seem to mind it. (or atleast hes never said anything)
Anyway, I really like him and it's our prom next July and I'm thinking of maybe trying to get with him at prom or something but I don't know what to do or say when the time comes (ei prom night) and I'm not 100% sure that hes bi or not.
Also, in the answers I don't just want to hear "don't do it, it'll ruin your friendship" because that's not really productive advice.
What would you do in my position? What would you think? Have you ever had a situation like this? Would you mind about the leg thing in maths if you were him and you were straight?
Looking for some serious advice/help here guys, thanks!

[Edit] He turns 16 in April and I turn 16 in May [Un-edit]

[Fruit_Tart.]

in my opinion i think that thats great!! i would jus go with him to the prom but if your afraid of ruining your reputation then i suggest you not. i have not personally had this type of situation. and if his leg were under mine and we were straight then i would look at you weird. but since im bi i wouldnt mind it. :D

[ray8806]

Ahhh, well I will just answer your questions.

1)What would you do in my position? At prom, I would take him outside or somewhere private and talk to him. I mean, if you like him, go ahead and tell him..but secretly so no one else can hear just in case he says he likes you too but he wants a secret relationship.(you know how those things are).

2)What would you think?- In a third person position? I would probably not like it very much being that as a devote Christian, I am against homosexuality as it is sin. But hey, as long as you understand that and still want to, go for it. (I have no problem with homosexuals. I recognize their gayness as their choice and I respect that they have at least thought about it and made their decision.)

3)Have you ever had a situation like this?- A few times, but they were just as a joking around things. I'm talking about the leg situation. With the wondering whether to tell a guy I like him or not, no. I have never been in that situation.

4)Would you mind about the leg thing in maths if you were him and you were straight?- Probably not, unless it gets openly sexual.

[Jdan360]

Yeah i agree with Ray in number 1!! I would love to have this opportunity!! :)

[diamond jetstream]

over here we call proms formals and mine was two days ago right
atit my friend came out to this guy and did what you want to do and they hooked up and it was good as for the leg thing i started doing that wth my bf before we got together and he sid that it was little signs like that that showed him that i cared fo him. you dont have to take my advice but i think you should text him right now and find out instead of waiting

[Gumleaf]

moving: boys puberty >>> relationships & dating

[OstrichAficionado]

What would you do in my position? I'll probably take the time to know him more, let our relationship grow as friends and maybe we could be more than friends

What would you think? He maybe straight from the things you pointed out, most guys mock gay behavior. But if he doesn't laugh, or doesn't show any particular reaction when you do the leg thing, he maybe attracted to the same sex. This is only my opinion.

Have you ever had a situation like this? Yeah I noticed some of the signals so I took the risk and professed my love for him, it worked.


Goodluck!

[Art_dude]

My advice? DON'T DO IT. And NO I'm not saying that because it will 'ruin your friendship' though that is definitely a possibility. I'm saying it because I think it is unbelievably naive, to ask out a guy (whom you don't know is bi or not) Would you really feel confident enough to ask out a guy you don't even know is bi when you yourself are not even out of the closet?!?! First of all, you risk rejection whether he is bi or not, he can still say no. Secondly you risk the whole school finding out you're bi, and trust me it's not going to be on your terms. And this kind of thing spreads like wildfire. Thirdly your 'work friendship' will be undoubtedly be ruined.

When you find out his true sexuality, then be my guest and ask him out. However you're sure as hell risking a lot for one prom date. In the end the choice is up to you, but until you know his sexuality and people know YOUR sexuality, than you're acting extremely irrationally.

[KenFisher]

Well, it would depend on the school and how people interact with each other really. In my last school, whenever it is known that I like a guy (yea, I know.), a lot of people knows. at least in my friends' year. I got on better with the year below than my own. One got out of hand, as people taunted him about it, and we're not best friends anymore. In fact, it's probably because of him that I had to change schools after GCSE. We still don't talk to each other.
but in my college now, no one knows.
Well, you see, the school was more close-knit than college.

Second point I'm gonna make is that some guys act gay and don't mind others doing so because they're straight. (Hell, they even made a film about 2 friends actually going all the way as a dare.) I fancy one of my best friend right now, and he often acts 'gay', like, hugging some guys, being silly etc. I love this, but at the same time it annoys me 'cause I want him. Christmas party came up, and I kinda wanna go with him (a guy came first. but then, it's not like a date for prom :/), but then that was a night to forget. he's a bit of a club kid, and danced all night, when i tried to and can't help to be self conscious. Oh, and he ignored me that night.
Another guy, whom i was best friends with few months ago, didn't mind touching legs (I loved it). But when we can actually 'try something' (not going in there), he actually suggested it, and chickened out. So, yeah. I think you can tell what happens next.

Well, for your questions:
What would you do in my position? well, I would stay put and see what goes, you never know what's gonna happen.
What would you think? I'd be as confused as you :/
Have you ever had a situation like this? *see above*
Would you mind about the leg thing in maths if you were him and you were straight? Well, probably, if I was straight. But then, I'm not and I like it. XD

Hope that helps,
Kev