Parental Death

[YesterdaysNews]

If you have lost a parent, have you ever thought of what it would be like if you lost the other one instead? or have you ever wished that it was the other?

Sometimes I wonder what it would've been like if my mom had died instead of my dad, how different it would be... I honestly think my life would be worse, my dad was close to being (if not already) an alcoholic, a smoker and most likely depressed. He didn't keep a job for more than a year, the last few he had were only a couple of months. He was a mechanic and had all his drivers licenses and he used to be a truck driver. I don't know what we'd do... but I guess it doesn't really matter, I'm just wondering if anyone else has done this

[Rutherford The Brave]

I would never be in the situation I am now. I would be happy yes, I mean I'd probably be more oriented towards music, and I would never work as much. But I mean I think I owe my old dad something, I mean without him I'd never be The Greg I am today.

[nick]

I havent been in that situation, so forgive me if you dont think I should reply, but it strikes me as a question that would occur to anyone in those circumstances. So I dont think you should feel at all bad for having that thought.

[Bougainvillea]

My dad was so loving. My mom had already been showing signs of depression. My dad would have done alot of good. He was strong, and always had a solution. He was my hero. That bastard. He could've just said I don't want to be here, and left. But no, he just had to die.

[YesterdaysNews]

I havent been in that situation, so forgive me if you dont think I should reply, but it strikes me as a question that would occur to anyone in those circumstances. So I dont think you should feel at all bad for having that thought.

no no, feel free to post, I want to know anything anyone has to say. Maybe if you haven't lost a parent (and I hope you never do) what do you think life would be like without them?

[nick]

I have lost one, just not through death.

[dead]

I have lost one, just not through death.

Same

[2D]

I wouldn't know what to do without either of my parents. I have a deep bond with my mom and it would rip my heart out if she should die any time soon. I've got so many memories with my dad as well. All of them would surface and I know I would hate myself for not being closer to him. My guess is I would fall into a deep depression or start abusing drugs. Or both. Who knows. I pray to God I don't find out.

[daveywavey]

I wouldn't know what to do without either of my parents. I have a deep bond with my mom and it would rip my heart out if she should die any time soon. I've got so many memories with my dad as well. All of them would surface and I know I would hate myself for not being closer to him. My guess is I would fall into a deep depression or start abusing drugs. Or both. Who knows. I pray to God I don't find out.

That is beautiful to say about your mother jeff. I too have a great relationship with my mother. I have never lost a parent to death however I have lost realitives that I was insanley close too. Death is a bahumbug it hurts to think about I'm sorry for your guyses losses truley am. Pm me if you need to talk about it.


Davey

[Kaius]

I haven't lost a parent, in that sense..but i lost my uncle a few years ago. He was more of a father to me than my own, and looked after me as his own. As nick said, he's lost one, but not through death. Thats how i feel about my mum. Shes a pretty bad alcoholic, not the same as she used to be, in fact I love her to pieces but i barely even think of her as a parent any more.

[AncientCatastrophe]

I haven't lost a parent so I didn't experience this kind of thought
But sometimes I always wonder who will be the first one to die but I'm not expecting them to die and I don't want them to die cause their great parents
But when one of my parent dies I think I won't have a thought like that but every person is different so its ok to have that thought :miss::miss:

[thrust of trust]

i lost my mom. ever day feels kinda weird now. like if its not real .some times i wonder what things would be like if my dad died instead or if nobody dies. its a sucky feeling when someone dies. everything feels like a shadow of its former self. i guess you just gotta push through it.

[loz4]

Wel my dad died when I was 4 so I don't miss him that much maybe because I can't remember him and all my life i've only had one parent, but it would have been a lot harder on my brother, he was 8, but I would keep my mum becuase that's all i've ever known.

[thrust of trust]

Wel my dad died when I was 4 so I don't miss him that much maybe because I can't remember him and all my life i've only had one parent, but it would have been a lot harder on my brother, he was 8, but I would keep my mum becuase that's all i've ever known.

yea. it's easier like that if no bond was formed then no bond was lost.

[Kahn]

He wasn't my parent... but he was certainly the most influential person that was involved in my life. R.I.P Grandpa. I love you.

[OnlyByTheNight.]

I lost my grandad. I lived with him and he was pretty much a father to me. I miss him everyday but, and I know I shouldn't say this but, I much rather that he died then if my gran had died cause she is the most loving, important person in my life and I love her to absolute bits. I couldn't live without her.

R.I.P Grandad. I'll never forget you. xxxx

[lysiaboy]

my mum died of brain cancer in 2004... I miss her so much ... but now i'm truly scared that if my dad dies, i'll be all alone