In my pants.

[RayneBow]

I have been dating this one person for about a month now and every time I see him, we're making out(and I have no problem with that)and he starts dryhumping me. I have no problem with that either. Just last week I let him put his hand down my pants and up my shirt. And now we want to have sex but because of my purity ring we can''t... Any ideas on what we should do?

[meygan]

well are you wearing a purity ring because you totally believe in it? or because of the image?

if it's the first one then you have to stick by your decision to not have sex , whether it's what he wants or not. It seems you are basing your decision to have sex on what HE wants, because otherwise , why would you go against what you believe in? be an individual! stay strong girl!

also, i thought purity rings meant you cant engage in any sexual activity?

[laurita_21]

purity ring means that you won't have sex until you get married.(lernt it from jonas brothers:D)
If you have your purity ring, thet means you made a promise not to have sex until your married, its up to you, you either brake your promise or you don't. don't let him make you do anything that you don't want to do.

[meygan]

purity ring means that you won't have sex until you get married.(lernt it from jonas brothers:D)
If you have your purity ring, thet means you made a promise not to have sex until your married, its up to you, you either brake your promise or you don't. don't let him make you do anything that you don't want to do.

i used to love the jobros and thats how i found out bout them

but is it anything sexual or just sex?

[laurita_21]

i dunno i think is just sex. :/ noott sure though

[meygan]

"Wearing a purity ring is typically accompanied by a religious vow to practice abstinence until marriage"

"Sexual abstinence is the practice of voluntarily refraining from some or all aspects of sexual activity. "

[ViciousScheme]

Ouch. Well I dont wear a purity ring but I am trying to abstain from actual sex until im married. I continue to do sexual stuff though. I see nothing wrong with it. I couldn't imagine abstaining for EVERYTHING sexual. Jeez.

[nick]

You need to just explain to him your views on when you want to first have sex, and he needs to respect that. If he cant respect that, or doesnt think you are wirth waiting for, then he isnt the right guy for you.

Please dont give into anything against you wishes.

[Archer600]

Well unless ur really serious take off the ring and fuck...

If u can't already tell...I'm kidding
just tell him that that is what u believe and if he isn't ok with it then he is not really the guy for u

[Ripplemagne]

If you're of the religious persuasion:

Romans 12:2
"And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God."

If he truly cares about you, he will respect your decision not to do it.

I, myself, am abstinent and I get no end of heat for it, but I don't feel like I'm missing out on anything. And any girl that matters will understand my decision and not try to pressure me.

The same law is applicable to you. You made a decision as evidenced by your ring and if he isn't alright with that, then you have to reevaluate if he really cares about you. Think of it this way: If he were in love with you (rest assure, he's not), then you can account for the fact that true love is timeless and isn't bound by the wearing down of time.

Put simply, true love waits.

However, the fact that you're posting here, questioning if you should give it up makes me wonder just how stagnant your belief in abstinence is. Me thinks that if you're truly committed, there would be no question in your mind what you should do here. So, on that accord, it's regrettably unavoidable for you to lose it at some point or another.

So, first thing you have to do is question your motive for posting this. Are you religious and it interferes with your views? Are you a devout believer in that faith? Do you want to save yourself for marriage?

It's very subjective, but it seems to me that your beliefs were not that strong to start with. So, you're going to need to figure that one out before you figure out this dilemma.

[meygan]

Ouch. Well I dont wear a purity ring but I am trying to abstain from actual sex until im married. I continue to do sexual stuff though. I see nothing wrong with it. I couldn't imagine abstaining for EVERYTHING sexual. Jeez.

i don't have any opinion towards purity rings. i don't wear one but have no problem with people who do. i just didn't know exactly what they stood for so i searched it and thats what it came up with.

but i guess people who are strongly religious wont do anything sexual. actually i take that back, leave it to people who know enough about them to judge :S

[AncientCatastrophe]

Well if your really that religious then I suggest don't do it :notangel:
You made a promise so keep that promise
And don't worry you can still have sex after your marriage......
But really its up to you were just here to give advice :cloud9:

[Norton]

ditch the ring.

[IAMWILL]

I don't think you've really though about this decision. First, how long has it been in this string of events you just posted, and two, have you though about the downsides.
Sex can completely change a relationship, in bad ways as well as good. The thing is though, once you have sex with this guy, you can't just break up. You need to make a serious commitment.
Going by your post, it sounds like to me you are NOT mentally ready for sex. Hold off and truly think about this. It could be a life changing decision.
Remember, wearing a condom doesn't portect you completely from STDs