Asylum
December 9th, 2009, 09:19 AM
just so no one gets confused
i'm not saying it's ok to self harm. it's relaly hard to stop i gave alternatives that don't leave scars.... yes i kno thats bad too... but when you get in that i need to hurt myself its btter to do somethign else then cut and leave a scar forever.
as far as hiding it goes. its not so people don't get help. my family sitation at home sucks.... my mom mkes fun of me for it and verbally abuses me for doing it... which creates the urge to come back. at school if someone sees that.... like i got abused at school for marks on my arm... because people don't understand... because they haven't done it... no one is goign to get help unlesss they themselves want it. my mother new about me self harming 3 years... didn't stop me. i asked her fo a pych so i can stop. this was on my own. no one else forced or bugged me. you must want to stop on your own once you have htat want to stop it is possible.
hiding the scars. some people are ashamed of the past.. i am.. personally when i go to work or out i don't want someone judging me. so i cover up. it saves me from unwanted commments from complete strangers
yes i gave alternative ways to self harm to prevent people from getting scars... its better to have something that goes away then something tht stays forever. those are for people who see no oher way possble other then self harm at the time of break down. i'm not telling people here are ways to get over it... its hard for a person to understnad who doesn't self harm... an has the urges... its realyl hard to comprhend the above. personalyl i odn't hitnk this makes people want to self harm or hide it. i'm jsut trying to help people. i'm not trying to give people a way out of help... and avoiding the issue. this is just strictly when they break down and they have the urge. and if you have the urge you know how hard it is. and soemtimes you can't control what you do when you break down. its not easy to just stop... you can't do that.. why do we self harm? because there is somethign that is bothering us. for us to stop is to get rid of the situation bothering us. perhaps our parents are abusive? maybe bullies at school, friend is in Iraq. these situations haunt us. and break us down. even after they are over. internally i am still scared by being bullied in middle school. i still have urges because of soemthign that happened years ago, because it affected me.. you can't stop an addiction right away. you body becomes dependent on it after awhile. it feels good. until you learn ways on how to deal with issues in another way this is the only way possible to deal with whats wrong.
__________________so now peopple can not get the wrong idea.
Ok so here are a few things to prevent further scars. Why we cut and harm ourself, why people don't understand, how to get help, excuses, what it really means to self harm. READ ALL!!!!!
READ THE CAPS I HAVE BELOW PLEASE!!!
Totally not harming yourself
- hold an ice cube in your hand let it melt
- freeze an orange, after it is frozen, try squeezing it
- drawling on yourself
- taking it out on somthing else like a piece of paper, a bloock of wood (cuting)
- listen to upbeat music, something that makes you happy, don't listen to songs like the way she feels by through the trees, those types of songs will end up triggering the earge more
- don't go searching for pictures of bloody things
- and wear long sleeves cover up your own scars they can be a trigger
-call up a friend
-distract yourself
- watch tv
- go for a walk
-close your eyes, and breathe slowly
- go run!!! exercising helps. and hey it can hurt in a good wya :)
- ILL ADD MORE THINGS ALATTER
look at my other post to see how to hide scars for the summer or any season really
if you are getting picked on for your scars....one simple answer to help your problems hide them!!
The truth is people who don't cut don't understand, they question it because they dnot' know the why, and htey don't understand.
People think we just don't want to talk about our problems, but we do. Sometimes our problems run a little deep, or can't be fixed, it's understandable. People also don't know it's an addiction.
Why do we do it?
- it feels good, when we are upset, we begin to rely on it everytiem we are upset.
- it releases endorphines that give you the same feeling morphine does.
-so yes it is very much like a drug
- no i don't do drugs, but i know people who do, and this
what they told me it's like
- sometimes it's self hate
- instead of taking anger out on someone else its easier to do to yourself
- there are some people out there that do, do it for attention (i'm not saying many, some)
- some people just like the feeling
- people have a lot to deal with and it helps them for a lttle while. the pain makes it feel good for just a bit.
- same reason people do drugs, smoke, drink, bite nails, etc. any habbit it's because of stress, perhaps drepression, or severe anxiety disorder
- **** IMPORTANT!!!!! ****IF YOU HAVE ADD AND ARE TAKING MEDICATION AND HAVE cut then i suggest getting off that medication. you are depressed, and theymedicine will change you. People with ADD sometimes have anxiety disorder, but doctors don't see it until its too late, because the affects are the same : can't concentrate, not eating, not sleeping, depression, etc. THIS IS SERIOUS!! people have committed suicide from being on ADD meds. So if you have suicidal thoughts, or are depresse stop taking the medication. consult a doctor of therapist tell them you think you have anxiety disorder.
- ILL ADD MORE THINGS LATTTER
How to seek help
- don't read this unless you seriously want to stop. the truth is, if you don't want to stop... you won't stop. So you need to have the want to stop cutting or self harming.
- parents- yes parents take it the hard way... thye love you they don't want to see you hurt especially by yourself. They might get angry, upset, or start crying... so be prepared. I told my mom a year ago. It didn't go well at first, but things got better.
- doctors- ok so you go for a check up. if you have scars or cuts, thye will know. They are not stupid.... they know the difference between a self harmed cut and a regular accident. there are no excuses to get by doctors.
- go talk to someone about it a friend
- just show people cuts (they will think your crazy and tell n adult)
-
Excuses
- if you have a pet with sharp claws you are luck :) blame the pet
- if your cuts look like scraps from something like sand paper you fell running on the sidewalk after school or something.
- if you have words carved into you try writing over it with marker (the words will never go away :( good luck after it scars...)
- maybe you cut yourself iwth glass or a razor if you do it once, you can say its a paper cut (paper cuts never happen twice
- i've used the excuse before of twig in the woods
-a pencil on the steps i fell on...
- i was sewing and fell asleep on my bed with it
- my friend scratched me
- my friend's cat (this is useful if you don't own a cat)
- perhaps there was glass in the road and you stepped on it (bottom of foot)
- your friend broke glass at house or school and you helped clean up and got cut up ( on hand)
- my sister she had fell off her bike, and the pedals gave her like 5 scar lines and it looked like the ones i had when i cut there myself on my ankle, so use the bike excuse.
YOU WANT TO HIDE IT, DON'T HIDE IT.
hiding things make people suspicous. why is she hiding something? It makes people more curiosu. this does not mean go short sleeved when you have 50 cuts down your arm,.... its better to cover up.
IF SOMEONE QUESTIONS YOU?
DENY IT!!!
how could you think that about me :( i don't do it
i've known you for how long do you think i'd do that
you want to check because theres nothing on my arm (you can have cuts o your arm ) usually after sayin gthat people are justr like ok i'm sorry i questioned :(
PM ME ANYTIME IF YOU WANT TO TALK OR IF SOMETHING IS BOTHERING YOU> IM HERE TO HELP :)
i'm not saying it's ok to self harm. it's relaly hard to stop i gave alternatives that don't leave scars.... yes i kno thats bad too... but when you get in that i need to hurt myself its btter to do somethign else then cut and leave a scar forever.
as far as hiding it goes. its not so people don't get help. my family sitation at home sucks.... my mom mkes fun of me for it and verbally abuses me for doing it... which creates the urge to come back. at school if someone sees that.... like i got abused at school for marks on my arm... because people don't understand... because they haven't done it... no one is goign to get help unlesss they themselves want it. my mother new about me self harming 3 years... didn't stop me. i asked her fo a pych so i can stop. this was on my own. no one else forced or bugged me. you must want to stop on your own once you have htat want to stop it is possible.
hiding the scars. some people are ashamed of the past.. i am.. personally when i go to work or out i don't want someone judging me. so i cover up. it saves me from unwanted commments from complete strangers
yes i gave alternative ways to self harm to prevent people from getting scars... its better to have something that goes away then something tht stays forever. those are for people who see no oher way possble other then self harm at the time of break down. i'm not telling people here are ways to get over it... its hard for a person to understnad who doesn't self harm... an has the urges... its realyl hard to comprhend the above. personalyl i odn't hitnk this makes people want to self harm or hide it. i'm jsut trying to help people. i'm not trying to give people a way out of help... and avoiding the issue. this is just strictly when they break down and they have the urge. and if you have the urge you know how hard it is. and soemtimes you can't control what you do when you break down. its not easy to just stop... you can't do that.. why do we self harm? because there is somethign that is bothering us. for us to stop is to get rid of the situation bothering us. perhaps our parents are abusive? maybe bullies at school, friend is in Iraq. these situations haunt us. and break us down. even after they are over. internally i am still scared by being bullied in middle school. i still have urges because of soemthign that happened years ago, because it affected me.. you can't stop an addiction right away. you body becomes dependent on it after awhile. it feels good. until you learn ways on how to deal with issues in another way this is the only way possible to deal with whats wrong.
__________________so now peopple can not get the wrong idea.
Ok so here are a few things to prevent further scars. Why we cut and harm ourself, why people don't understand, how to get help, excuses, what it really means to self harm. READ ALL!!!!!
READ THE CAPS I HAVE BELOW PLEASE!!!
Totally not harming yourself
- hold an ice cube in your hand let it melt
- freeze an orange, after it is frozen, try squeezing it
- drawling on yourself
- taking it out on somthing else like a piece of paper, a bloock of wood (cuting)
- listen to upbeat music, something that makes you happy, don't listen to songs like the way she feels by through the trees, those types of songs will end up triggering the earge more
- don't go searching for pictures of bloody things
- and wear long sleeves cover up your own scars they can be a trigger
-call up a friend
-distract yourself
- watch tv
- go for a walk
-close your eyes, and breathe slowly
- go run!!! exercising helps. and hey it can hurt in a good wya :)
- ILL ADD MORE THINGS ALATTER
look at my other post to see how to hide scars for the summer or any season really
if you are getting picked on for your scars....one simple answer to help your problems hide them!!
The truth is people who don't cut don't understand, they question it because they dnot' know the why, and htey don't understand.
People think we just don't want to talk about our problems, but we do. Sometimes our problems run a little deep, or can't be fixed, it's understandable. People also don't know it's an addiction.
Why do we do it?
- it feels good, when we are upset, we begin to rely on it everytiem we are upset.
- it releases endorphines that give you the same feeling morphine does.
-so yes it is very much like a drug
- no i don't do drugs, but i know people who do, and this
what they told me it's like
- sometimes it's self hate
- instead of taking anger out on someone else its easier to do to yourself
- there are some people out there that do, do it for attention (i'm not saying many, some)
- some people just like the feeling
- people have a lot to deal with and it helps them for a lttle while. the pain makes it feel good for just a bit.
- same reason people do drugs, smoke, drink, bite nails, etc. any habbit it's because of stress, perhaps drepression, or severe anxiety disorder
- **** IMPORTANT!!!!! ****IF YOU HAVE ADD AND ARE TAKING MEDICATION AND HAVE cut then i suggest getting off that medication. you are depressed, and theymedicine will change you. People with ADD sometimes have anxiety disorder, but doctors don't see it until its too late, because the affects are the same : can't concentrate, not eating, not sleeping, depression, etc. THIS IS SERIOUS!! people have committed suicide from being on ADD meds. So if you have suicidal thoughts, or are depresse stop taking the medication. consult a doctor of therapist tell them you think you have anxiety disorder.
- ILL ADD MORE THINGS LATTTER
How to seek help
- don't read this unless you seriously want to stop. the truth is, if you don't want to stop... you won't stop. So you need to have the want to stop cutting or self harming.
- parents- yes parents take it the hard way... thye love you they don't want to see you hurt especially by yourself. They might get angry, upset, or start crying... so be prepared. I told my mom a year ago. It didn't go well at first, but things got better.
- doctors- ok so you go for a check up. if you have scars or cuts, thye will know. They are not stupid.... they know the difference between a self harmed cut and a regular accident. there are no excuses to get by doctors.
- go talk to someone about it a friend
- just show people cuts (they will think your crazy and tell n adult)
-
Excuses
- if you have a pet with sharp claws you are luck :) blame the pet
- if your cuts look like scraps from something like sand paper you fell running on the sidewalk after school or something.
- if you have words carved into you try writing over it with marker (the words will never go away :( good luck after it scars...)
- maybe you cut yourself iwth glass or a razor if you do it once, you can say its a paper cut (paper cuts never happen twice
- i've used the excuse before of twig in the woods
-a pencil on the steps i fell on...
- i was sewing and fell asleep on my bed with it
- my friend scratched me
- my friend's cat (this is useful if you don't own a cat)
- perhaps there was glass in the road and you stepped on it (bottom of foot)
- your friend broke glass at house or school and you helped clean up and got cut up ( on hand)
- my sister she had fell off her bike, and the pedals gave her like 5 scar lines and it looked like the ones i had when i cut there myself on my ankle, so use the bike excuse.
YOU WANT TO HIDE IT, DON'T HIDE IT.
hiding things make people suspicous. why is she hiding something? It makes people more curiosu. this does not mean go short sleeved when you have 50 cuts down your arm,.... its better to cover up.
IF SOMEONE QUESTIONS YOU?
DENY IT!!!
how could you think that about me :( i don't do it
i've known you for how long do you think i'd do that
you want to check because theres nothing on my arm (you can have cuts o your arm ) usually after sayin gthat people are justr like ok i'm sorry i questioned :(
PM ME ANYTIME IF YOU WANT TO TALK OR IF SOMETHING IS BOTHERING YOU> IM HERE TO HELP :)