Love.

[kenoloor]

Love. Do you think teenagers are "capable" of feeling love? Do you think that we just perceive a deep "crush" as "love", and don't fully understand the feeling until later in life? Share your opinions, I'm just curious as to what y'all VTers think....

[Aspiringanonymous]

What is 'love'? Similarly, what is 'crush'? How does one objectively distinguish between one versus the other, if reducing an often unexplainable inner phenomena to mere words is even fully possible?

With maturity, one learns to balance impulsive emotions with various rational considerations.

With time, as the central motivator in a relationship becomes much less about curiosity, excitement, and the euphoria typically associated with 'infatuation', a different kind of feeling takes it place - of companionship, inspiration, and shared visions. This, if I have been understanding correctly, is what most defines as 'true love'.

It is valued significantly more so than infatuation, because the connection here runs much deeper and solid than its forerunner. This I believe, as previously mentioned, is the result of a bond based equally on both emotion and intellect. For, while one's values and beliefs do not easily change, emotions are inherently unstable and prone to unexpected fluctuation.

[Rutherford The Brave]

What is 'love'? Similarly, what is 'crush'? How does one objectively distinguish between one versus the other, if reducing an often unexplainable inner phenomena to mere words is even fully possible?

With maturity, one learns to balance impulsive emotions with various rational considerations.

With time, as the central motivator in a relationship becomes much less about curiosity, excitement, and the euphoria typically associated with 'infatuation', a different kind of feeling takes it place - of companionship, inspiration, and shared visions. This, if I have been understanding correctly, is what most defines as 'true love'.

It is valued significantly more so than infatuation, because the connection here runs much deeper and solid than its forerunner. This I believe, as previously mentioned, is the result of a bond based equally on both emotion and intellect. For, while one's values and beliefs do not easily change, emotions are inherently unstable and prone to unexpected fluctuation.

Could not have worded it any better.

[cherry_boi]

i think one is capable of feeling love fro ma very young age....the definition and feeling matures as time goes on (imo)

[Art_dude]

Another one of these threads? Is it just me or have there been many like this recently?
Anyway, Krezlyn hit the bullseye once gain and of course articulated perfectly and with grace as always. If only we were all fortunate enough to express ourselves so perfectly with words!

In layman's terms, love is a complex emotion that runs deeper than a physical and emotional attraction, whereby as Krezlyn said, "companionship, inspiration, and shared visions" can take place. A crush is 'puppy love'. I don't believe teenagers are capable of understanding love because of the maturity involved. As I've said elsewhere in a similar thread, love is when you don't care who payed for the last meal, waking up to morning breath and seeing your partner take a shit while reading the newspaper, and STILL loving them despite their idiosyncrasies. Love is work.

[Appleton]

What is 'love'? Similarly, what is 'crush'? How does one objectively distinguish between one versus the other, if reducing an often unexplainable inner phenomena to mere words is even fully possible?

With maturity, one learns to balance impulsive emotions with various rational considerations.

With time, as the central motivator in a relationship becomes much less about curiosity, excitement, and the euphoria typically associated with 'infatuation', a different kind of feeling takes it place - of companionship, inspiration, and shared visions. This, if I have been understanding correctly, is what most defines as 'true love'.

It is valued significantly more so than infatuation, because the connection here runs much deeper and solid than its forerunner. This I believe, as previously mentioned, is the result of a bond based equally on both emotion and intellect. For, while one's values and beliefs do not easily change, emotions are inherently unstable and prone to unexpected fluctuation.

I was just gonna say I know that I know that I love David, but dam, what she said....

[TheKingDavis]

IMO, no. Teens have to many hormones pointing them in all the wrong directions,

sure theres the star QB and the head cheerleader dating, but are they really in love? or are they just doing what society says they should?

To me, the majority of teen cant express love, its more of a lust thing.

Once you are more experienced in life, then you mite be capable of expressing your love

[Kahn]

Dustin. You are terribly wrong.

Anyone is able to experience love. How are we too know that it is happening to us though? That is the question. We must find it within ourselves, ourselves. We cannot be told we love someone and automatically believe we love that certain person. We cannot say we love a girl or a boy just because he or she says they love you. You need to experience it. Love is a magical thing.

We will all hopefully experience it. I think I did once. But what ended it was peer pressure, just as many of my lonely pointless relationships ended. We are to seek within our selves and pull out the emotion of love. Like I said before, we cannot just say we love someone. We need to truly need for them, long for them. You need to be the one that truly knows. I remember saying "I love you" to girls before. A terrible mistake because when we broke up they usually send "I thought you loved me.." I would stand there most of the time and not say anything. Very immature on my part. I guess love starts to bloom inside of you as you mature so yes, you might need to be a little older than I am right now but even now I feel as if I am very mature for my age.

You see older people fail at love Dustin. Why? Are they still considered a teen? Some aren't even socially awkward, some are even celebrities. Just like what Maya said. It is a form of Maturity. You either have it or you don't.

Another way I see love as more of an emotional attraction rather than physical. Like Dustin said, Why does the star Quarter back always date the cheerleader? Well that is because of social status. I have only seen one real emotional partnership between two teenagers in my life time. And it was so sweet. They are actually still together and I talk to my friend daily but it is something that I long for.

Love, is a bitch. We don't know what it is for sure. It's just that warm fuzzy feeling you get. ;)

[meygan]

i think teenagers feel love. but they're often too young to know what to do with it, like it can be easily "destroyed" at that age. You're not wise enough to make the right choices so you may end up letting love go...

but we fall in love again, and when we're older we know EXACTLY what to do with it so we wont let it slip away like before .

[ILOVEYOU]

Anybody can feel what love is, its just a thing that only comes once in every life, i.. cant really find the difference between teen love and mature love, both are love, but this Teen love is a Killer!. (imo)