a virginity question

[anime Freak]

sorry i know that i am not a girl but this is the best place to ask the question.

why does my girlfreind want to keep her virginity so bad? i mean we make out, i finger her she has given me bj's, but she has told me she does not want it to go farther that that, and i respct it and do not push her, but the whole this is when we talked about it she said, what if i get pregnant, i said i would use a condom and she said that makes sense i would rather not.
i respect her wiches i just want to try to understand them.

[Grinchilla]

It's a sacred thing to her. She may love you, but she doesn't want to regret who she loses her virginity to. Maybe she doesn't think you two are in a stable-enough or close-enough relationship to have sex. Maybe she's waiting for this.
DON'T PRESSURE HER into sex. You'll be the biggest jerk if you do. Don't let sexual activity become the basis of your relationship. It should bring you closer, not hold you together.

IMAGINE: could you be with her without sex? if not, you're not ready to take it further. You never know what will happen.

Also, I see that she doesn't care, but condoms can rip and she can get pregnant. 10% of condom users get pregnant in a year. This can be cut down if she doesn't give oral with you wearing the condom and for you to follow instructions. She should be on Birth control.

And no, this forum category isn't made for males. Relationships or General Puberty maybe good categories.

[XxHaViiK]

Give it some more time, virginity can mean a lot to some people. She may not want sex with you at all, or she may think it's just too early. She probably just wants to take her time with it to make 100% sure you're the right person.

[sweetmisery]

sorry i know that i am not a girl but this is the best place to ask the question.

why does my girlfreind want to keep her virginity so bad? i mean we make out, i finger her she has given me bj's, but she has told me she does not want it to go farther that that, and i respct it and do not push her, but the whole this is when we talked about it she said, what if i get pregnant, i said i would use a condom and she said that makes sense i would rather not.
i respect her wiches i just want to try to understand them.

You've answered your own question. She wants to keep her virginity because she doesn't want to go farther than that. She's simply not ready for such a big leap even if protection is involved. Maybe she's looking ahead to the future. There's always that risk when having sex that she could get pregnant, or maybe she's scared or maybe sex is something sacred to her, like the others have said.

There are many possibilities why she wants to keep her virginity. Why don't you ask her?

[anime Freak]

DON'T PRESSURE HER into sex. You'll be the biggest jerk if you do. Don't let sexual activity become the basis of your relationship. It should bring you closer, not hold you together.

IMAGINE: could you be with her without sex? if not, you're not ready to take it further. You never know what will happen.


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like i said earlier i respect her wishes and will not go against them

and yes i can , we dated for 5 month before i even got to second because we BOTH wanted to take it slow and i am happy to let things take their natural courses, i was just trying to understand her mindset. thank you

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

It's probably not something you're doing wrong, if that's what you're concerned about.

Have you asked her? She might be able to give you a better answer, seeing as we can't tell you what's going on inside her head. Ask her when you guys are somewhere private. Let her know you're going to respect what she wants but that you're curious about why she doesn't want to. Then you'll know.

She did mention pregnancy, it seems, so I would suspect that that's one of her main worries. If there's more than that you just need to ask if there's more and see what she says. She knows she isn't ready for a kid, and she doesn't want to risk that. Maybe that's reason enough for her.