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[Kinetic]

even though im out as bi now i think some of the things that happened/ and or did as a child made me the way i am

such as my uncle and my cousin (i was in first or second grade)


he made us like get into dirty positions naked and he'd take pictures, in exchange he'd buy us gameboy games and toys n such we didnt know it was bad but yeah... he also told me it was OK to love ur guy friends and stuff ive gotten over this even though it was abuse and terrible that he did i jus dont even mind it anymore


Later on, i told that to my friend steven and he agreed with it completely so like one day we were on the bus and we were "happy" how in first grade u popped boners for laughing with ur best friend, Then! he kissed me and i remember telling him it was bad, but i did it anyways and we wud like kiss and hold hands like cute lil babys in love :P i even found a picture with us holding hands in my old things. ive always established guy an guy relationships later on too but i always considered my self straight so now looking back... ive been bi all my life i think

[Fourth Dimension]

I Have Been Thinking About This Type Of Thing Too Lately All The Things That Helped Contribute You See I Believe Its The Way You Are Born To An Extent But For It To Fully Affect You I Believe Things Influence You Too I Think Back About This You See I Had An Older Sister She Had Barbies And Such But She Liked Superheros And Nija Turtles And All That And She Would Just Tossem My Way We R 7 Years Apart And Me Beeing Little Like A Toddler I Didnt Relize And Then My Babysitter She Had 2 Girls One 2 Years Older 1 5 And The Only Toys Were Like Babies And We Would Play With Them And Then I Have A Gay Cuz(no nothing bad has happened) which i think his personality rubbed off but all sorts of sources and its like wow i am bi too btw but i think the biggest factor besides it being the way i was born was the older sister influence i had no bros to look up to

[Skeletal-Chic]

I think some of my child-hood has led to me being Bi. Embarrassing as it is I used to cross-dress 'till about 3 and I used to pretend to be a girl in games and stuff. I always thought I would get married to a woman, but since I became a teen and learned about LGBT I have steered more towards being Bi. I reckon my child-hood had some effect on me :D

[Billy15]

a neighbor fooled around with me from when i was like 8 to about 11 in sexual stuff and he was a man and i seriously think that is why i am probably gay today. i mean doesnt it make sense when your first sexual experience was gay stuff that it would make some kind of impression on you during development years? I do understand what you are talking about and i do think thats true.

[Fourth Dimension]

It Does Make Sense

[Kinetic]

soooo childhood has an effect.... anyone else care to share and elabo?

[cherry_boi]

i think your experiences as you develop do have some effect, but i also think genetics play a part...a combination of the two determines one's sexual preferences (imo)

and i believe one's sexual preference can be re-defined to some degree, i don't think it's set in stone at any time

[cherry_boi]

i think your experiences as you develop do have some effect, but i also think genetics play a part...a combination of the two determines one's sexual preferences (imo)

and i believe one's sexual preference can be re-defined to some degree, i don't think it's set in stone at any time

[TAC1]

a neighbor fooled around with me from when i was like 8 to about 11 in sexual stuff and he was a man and i seriously think that is why i am probably gay today. i mean doesnt it make sense when your first sexual experience was gay stuff that it would make some kind of impression on you during development years? I do understand what you are talking about and i do think thats true.

Same thing happened to me but Im bi.

[daveywavey]

i fully 100 percent agree with this thread.

[The Batman]

I don't think that our childhood effected our sexuality but I think that our sexuality started showing during our childhood. Like I would always love looking at my friends bodies or touching on their chests or something to that nature.

[Carfreakjack]

I think in some cases including urs ppl can be affected

[Schizothemia]

I don't think previous childhood experiences contribute to ones development within their sexuality. I think there are a multitude of factors that go into it, from environment, past experiences and genetics.

If you are in an environment that nurtures an open lifestyle, you're more inclined to be able to express your true feelings, whatever they may be. However, in an environment where you are taught that being gay is "wrong" you are forced into suppressing it, and that leads in many disastrous results, from depression to suicide, to simply denying who you are.

Past experiences DO play a role in your sexual development, that is true. I was rape and molested from ages 6-12. Do I think it plays a part in my development as a homosexual? Yes and no. Yes because it became something I learned to like, no because if I didn't like it then there must be some part of my brain saying its a good thing.

This leads me to genetics. Being gay, or being bi is so much more than just physical attraction (albeit, that is a big part) its also about chemistry with others. I personally could not see myself with a girl, not only because I don't find them physically attractive, but I don't find them emotionally attractive either, and that comes from something psychological, and possibly genetic. This is exhibited in many mammals and is something I think is true. Is there a "gay" gene, I doubt it. There might just be a certain combination of factors within the genetic code that cause a hormonal change leading to you preferring men over women, or them both equally.

Just my 2 cents.

[Billy15]

a man did sexual stuff with me for 3 years until he moved away and that was the first stuff i learned so yes (heck yes) i think it has something to do with my sexual confusion.
im not sure if it makes some people gay but doesnt it makes sense that it would be a major influence.

[Aless1225]

a neighbor fooled around with me from when i was like 8 to about 11 in sexual stuff and he was a man and i seriously think that is why i am probably gay today. i mean doesnt it make sense when your first sexual experience was gay stuff that it would make some kind of impression on you during development years? I do understand what you are talking about and i do think thats true.

It makes sense

[DareDevil]

See, this is always an interesting debate and while the goal is usually to hit a black and white answer, I do believe it's somewhat gray. To present my black-and-white though, I believe you are more or less born with it, or perhaps some factors in how you interact with adults at your very youngest (imprinting on newborns) is what determines it.

Which makes things people usually blame like wearing your mother's clothes or (as in my case) asking for a Tea Party set for your 2nd birthday (don't judge ;) ) is actually a symptom of what's already happened, not something that's leading you toward it.

Can cases like Billy's (and I am sorry :( ) exist, where things that happened in childhood lead to his own disposition? I'd agree to an extent. But I'd still be inclined to believe you had some tendencies before those incidents. Of course, I don't know you personally, so I couldn't say for sure.

That's just my two cents.

-DD

[hiker1992]

Nature vs nurture is a timeless arguement, but when it comes down to one's sexuality, it's never a choice, and it's never something you can be "trained" to feel. For instance, homosexuality has always been present, even when homosexuality was practically illegal, or at the very least frowned upon to the point of one's banishment or something, regardless, people were still gay. It's a genetics thing. It has to do with the absence or abundance of chromosomes, so, even though early encounters like this would seem like they'd turn you gay, really all it's doing is bringing more attention to an aspect of yourself that you may not have found otherwise.