I love my best friend

[CrissCross]

Ok, so I really dont know how to start this but I'll guess I'll start from the beginning. Keep in mind, I am now Gay but was bisexual for the most part of this story. In 7th grade I had science class with this kid named John, and he sat in front of me in Science class. From day one we really hit it off and became good friends somewhere in the middle of December. A few nights before Christmas I slept over at his house. We slept on his little bed cuddling and I dont know why. For the next few months we continued this. He and i would hold eachother and sleep on eachother. We never talked about it. In about April of 2009 he told me he thought that he was also bi, only to deny it a few days later. But he would keep being cuddly with me. One night he and I were sleeping in his bed and he pulled me ontop of him when I was half asleep, only for him to begin humping me. I kissed him on the lips and we went to bed like that. Throughout the past year I have obsessed over this boy. He and I have bonded and shared. I would do anything for him and I wish I could tell him I loved him more than anyone in the world. I have tried many times, only for him to just not understand. I'm wondering if he has suppressed gay feelings and he's just scared? I just want to spend the rest of my life with him, I love him so much. :confused:

[Don3]

Well from what i can see he either really likes you and is scared or was/is confused about his sexuality....all i can say is don't pressure him just be his friend and whether he ends up gay, bi, or just curious be friends.

[thepieman]

As above, take it easy. Don't rush to tell him, make sure you are both comfortable with your sexuality. You don't want to lose a good friend because of it.

[XxHaViiK]

I've had a friend in the position. I have also been in the position of not understanding/being scared of my sexuality. Don't rush him into anything, because it (for me) can be something really hard to accept so just give him some space. Comfort him if you want, because that helped me when I received comfort and support from my close friends.

But it does sound like he likes you, but he's not sure about himself. If he makes moves in bed, then it's your choice to keep going with them or not. Just don't be pushy with him.

[itzyogrll]

Agreed with both above.

[CrissCross]

Thanks guys ;]

[daveywavey]

How does he not understand?

[OstrichAficionado]

Ok, so I really dont know how to start this but I'll guess I'll start from the beginning. Keep in mind, I am now Gay but was bisexual for the most part of this story. In 7th grade I had science class with this kid named John, and he sat in front of me in Science class. From day one we really hit it off and became good friends somewhere in the middle of December. A few nights before Christmas I slept over at his house. We slept on his little bed cuddling and I dont know why. For the next few months we continued this. He and i would hold eachother and sleep on eachother. We never talked about it. In about April of 2009 he told me he thought that he was also bi, only to deny it a few days later. But he would keep being cuddly with me. One night he and I were sleeping in his bed and he pulled me ontop of him when I was half asleep, only for him to begin humping me. I kissed him on the lips and we went to bed like that. Throughout the past year I have obsessed over this boy. He and I have bonded and shared. I would do anything for him and I wish I could tell him I loved him more than anyone in the world. I have tried many times, only for him to just not understand. I'm wondering if he has suppressed gay feelings and he's just scared? I just want to spend the rest of my life with him, I love him so much. :confused:

Something similar has happened to me, which ended badly. Ha..he was my best friend also, back then.
I agree with the posts above to not rush him, I guess that that was what I did that made it all go miserable.

Just continue what you're doing, he'll soon realize his own sexuality. Let him discover it for himself.

Good luck!

[Billy15]

I am probably the last person that should be giving advice because i am also so freaking confused but i totally agreed with what desmond said. where we live everyone is so homophobic and if i was your friend and liked you back i would be afraid to admit it or show it because i would be afraid it would get out and maybe he is the same way and just scared but in the bed lol it is private and hidden.

i just want you to know that reading your story though gives me hope and i am just happy for you that you are experiencing love. hope it all works out for you guys.

[darkiouz]

Well you say he pulled you on top of him.. and if you find it hard to tell him how much you love him.. Why not do the same back?

Talking to each other is a very hard step and sometimes its much easier to just act upon it. Dont go too over board, just give him a hint.. see if he likes and then you can go from there.

Hope it helps and everything works out well =)

[CrissCross]

Well...as i post this from my iPod..i told him i loved him. But he likes a girl. He accepts me and said he understood. But now he wants my help with the girl.FML

[OstrichAficionado]

He humps you one night and now he likes a girl, sigh :/

[darkiouz]

Help him out with the girl... no reason why he still cant do stuff with you.. Besides it might make him realise how much of a nice guy you are and then he would want to be with you even more..

:)

[Fruit_Tart.]

^^um thats seems bad to do. jus go and tell him how you feel about him. if he truely does like you he will understand and will be your bestie friend :). If he doesnt want it public, then you can secretly be dating and just be going to each others house. But dont make it to much of a big deal that he has to be with you if he doesnt truely love, loves guys. if he wants to go out with the girl, let him then go with the flow and just wait for the right moment ie: if he breaks up with his gf then you go and tell him that you love him and that you wouldnt do that to him. <<- i would do that :D. but thats just me. if you dont want to do this thats ok. just go do wat you think is best for you and him. :)