Bullying

[bestie_mate]

Well my story is not unusual.I'm 16 and in my whole life until now they call me a fag.Well I am a bisexual guy but I don't like to make fun with my being.I'm very sad about it.I always say that I don't have to listen to their words but I can't it's too hard.Is there anyone out there who can advise me?Please help I'm on the beginning of depression...:(

[Giles]

I know it's the most obvious thing anyone can say...
Just ignore them, does it really matter what they think. Just because they say something it doesn't mean you should get upset by it, if they have nothing better to do then I feel sorry for them.

[Aspiringanonymous]

The one year which I encountered bullying in its most direct, honest form, was also a time when I realized significantly the potential for goodness in others' hearts. Though few and far in-between, a few people really went out of their way to support me. They had nothing to gain from it, and I never knew their motives, but in retrospect, I honestly might not have survived if not for them.

Surround yourself with positive influences, with people who do respect you for who you are. While it may not be possible to tune out the hurtful comments, focusing too much on them will only intensify the damage. Divert your attention towards healthier alternatives.

[cole g]

thay arnt sucuer with them selfs and u problie intimad8 them cuz u r??? idk

[Art_dude]

I'm so glad I found your thread: I have personally suffered from bullying and harassment on a dangerous level. In fact one of the motives of my homeschooling was the emotional trauma that I suffered through. If you ever need to talk please feel free to PM me. I am specializing in the psychology of bullying trauma and it's recovery (I'm actually in the process of a memoir too) The word 'faggot' still makes me cringe to this day. It became a nickname for me in middleschool, used mercilessly in front of everyone.

There's nothing you can do to stop the pain of other peoples terrible words. "The tongue, like a knife, kills without drawing blood" as Buddha once said. However, through awakening compassion for yourself and others, you can learn to take each situation as a lesson in personal growth. After living in a mental state of hell from bullying for two years, I learned to look forward to bullying - I wanted to understand their motives, and the real emotion behind human anger: tender vulnerability. I began seeing each encounter as a study of the human psyche. As long as there was not physical danger, I began to enjoy evaluating and analyzing my demons. As for everyday things you can do to reduce the bullying to a minimum:

Stay away at all times when possible
Be in a group when bullies approach
Surround yourself with positive energy
Learn to take their words to use as fuel for compassion

I hope this helps. All the best. Namaste

[AncientCatastrophe]

Well if I we're you don't listen too them.......Just ignore them and then they will stop because they'll think that those words doesn't affect you.

[BenjiJoelCorrea]

is it normal to feel rejected by my own friends?

[Asylum]

try talking to parents or a counsler about it

[Aspiringanonymous]

is it normal to feel rejected by my own friends?
It is not an uncommon experience.

[Ballin2much]

im sorry, just my own opinion. if someone calls you a fag, just tell them only because they payed you. besides doing stuff like that, just ignore them, really, pretend that there not there. dont make eye contact, and hold stuff while there talking to you. just dont pay attentipon

[AddiEast]

as long as you have friends and people you can trust
even just ONE good friend is all u need
dont pay attention to those idiots thta say that to you
what do they matter to you?? and if it gets really bad to be scared to tell someone
trust me it works. my skool has a no bullying policey thats very serius those kids could get suspended and saying fag too is bad at my skool cuz its like sexual harassment

[theevilgood]

Okay, am I the only one here who thinks this? Okay then, here it goes...

Punch the little bastard in the face, and then take out his legs. You'll get in trouble, but if that's the cost of protecting your honor, then do it. If you beat the bully to a pulp, he's got like a 70 percent chance of never messing with you again.

Bullies pick on the people who they view as weak. A broken nose and an injured knee are a really good way to prove to him that you aren't.

Also, if your biggest problem is someone calling you a fag, please re-evaluate your situation. Being called a fag isn't bullying, it's teasing. Teasing can be friendly, and even when it's not, showing him you're not the pathetic little man he thinks you are also works just as well

[drewlink99]

Well my story is not unusual.I'm 16 and in my whole life until now they call me a fag.Well I am a bisexual guy but I don't like to make fun with my being.I'm very sad about it.I always say that I don't have to listen to their words but I can't it's too hard.Is there anyone out there who can advise me?Please help I'm on the beginning of depression...:(

I can understand what your going through, though now I'm not being made fun of, I was when I was in grade school, I was called similar names, and even teased for the way I used the bathroom.
But now, people don't seem to care, yea I'm gay and I am called a fag now and then, but I keep to myself and generally ignore it.
I know that people say to ignore words, but they do hurt, and the pain grows, but you need to find someone you can confide in, and who will not judge you, as I have found.
In the end, they are covering something up, or making themselves feel better, or even as far as to fit into a group. They do not matter, they never will, you just have to know that you are you, and you should never change to fit someone else. (that last one was unrelated but DO NOT change yourself because of their words)
I hope you feel better, and if it gets worse, tell a teacher, counselor, principal, parent, or parent of a trusted friend.

[woody92]

i agree with drewlink!

i think you need to find a trusty friend!
and i have had the same thing and now i have found a trusty friend (all be it on the NET) my friend is drewlink above and i KNOW i can tell him anything and he will help me...

U CAN PM ME!! anytime!!

[PonY]

I have a very long history of being bullied, if you need someone who feels/felt the way you do. I am here for you. Of course, you do not have to talk to me.


PonY