They dont understand, No one understands!!

[Amyxoxo]

Really, i was soposed to go and see a doctor on thursday but i bottled it because i was too scared to go. My mum is set on me doing this to myself because of my hormones. She is probally right but she thinks that i do it once a month....if you get what im saying. She thinks im fine the rest of the time.
I wish!!!!!

I cant remember the last time i woke up and didnt question me being alive.
I thought everything had stopped, i was so wrong.

Anyways....I had this talk to mum just now and she said that there is this'really nice lady' There and she was willing to talk to me. I could go and see her on my own, with my mum or i can even call her. Mum was telling her 'My story' and she said that she wouldnt do it with anyone else but she was willing to make an eception, probally because she felt sorry for me. Anyways....Mum was telling me what she asked and what she answered and basically it was a load of bull shit. She was like
'Do you fight at home?'
She was like...
No, well we bicker a little bit sometimes but appart from that....'

WTF, every single night! They scream and shout at each other. Dont sleep, cant sleep!
I just want everything to go away. Im dreading christmas everything is just so ....... Fake?

[Aspiringanonymous]

My parents never understood, or even chose to acknowledge my internal struggles. The truth is that some people will never 'get it', no matter how much one tries to convey their message, most likely due to stubbornness and an inability to consider matters from a point of view which may threaten their own beliefs. It is not your fault.

Accepting them for the way they are, would make experiences such as the above described less surprising and upsetting, to some extent. It is, however unfortunately, not going to improve actual circumstances. We cannot change the thoughts and actions of others, but we can find ways to adapt effectively to them.

[sarah newman]

Just keep on PMing me. It will all be ok. Did your mum do this behind your back. I fshe did then thats just harsh. Just PM me the rest xxx

[Darkness]

Of course they don't understand, they don't want to understand! It's "To painful" for them to understand. They try and pretend it's not as bad as it is. Pernent alway argue, but they don't think it's a "Big thing" because they "-Kiss-and-make-up-" and we don't see that. Maybe your mum lied maybe she gave her view of things. You need to see this woman, give her the full picture, you mother is in the dark, you're the one with the torch, you can shead some light on this, give this woman-a accurate view of the situation.

[chelsay13]

My parents didn't understand either. They said it was for attention. Which it wasn't. And my mom lied about that too! She said that I'm moody all the time, but we don't really fight. Which was a lie. It took 3 teachers, a councilor, and a therapist to make her realize that I was actually struggling.

I don't know if parents will ever understand. I think they don't really want to take in the fact that we hurt ourselves. I would rather my parents not understand than if they were to blame themselves all the time. Just saying.

pm me anytime if you want to talk.

[Amyxoxo]

Thank you, i know that they are finding this hard and that they dont want to understand. But if your daugter or son were harming themselves, you would want them to be helped by a professional. Well ok so that was a doctor who is sorta but not specified in this area. She dosnt want to get taken away from her. She thinks this will happen if i keep doing this....it wont will it??? x

[Darkness]

EDIT :Sorry, Read your post wrong. Thought it was about your mum being selfish, not about you being taken away from her.
No they won't take you away from her for hurting yourself, they'll only take you away if your mum isn't looking after you properly or if your in danger. /EDIT
Good luck, do you best not to cut, It's all we'll ever ask of you. :hug:

[goneghost]

my mum thinks the same thing so i asked a teacher in my school and she doesn't think you will get taken away from your mum if you keep hurting yourself unless something really bad happens or someone decides its in your best interest
stay strong x

(she could be wrong)

[Sapphire]

Your mum clearly knows that there is more to it because she is trying to get you help. And I think every parent wants to understand but they get scared, rather understandably may I add, and may see it as their fault that their son/daughter is doing this since a parents job is to protect their child(ren).

Yes, this was far from the best way for your mum to try to help you. But at least she is trying.
Continue going to see this woman and see how you can both work towards improving your life. She may not be a specialist in the area of self harm but that doesn't mean that she can't help you.

Also, it is well documented in my records that when I was 13/14 my parents, school and therapist didn't know whether they could keep me safe because of my self harming. Hospitalisation was being considered as the only way to ensure that I would be kept safe.
It does happen.

[Asylum]

ok 1... your mom is speaking to "the nice lady, i'm guessing is a counsler" about your problmsms. How is someone supposed to know your problems.. when thye are not going through them yourself. It's like saying what it was like fro your friend to be on the moon. It does't make sense, nor does it work. But the important thing is she is trying to help you. Maybe she saidthat about the fighting because she was afraid the lady would judge... maybe she doens't want people to know about the fighting... don't take it oo personally. My mother when she found out I self harmed she took a class to find out what it was... it never helped me, but it helped her deal with it. Maybe it's just your mother's way of handeling things. Dont' fret things will be better soon.