Where can I get a free abortion?

[Grinchilla]

1. I'M 16.
2. I LIVE IN THE US. IOWA.
3. PARENTS CAN'T NO.
4. I DON'T HAVE ACCESS TO TRASPORATION OR FRIENDS
5. IDK WHEN I GOT PREGNANT:(
6. I haven't been to the doctor since I was a baby.
7. i'm really scared and have no friends

PLEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEASE HELP.

oh, a nd can you get pregnant from anal sex? i'm not joking our sex ed teacher said you could. cuz i only had real sex (well, and some oral) with only one guy and i love him but i also was analed by someone

thanks i love you gusy

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Well, second question first because it's a shorter answer: No, you cannot get pregnant from anal sex. There is no way for sperm to get from the anus to the vagina, there aren't any pathways in there.

As far as an abortion, I would recommend finding a women's health clinic where they can confirm that you are pregnant. They can also give you lots of information about your options and should be able to provide you with info about the abortion laws in your state. Some states may allow abortions for those under 18 without consent from a parent or guardian, some will not. There is also the abortion pill, which doesn't involve the typical abortion procedure, but this is only for early pregnancies; you can't use it after its been 9 weeks since the first day of your last period.

Check out where your local Planned Parenthood or similar clinic is, and see if you can't get a ride to somewhere inconspicuous nearby. From there, you can walk over. Be sure to call first, see if you need to make an appointment for a pregnancy test/consultation. They can also help you get birth control, which I would seriously consider investing in after this. At the very least make sure to use a condom every time from now on, but being on the pill as well can add extra protection.

Why can't you tell your parents? Is it an embarrassment issue, or you're worried about being grounded for life/not being able to see your boyfriend? If they're not going to beat you or anything so serious, you may have to consider telling them. An abortion is a fairly serious medical procedure and they may need to know what's going on.

Have you told your boyfriend? You could probably use some support right now, and if he finds out later he may feel hurt that you never told him. Besides, a successful relationship is built on trust and involves good communication.
While it is your body and your decision about the abortion issue, he may have an opinion and you should listen to him. He can't decide for you, and you don't necessarily have to consider what he says if you don't like it, but he's allowed to have thoughts and feelings on the matter.

Hopefully that answers your questions.

[Grinchilla]

Thanks, hon
but he made it clear he hates abortion.
And my mother is christian.

i'm thinking of being a gyno when i'm older to help kids in my situation cuz i wouldn't be telling there parents.

[Rutherford The Brave]

There are no free abortions you can beg your parents if you are. If that doesnt work I suggest adoption.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

i'm thinking of being a gyno when i'm older to help kids in my situation cuz i wouldn't be telling there parents.

If the law in your state says that you have to tell their parents, you have to tell their parents. Should something go wrong or should there be any issues, you are then liable. That could even be something that you could get your license suspended or revoked over, potentially.

[Grinchilla]

it's dnageerous to give out your IM address to strangers and talk to strangers online, just saying but I don't care a nymore cuz I'm fat and ugly.

God I'm an idiot. idk why I'm even posting this here or ANYWHERE.

[Rutherford The Brave]

it's dnageerous to give out your IM address to strangers and talk to strangers online, just saying but I don't care a nymore cuz I'm fat and ugly.

God I'm an idiot. idk why I'm even posting this here or ANYWHERE.

Because you obviously need help.

[2D]

Well, second question first because it's a shorter answer: No, you cannot get pregnant from anal sex. There is no way for sperm to get from the anus to the vagina, there aren't any pathways in there.

Yah you can.

Just because there are no pathways in the body doesn't mean it can't happen. The anus and the vagina are close together and it's possible (though unlikely) for the sperm to ooze out of the anus and down onto and possibly in the vagina. It's unlikely, but not impossible.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

I suppose it's possible... just highly improbable, haha. xP

[Sapphire]

Your bf is in a completely different country to you and you go and have sex with someone else?

You two must have a fantastic relationship...

[IowaBoy]

You may be able to get help through your school (teen health clinic, etc...). Yes the adoption laws are hell here...but it may be best for you to tell your parents...you have to think of the child.

[Grinchilla]

i won't have to think of the child if i kill it before it's a child. duh.

[IowaBoy]

i won't have to think of the child if i kill it before it's a child. duh.

its your choice...not going to try and convert you into thinking adoration is wrong but there is more than likely no way your are going to be able to get a free one....besides even if you do you will have to tell your parents about it so that they sign the papers.

[Grinchilla]

If you think abortion is cold-blooded innocent baby murder why wouldn't you want to convert me? Sorry if I am wrong to interpret that you are at least leaning towards abortion being wrong.

Oh! And "Allows minor to obtain consent from other relatives as an alternative to parents’ consent. " is part of Iowa law. Yay. :D I'll just tell auntie.

[Rutherford The Brave]

If you think abortion is cold-blooded innocent baby murder why wouldn't you want to convert me? Sorry if I am wrong to interpret that you are at least leaning towards abortion being wrong.

Oh! And "Allows minor to obtain consent from other relatives as an alternative to parents’ consent. " is part of Iowa law. Yay. :D I'll just tell auntie.

I guess that's good, seeing as you do not seem to be mature enough to take care of a child.

[Grinchilla]

Oh, I'm for sure I'm mature enough. Isn't a 16-year old basically 18? I just think it's smarter to adopt children. Not put more into adoption.

I'm going to adopt at least 3 kids. I love them .

[Sapphire]

No, you are not mature enough to have children now.
And 16 year olds still have a lot of growing up to do before they become a mature adult.

[MysticalBurrito]

If you think abortion is cold-blooded innocent baby murder why wouldn't you want to convert me? Sorry if I am wrong to interpret that you are at least leaning towards abortion being wrong.

Oh! And "Allows minor to obtain consent from other relatives as an alternative to parents’ consent. " is part of Iowa law. Yay. :D I'll just tell auntie.
If you were "mature" enough to have sex, whomever it was with, your mature enough to suck up to the consequences, give birth to the baby, and hand it over to a loving family instead of ripping it's life away and it being sent to a garbage can as a burial. And if I'm right I think prisions [killers, rapists, ect] get better graves than a baby that has been aborted. suck up to your mistakes don't make the life instead of you pay for your stupid decisions.

[2D]

If you were "mature" enough to have sex, whomever it was with, your mature enough to suck up to the consequences, give birth to the baby, and hand it over to a loving family instead of ripping it's life away and it being sent to a garbage can as a burial. And if I'm right I think prisions [killers, rapists, ect] get better graves than a baby that has been aborted. suck up to your mistakes don't make the life instead of you pay for your stupid decisions.

Word.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

Ok, guys. This is not a debate over whether abortion is right or wrong. Leila merely asked for advice on how the abortion laws work in her state, and what her options are. Let's not let this turn into an argument because it's not necessary. If you don't agree with abortion, that's cool, but Leila didn't ask for moral advice.

If you wish to discuss the morality of abortion, there is an on-going discussion thread in Ramblings of the Wise.

[stlblues]

I believe that in most states, parental consent is required for an abortion to take place. Doctors that work at clinics that give abortions can lose their license if they 'overlook' the fact that you don't have parental consent, so don't expect them to do you any favors.

If you manage to get parental consent, then most inner-city hospitals have clinics that give free basic medical care (which may/may not include abortions.)

"shop around" by calling different hospitals and inquiring; if you're worried about your parents finding out, use a payphone.

[Jean Poutine]

Yah you can.

Just because there are no pathways in the body doesn't mean it can't happen. The anus and the vagina are close together and it's possible (though unlikely) for the sperm to ooze out of the anus and down onto and possibly in the vagina. It's unlikely, but not impossible.

Not to mention completely disgusting.

[2D]

Not to mention completely disgusting.

Word.

[Big-O]

I'm sorry if this is breaking the rules, but you should be ashamed of yourself. You made the decision to have sex, you should take responsibility for what you've done. You're going to kill your child. A innocent, helpless, defenseless child. I can't think of a worse crime. I'm not saying this due to my religion, as a matter of fact I'm not even religious. I'm saying it because it's murder. You are killing

[MysticalBurrito]

I'm sorry if this is breaking the rules, but you should be ashamed of yourself. You made the decision to have sex, you should take responsibility for what you've done. You're going to kill your child. A innocent, helpless, defenseless child. I can't think of a worse crime. I'm not saying this due to my religion, as a matter of fact I'm not even religious. I'm saying it because it's murder. You are killing

Agree completely with the above.

[Reflection.]

You could get somebody to hit you in the stomach.

What? It's free.

[TheKingDavis]

You could get somebody to hit you in the stomach.

What? It's free.

and your an idiot.

[Reflection.]

and your an idiot.

Excuse me but who do you think you are? It's called sarcasm, and I'm sorry if you don't get it because some people don't.

A 16 year old girl comes on here and asks where to get an abortion because she was too irresponsible to use a damn condom and now shes crying and not taking responsibilty for her actions.

You want a real answer? Fine, go to a damn abortion clinic. Have fun murdering your child.

[The Batman]

Everyone needs to calm down this is not a debate on whether or not abortion is right and seeing as the OP hasn't posted in a month I'm going to lock this to prevent any more problems if the OP wants it opened she can pm me. :locked: