Going Further With My Girlfriend

[JasonClark]

Ok, so tonight Me, my girlfriend, and probably some other people (some of my mates, some of hers) are staying over at a mates house. Chances are there will be alcohol, but I (and most probably my girlfriend) probably wont be drinking. We've been going out for a couple of months now and have gotten pretty close. I want to get closer to her, and maybe pleasure her; but I don't want sex yet. She is pretty timid most of the time, but she certainly isn't "prude." This is my first time, so I have a few Questions:

How do I initiate it without coming on TOO strong at first, or making her feel like she HAS to?

How do i actually GO ABOUT doing it?
And,
How do I act if she doesn't want to/what do I say? - If she doesnt, thats fine; I would NEVER try and make her do something, but hwat do I do to ensure she knows I wouldn't force her?

cheers in advance.

[nick]

We're not allowed to go into techniques so cant really tell you what to do, but to be honest it comes pretty naturally so I wouldnt worry too much about that. Just start with a kiss and a cuddle and see how things go.

[JasonClark]

ah ok, oh well.

Thanks :)

[XxHaViiK]

Yeah, I agree with Nick. Just go with some kissing and cuddling and it may or may not happen. That's how I first had sex, just made out and cuddled for an hour, and things progressed slowly that night.

[JasonClark]

cool, thanks guys I'm a bit more confident now :) hopefully tonight will be good

[Gumleaf]

moving: teen sexuality >>> relationships & dating

[Art_dude]

Good luck tonight! I hope this isn't too late, but maybe someone else will se it and it will come in handy :)

It's rather difficult (like you said) to advance sexually in a relationship without coming across as pressuring. Just start soft kissing, making out, cuddling and see where it goes. If worse comes to worse, just talk about it. Something along the line of, "where do we stand and where do we see ourselves going (sexually) that is." It opens up a dialogue in judgement free zone. Stress that you're not interested in pressuring her, and she should be willing to talk. Hope that helps :) Have fun tonight you lucky bastard :P

[hazza95]

i am also thinking about going further but how do i do it

[nick]

i am also thinking about going further but how do i do it
Same answers as before, we're not allowed to give instructions here and its far more fun to learn for yourself!