Can i trust him?

[kaz009]

hello (:
well basicly late last year i was with a guy which cheated on me with my bestfriend...and i got really badly into drugs,alcohol,self harm and depression.
My other bestfriend was really supportive and gave me advice and made me see sense.... now its a year on and im now in a relationship with the one who gave me advice. its been 3 and a half months, im a virgin and thinking of sleeping with my boyfriend soon... but i can trust him with everything but i still have dout in my mind because of my last relationship. what do you think i should do?

[Contra]

If you do love your current boyfriend, you will get over the relationship that went wrong. Not every relationship you were, are and will be in, will be bad...
Good luck. :)

[Gumleaf]

although a bad experience in any life scenario is a turnoff, you need to pick yourself up and move on. it sounds like your boyfriend has already helped you with that a lot. whether you are ready or not for sex is only something you can answer, but what i want to say is that you shouldn't paint everyone in the same colour, despite the bad memories you have and what happened in the past. not everyone is the same, being happy is possible, you just have to have the confidence to say that you will stand up and look to the future in front of you, a guy who cares about you a lot, and not on what happened in the past. if you leave that as a barrier, being happy in the future will be really hard.

[Misty.]

if u actualy love ur bf...and u feel the chemistry then go for it(be carefull though :) )
and about the trust part...if their is love...and there is trust then only go for the whole thing else its useless...and its not necesssary that becoz ur ex cheated on u..every other guy u meet and might date will cheat on u..just choose the right person get to them..then hop in for the big decisions in life(having sex is one such big issue)

[Archer600]

Generaly I find that if u don't feel comfortable with a situation then u don't need to go through with it anyway. But also because one guy was a total dick doesn't mean that this guy is too just hink it over u will find the right answer

[CrashingWaves]

I think three and a half months is a bit too soon especially with what you've been through but, it is your life and if love him and trust him fullheartedly than, if you want, go ahead. Although if you have any qualms than don't do it. You probably know this hit don't push the other person into anything.

[cherry_boi]

ur doubt will go away with time, as you have more positive experiences with him you will learn to place trust in him

it may not be a good idea to become sexually active with someone you are not 100% stable with, by stable i mean secure, trusting, comfortable, w/e u wanna call it

sex brings in a whole new aspect to a relationship and if both of you are not in a secure place it can ruin it

best of luck

[cherry_boi]

damn double posts, need to b able to delete -.-

[kaz009]

Thanks everyone (:
Yes me and my boyfriend are very very close.
we have decided to weight, and when it happens it happens no plans.
everything seems to be great no douts and i trust him more than ever :)
thanks for your advice everyone it really does help :) xxx