Relationship trouble.

[Azzah]

Never thought I would be here doing this, I assure you :)

well, the basics. my girlfriend and I met on a school trip about 7 months ago, got on well and then 6 months ago today, we started going out. we live a few miles apart, and we dont go to the same school. also, i am 15, she is 14. dont get me wrong, it has been a very good relationship, and i actually thought it would continue..

but the last few days i have noticed just no activity. it is hard to explain, it is almost boredom, but.. i dont know why it has came now. perhaps just mentality has kicked in?

now, i know what i want to do first. i know i am not a jerk, and you can call me big headed but i know i am not, as i treat girls very very nicely and don't mess them about. i have treated my girlfriend with respect and honesty since day one, and just a few weeks ago i wrote an essay for her telling her what i thought of her, that i know she isnt the prettiest girl out there but i dont care etc.

now, yeah. i know i want to take it up with her that things are getting a little bit boring. she knows that my life is boring at the moment, but she doesnt know the reasons. i hope that when i tell her everything is, including our relationship, it sparks some discussion on what can be done.

now i am split on whether actually wanting to break up with her or not. the reasons i dont want to are simple; love is there and she's a great girl.

but boredom ish ness. and i find it hard to finish with her, as she has bought most of my christmas presents ALREADY, and i get on well with a lot of her friends and family, and her mother may be working at my school.

i understand that if we mutually agree on splitting apart, things would be much better. that way, no hard feelings, but i dont think that opportunity will come around.

not exactly good timing either with gcse mocks and shownights coming up.

anyway, thoughts? thank you so much.

[The Harlequin]

Worst thing to ever do ever would be to go in and basically say to her "Hi! I'm bored of you, what do you think?" because no matter how you put it, any girl would summise that and get very upset... Not what you want to do. At all.

I know you want to be honest with her (which is very good and incredibly rare these days) but there is a difference between honesty and a cold bluntness, you might mean the former but come across as the other one.

Still, there are ways to tackle this: it may be that you've just hit a low point in your relationship (it can't stay awesome ALL the time) and in my opinion I'd wait it out a little longer to see what the actual cause of your bordem may be, you know it's more than likely the exam period is what's actually getting you so bummed out at the moment, mate ~ I know how it feels, last year weren't pretty (X^.

If it actually isn't your exams that's doing it maybe you guys just need a change of scene, if all you're doing is going to the same house every weekend that really is not good. Do something together! Go somewhere interesting,

But more important than all of that is for you to work out how you feel towards her. The best way I find to test this is to imagine how you'd feel if she suddenly told you she didn't love you and it was you that was the problem, imagine how you'd feel without her being so close to you. If you find release then you really ought to break up, if you find yourself depressed then there's your answer, it'll help you put things into perspective.

Go out with her for the right reasons too, imagine the loss of HER, not presents or her kind parents, just take your relationship with her into account.

[Misty.]

Seriously its the worst thing to do...saying i m bored of u..
Point is u could talk to her..that see i think the things are getting a little boring n stuff..why not do things more together...
not just the mushy things..but fun things...then may be ur intrest will start yet again :) what say??

[Shogun]

^ What she said... Lol

[Azzah]

Yeah I understand Harlequin. That's what I tried to do last night before going to sleep. I thought, would I miss her? I know I would, but I also asked if she were to finish with me right now, I wouldn't be as bad as I was. So I think just her attraction is wearing off and she's seeming to be just another girl.

To the others, I don't mean that I am bored with her, I just feel things have gotten to a standstill and I need change :)

[uihwljtkegr]

How often do you see each other? With her living a few miles away, do you see each other often, or is the communication mainly via the internet/phone/text? Try seeing each other more often, and just doing things together.

If things are really bad try sitting down with her and talking to her about it, although be careful with your words; Whatever you do, don't say your finding her company boring!

Good luck!

[Misty.]

Yeah I understand Harlequin. That's what I tried to do last night before going to sleep. I thought, would I miss her? I know I would, but I also asked if she were to finish with me right now, I wouldn't be as bad as I was. So I think just her attraction is wearing off and she's seeming to be just another girl.

To the others, I don't mean that I am bored with her, I just feel things have gotten to a standstill and I need change :)

hmm...i guess then its better to get it over with...then to repent...later on when she gets more serious over the time.. :| ..
but dude..plz try and be good..and tell her some solid reason so that it helps her in moving on..all the best.. :)