Homophobic Parents....?

[ErykaInspire.]

I've been questioning my sexuality since June 20th. I had sex with my best friend, who's a girl. Ever since then, I've been thinking about girls a lot. I have a very serious boyfriend, that I "officially" lost my virginity with and I love him.
Now.. I LIKE girls, but I can't see me ever DATING one..

Last night.. I went to my Besties house (not the one I sexed.) and her other best friend was here. Well... we all made out with eachother... :/

I want to tell my parents that i'm Bicurious but they think that the same-sex affection is discusting.. and I know they won't accept me.
Plus...... I feel so guilty): I gotta tell my boyfriend.. which I'm in the process of doing right now.
I feel like I could lose everything :/
I know if I tell my parents.. they'd NEVER let me go to a girl friends/have a girl friend over ever again..

What do I do...? I hate being in the dark :/

[Aves]

Geez, Eryka. Do I always need to give you advice? :P
Well, I say you start with telling Dale. I'm sure he'll still love you just as much. He might be a little mad/upset, but it's better than keeping secrets from him.
As for your parents, like always, I don't know what to say. You could tell them different ways, and maybe one will get a lighter response. My parents are homophobic too, but I haven't had to worry about telling them, since I've never had any feelings for a guy. If you really want to tell them, I say you do, and just hope for the best response.

[ErykaInspire.]

I told Dale.. he hasn't really replied :/ He was just "Oh...."
So.. idk.. v.v;
Notice how I always fuck something up? Ughhh.


And as for my parents..... It's just not that easy..

[dead]

Personally if My parents were homophobic I would tell them once I move out.

[ShatteredWings]

Personally if My parents were homophobic I would tell them once I move out.
that's my plan...

[nick]

Eryka, I mean this kindly, but you seem to play around with people which is not fair. Only the other day you were telling us all how you'd lost your virginity to a guy, who you seemed to be saying you loved, and now you're saying you want to play around with girls. If you really want to just play the field and take pleasure as it comes then fair enough, but if you want to build and maintain a relationship then you have to take a bit more responsibility and stop cheating on people.

Sorry if those are harsh words, offered with love,

Nick

[ErykaInspire.]

Nick.. that did hurt. More than you know.
If you read the whole thing.. you'd see how guilty I already feel.
The girls just wanted to do it for fun, and idk wtf I was thinking. I wasn't playing them.
This morning was as if it never happened, there's no feelings attached.

I already talked to my boyfriend, we're ok. I explained it to him, he said it's ok. As long as I don't have feelings that could break him and i up. Which I don't.

I'm taking as much responsibility as I can....and when I make a mistake, I know how to talk it out.

I'm not a "player", Nick.

I understand that i've made a mistake, and I'm grasping that consept with every angle.

I'm sorry that I appear to be a heartless skank.
I'm the exact opposite.

[nick]

Well hopefully you will accept that I would never set out just to hurt and I'm really glad to hear that its still ok with your boyfriend.

[ErykaInspire.]

Yeah...

[tyler27846]

i know how you feel my parents would probably act the same way pm me if you ever need to talk

[Sceneboy612]

I think you should be certian of what your sexuality is before you tell your parents. Telling your boyfriend could backfire on you, but if he truly loves you, he might be hurt, but he will come back.

But if you tell your parents that you dont know you sexuality, they might think you are looking for attention, But if you tell them you are bi, or a lesbian, they wont think you are looking for attention, and that you have just made a decision.

I hope i explained it good, i didnt really know how to write it

[ErykaInspire.]

I already did tell my boyfriend. We're okay.

And you're right. I mean... I know I like both genders, but idk if i'm actually BISEXUAL. Aka, making me bicurious. But.. idk.
I appreciate it.

And as for telling my parents.. I'm just going to get over it and tell them one of these days. If they can't accept me then they're just going back on their own words. "A parents love is unconditional. I support you in everything you do."

[Stewart]

A.) You are not bisexual. You do not want to date a girl.

B.) I think you may be one of those girls that is doing this to rebel against their parents.

I feel like you are making up a big lie.

I wouldn't go making up stories. Just because you experiment, doesn't make you bisexual.

Sorry if it sounds harsh, just my observations

[ErykaInspire.]

Hahahaha, Wow. Shows how much you know about me. Don't jump to conclusions.
I'm not making up anything.
I'm not rebelling against my parents, seeing as i'm trying to figure out a way to tell them.
I did NOT say I was bisexual. I said biCURIOUS. Thank you. and a lot of girls I know are like that. They're attracted to girls but they arn't comfortable enough to date anyone.
I'm sure once my parents get used to the idea, i'd feel more comfortable because atm i'm worried about them finding out through my friends.

I'm not trying to get attention. I just asked a simple question. If you're just going to sit there and bash me with YOUR theories, then take them elsewhere, I'm not interested.

[theOperaGhost]

I personally don't think you're bi. I think you just had sex with a girl. It might happen again, but I don't think you will continue having (or wanting) sex with females for the rest of your life. It's simply experimentation.

As for telling your parents? Why...my parents don't know I've had heterosexual sex...I think they'll figure it out when I have a child (which hopefully won't happen for another 5 years at least). If you get in a relationship with a girl (which I don't foresee happening), you will have to tell them, but otherwise, why?

[Bougainvillea]

I feel like you are making up a big lie.

Yeah, I was texting her at the time. So, keep your "observations" to yourself.

Eryka, I think maybe once you feel you're ready, to tell them. I suggest when they're together in their bedroom. That's where I ALWAYS tell my mom something.
;)

You'll be fine.