Guy/Gay problem

[OstrichAficionado]

Ok, back in the 6th grade I was best friends with this guy from school. I developed feelings for him and I professed my love for him in a game that we were playing back then. He said that he loved me too. Everyday in school, we would whisper to each other's ears "I love you". At night, we would talk to each other through the phone to say romantic things to each other. For the whole school year this happened and I was happy. I never thought about asking him if he was gay, like me. He also didn't ask me about my sexual orientation. When there would be some parties that include sleepovers, we would sleep beside each other and cuddle (in which I felt that he had a boner once). My other friends don't see this as weird and gay, just joking about it playfully. When summer vacation came, I went away with my family. We still talked through the internet but when I came back, it seems that he had just forgotten everything that has happened between us. He began teasing me that I was gay so I just stayed away from him(I wasn't ready to go out of the closet yet). When I was in my 2nd year of high school, he began talking to me again. He didn't want to talk about what happened in the past. We began hanging out again and he asked me to go to his house. We gave each other blowjobs back then and he was proposing to have anal sex, in which I refused. We had an argument about me being jealous about this girl that he liked and I told him that I love him. He got mad and he outed me to his friends. We haven't talked to each other ever since.

Now I'm in 3rd year high school. I'm in the same class as him. At first, I still stayed away. He talks to me sometimes, most of the time indirectly. He has a new female love interest. Now i'm developing god damn feelings for him again. I need advice on this. After reading the stuff above, the questions that i'd like to ask are:

1. Is he gay? Is he bi?
2. If he is, what should i do?

I really need help on this one, it's killing me. Btw i'm 15 and still in the closet.
To those that answer this post, thank you very much.

[TheKingDavis]

1. imo he was bi curious back then, he could have grown out of it (hormones can make you do weird things)

2. let the past be

[Sceneboy612]

You cant go back to him... Do you see how he has hurt you. He let out your biggest secret to His friends... who told their friends. No matter what your past is, no matter how good it felt to be with him... you cant take back the fact that he outed you when you told him you loved him. You cant guess his real sexuality, but even if he is bi or gay, is it worth the pain of going out with him?

[thepieman]

I know how you feel, but you've just got to let him go. The same thing happened to me, except this guy actually was bi (which made it worse). Just forget about him, he hurt you really bad and you've just got to try to forget about him. It's hard, but you're going to have to try - you don't want to be hurt again.

[OstrichAficionado]

Alright, thanks everyone for the advice.

I know how you feel, but you've just got to let him go. The same thing happened to me, except this guy actually was bi (which made it worse). Just forget about him, he hurt you really bad and you've just got to try to forget about him. It's hard, but you're going to have to try - you don't want to be hurt again.

Yeah it is hard, I've been trying so hard already for the past 4 years. Its just that whenever I see him..sigh

[The Harlequin]

Alright, thanks everyone for the advice.



Yeah it is hard, I've been trying so hard already for the past 4 years. Its just that whenever I see him..sigh

As cliché as it sounds, there will be other guys, and ones who will treat you better than this one... Sure it's hard to see now, but it tends to really help if you can meet new people, when you do you'll be able to put this all into perspective. And who knows? Maybe someday: 

hope this helps,