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anonymousdetective

November 27th, 2009, 01:34 AM

Sammi13

November 27th, 2009, 02:53 AM

Well, first of all I would think about the fact that he's been your boyfriend for 3 days. Just chill out, 3 days is nothing. And if you want to keep him you need to be supportive and let him know your ok with it or you two won't last at all.

nick

November 27th, 2009, 03:52 AM

Well after 3 days it may be just a little soon to be thinking about him as a marriage prospect. If you get to that stage then talk to him about it. There is no more excuse for a bi guy to be unfaithful to his wife than there is for a straight guy - its just the same thing.

meygan

November 27th, 2009, 04:05 AM

3 days isnt a lot to judge whether you actually like this guy or not, and just cause hes bi doesnt make it different from going out with a straight guy who "wants more".

Sugaree

November 27th, 2009, 04:27 AM

Don't worry about it! He won't go around and cheat if you two were married. If he truly loves you, he wouldn't do it. You've only been a couple for a few days, and it's early for him to decide that he wants marriage. That's a big thing to decide upon. If he does come to the point of wanting to talk about it, then let him and put your opinions in.

Kale

November 27th, 2009, 05:40 PM

my boyfriend of 3 days is more bisexual than yours is.

yeah, 3 days and you're fretting about your boyfriends pretend fantasy to suck cock? okay, hf. not gonna last much longer, lol.

crash007

December 3rd, 2009, 05:30 AM

I agree with Kale(+rep). if you are already keeping tabs on your bf whom you have been dating for a whopping 3 days, this relationship will come to and end pretty hastily and you need not worry about marriage. Plus, I just got done reading ur bfs thread before I came across this one and he was curious. He's not saying "i'm going to make out with guys behind my gf's back" he was curious and getting an answer to his question. Also, you probably shouldn't confront him about the bi thing unless you are pretty comfortable your 3 day relationship can still last after you confront him with one of his secrets which he asked on this website so he wouldn't have to ask you or his friends. I'd say give it time before you think of confronting him because he may just be confused about his sexuality.

Hoping for four,

Crash

Sapphire

December 3rd, 2009, 06:57 AM

Considering his sexuality as a reason for him not being faithful to you in the future is not only wrong, it's disgusting.

Lily of the Valley

December 3rd, 2009, 02:33 PM

Dude, if my boyfriend were bi, I'd be ecstatic. THREESOME, BBY. ;D

~Maggot

Sapphire

December 3rd, 2009, 02:51 PM

I've just seen the thread your bf created and all I can say is that I very sincerely hope that he sees this!

You've invaded his privacy by digging up a thread from over a month ago and have the nerve to relate it to your relationship with him now that has now been ongoing for a maximum of 9 days!
If you two had been an item when he wrote it, then I could understand your concern. But you weren't.

You are evidently not mature enough to be in a relationship atm, let alone to be worrying about what it would be like to be married to him.

sebbie

December 4th, 2009, 12:53 AM

hey,
i just found out by mistake (from this site) that my boyfriend of 3 days is bisexual.
i love him and all, but i found out disturbing stuff. what do i do??
this thread he posted said that he wants to settle down and get married, but that "wouldnt be enough" for him. and he was wondering if bi guys make out with males behind their wives backs.
i'm scared.
please help.

Relationships are built on trust, if you do not have that between you, you are not going anywhere.

If you are in a relationship with someone, you should not be cheating with anyone, regardless of sexuality.

You've invaded his privacy by digging up a thread from over a month ago and have the nerve to relate it to your relationship with him now that has now been ongoing for a maximum of 9 days!
If you two had been an item when he wrote it, then I could understand your concern. But you weren't.

You are evidently not mature enough to be in a relationship atm, let alone to be worrying about what it would be like to be married to him.

The original poster did not invade his privacy, he posted on public message board and she said that she came across it by accident.

I think that the past does have implications on the future. For example if you are in a relationship and they have been unfaithful in the past, you would not simply disregard that.

My advice to the original poster, what happens between you will all come down to how much you trust each other. If you trust that he will be faithful, then pursue it, if not then you need to have a think through.

Sapphire

December 4th, 2009, 07:24 AM

The original poster did not invade his privacy, he posted on public message board and she said that she came across it by accident.

I think that the past does have implications on the future. For example if you are in a relationship and they have been unfaithful in the past, you would not simply disregard that.You don't just accidentally stumble across a post your new boyfriend/girlfriend posted a month before you got together. And the OP shouldn't get all wound up about it because it was before they got together and he hasn't (as far as any of us know) been unfaithful before. His post was not in relation to the near future, but rather the distant future and he gave no indication of actually considering being unfaithful. His sexuality is definitely not grounds to assume that he would cheat either.

My advice to the original poster, what happens between you will all come down to how much you trust each other. If you trust that he will be faithful, then pursue it, if not then you need to have a think through.
She has to realise, in addition to that, that if she doesn't trust him then it says infinitely more about her than it does about him or his sexuality.

Misty.

December 6th, 2009, 02:10 PM

i wont judge u...about keeping tabs on ur bf..but ya..definately u should know about his sexual preferances..and if u r to in due run get serious over him..this is actualy an issue..[i know many of my friend at VT are going to disagree on it..but i m trying to see it as the op in question is seeing it]
its better to be open about it..as in this case u know..and are disturbed about the fact..so why dont u just tell him...u read it and stuff..and was kinda freaking over it..may be he'll make it clear for u..

TAC1

December 7th, 2009, 10:10 PM

AllThatIsLeft

December 7th, 2009, 10:38 PM

Okay.
First thing. Keeping tabs, stalking your boyfriend's past, and judging it. It's a filthy thing to do.

and posting this, gosh, any more insecure?

Relationships are about trust, communication, and respect!
Right now you have done neither of those.
You are obviously, unprepared, and not ready for a relatioship.
and If you doubt your partner, can't talk about it with your partner, and not respect his privacy, sweetie after three days or however long now, this is only going down hill.

The truth isn't pretty.
and you by posting this are more at fault then him simply being bisexual.

Sexual orientation has nothing to do with faithfulness.
He was merely curious for the FUTURE. He's is fifteen, and i can assure you, you won't be said wife.

diamond jetstream

December 13th, 2009, 12:00 AM

i agree with lilly of the valley THREESOME BBY XD

allsoulsareblack

December 13th, 2009, 07:34 PM

my boyfriend is bi simpe fact of the matter is bi people go for one sex more than the other my bf wants a kid which im happy bout cus personly im gay and want a kid but dont want sex wiv a woman

SnowWolf

December 13th, 2009, 08:34 PM

dont wrry bout it!!!! So what he tells u hes bi....thats like telling you hes straight! it doesnt matter. Your only worried b/c u think that he may cheat on you with a guy. Trust me, he wont (past experiences)!!!!!
Look, evry girl or guy is worried that their partner is going to cheat on them, so why does it matter if hes bi or straight? If he tells you what he is, that means he trust you enough and beleives you will support him. Personally i give props to him...its better telling you now then later on when you guys are serious!!
So, chill...its ok.:)

anonymousdetective

December 14th, 2009, 12:31 AM

well he's not only my boyfriend, but he has also been a close friend of mine for a year.
now, i'm not even sure if he is bi. he told me he didn't write that post, even though it said his name and email address, but i guess...i'll just have to trust him. i know he wouldn't cheat on me...i suppose i just freaked out in the moment, and didn't stop to think about who he really is.
thanks for your help.

kaz009

December 14th, 2009, 04:04 PM

Don't worry hunny!
my boyfriend is bi too. but now we've been together for a while hes seemed to go off the whole 'guy' thing. and if you too really liked each other so much he would do the same and just like you :D
just talk to him about it, i did with my bf, its fine serious (:
good luck ! x

vic203140

December 18th, 2009, 04:24 AM

Hey im bi so what if he is at least he told u doesnt mean hes going to cheat on u maybe u will get 2 4 1

Sapphire

December 18th, 2009, 08:13 AM

Personally, as a bisexual, I find it horrible that people are going on about the OP and her boyfriend having threesomes simply because of his sexuality.

They can, but that's not to say that it is even slightly recommended. Especially considering the lack of trust already in this particular relationship.

anonymousdetective

December 22nd, 2009, 08:05 PM

Hey im bi so what if he is at least he told u doesnt mean hes going to cheat on u maybe u will get 2 4 1

Um, he didn't tell me. I found out by mistake, but he might not even be bi. Hard to explain.

OrionX

December 22nd, 2009, 11:42 PM

gonna keep it simple... if he loves you, there is nothing to worry about ;)

BiBoy13

January 23rd, 2010, 07:22 AM

I'm bi and I told my girlfriend (who I've been with for 5 months now) after we'd been together about a week. She took it well and if anything has made our relationship better as she is one of the very few people I've told (and we can talk about hot lads). Im sure he wont cheat on you or anything and if he did then he isnt worth your time. (sorry if none of this has helped)