Ortizitthisone
November 25th, 2009, 02:51 AM
I have an ex-girlfriend. Because of how things ended between us, I don't speak to her very often. But several days ago, she started talking to me, and I decided it couldn't hurt to start talking to her again.
She started telling me about her relationship with her current boyfriend. She said that he had been emotionally abusive throughout their entire relationship. I've known her boyfriend for several years, and I don't trust him any further than I could throw him. And I told her that, but she doesn't listen.
Anyway, she decided that she got sick and tired of the abuse, and she broke up with him (and this was when she started talking to me). The following week, he showed up at her dorm unannounced (he doesn't go to the same school), and started screaming at her. He never got physical, and he left after a few minutes.
The following day, he called her from a bridge, and told her he was going to jump unless he took her back. In order to get him down, she told him she would. She then called campus police at his school. They picked him up and held him for evaluation. They released him later that night, and he tried to kill himself by taking a whole bottle of Tylenol. He called my ex afterward, and told her what he was doing. She convinced him to go to the hospital that night, and he did.
The next day, he told her that the doctors said his liver would probably fail within a few days. Naturally, my ex was devastated about that, but I convinced her to talk to his parents before getting too upset, because she still didn't know whether or not it was true. She called his parents, and they told her that it was a lie, and that he did take some pills, but he was going to be fine.
At this point, red flags were going up for me like crazy. She needs to get a restraining order on this guy. While he never got physical when they were dating, I don't want the first time to be the last, if you know what I mean. He is obviously at his breaking point, and he's proving time and time again how desperate he is.
She needs to not talk to him. That's obvious. Every time I tell her that, she either stops texting or tries to change the subject. Because of that, I think she's still talking to him. I am worried about her physical safety, and I can't go 10 minutes without thinking and worrying about her. I am so scared that he's going to do something to hurt her, or maybe even worse than that. He has a lot of violence in his past, and that scares me a lot. Even though this girl hurt me bad, I still would never wish any harm to come to her. She always told me (and still does) that I'm the best friend she's ever had, but I can't seem to get through to her.
How do I get her to see that this guy is extremely dangerous? What can I do? Help!
--Jim
She started telling me about her relationship with her current boyfriend. She said that he had been emotionally abusive throughout their entire relationship. I've known her boyfriend for several years, and I don't trust him any further than I could throw him. And I told her that, but she doesn't listen.
Anyway, she decided that she got sick and tired of the abuse, and she broke up with him (and this was when she started talking to me). The following week, he showed up at her dorm unannounced (he doesn't go to the same school), and started screaming at her. He never got physical, and he left after a few minutes.
The following day, he called her from a bridge, and told her he was going to jump unless he took her back. In order to get him down, she told him she would. She then called campus police at his school. They picked him up and held him for evaluation. They released him later that night, and he tried to kill himself by taking a whole bottle of Tylenol. He called my ex afterward, and told her what he was doing. She convinced him to go to the hospital that night, and he did.
The next day, he told her that the doctors said his liver would probably fail within a few days. Naturally, my ex was devastated about that, but I convinced her to talk to his parents before getting too upset, because she still didn't know whether or not it was true. She called his parents, and they told her that it was a lie, and that he did take some pills, but he was going to be fine.
At this point, red flags were going up for me like crazy. She needs to get a restraining order on this guy. While he never got physical when they were dating, I don't want the first time to be the last, if you know what I mean. He is obviously at his breaking point, and he's proving time and time again how desperate he is.
She needs to not talk to him. That's obvious. Every time I tell her that, she either stops texting or tries to change the subject. Because of that, I think she's still talking to him. I am worried about her physical safety, and I can't go 10 minutes without thinking and worrying about her. I am so scared that he's going to do something to hurt her, or maybe even worse than that. He has a lot of violence in his past, and that scares me a lot. Even though this girl hurt me bad, I still would never wish any harm to come to her. She always told me (and still does) that I'm the best friend she's ever had, but I can't seem to get through to her.
How do I get her to see that this guy is extremely dangerous? What can I do? Help!
--Jim